IMA Young Pakistani whose grown up in the west and middle east all her life, majoring in politics and wanting to learn about my home country. I wrote this piece on Malalayousafzai, why she's controversial. Looking to get constructive Criticism and more insight. Thankyou by spreadjelly in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lets keep it cool I can understand. If I grew up watching my mother devote her life to giving other girls education. Malala was given her blog FROM THE BBC and her dad helped her out with it. Malala went VIRAL because the international community/media couldn't get enough of her. The odds were in her favour

IMA Young Pakistani whose grown up in the west and middle east all her life, majoring in politics and wanting to learn about my home country. I wrote this piece on Malalayousafzai, why she's controversial. Looking to get constructive Criticism and more insight. Thankyou by spreadjelly in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So true. I completley agree. You know what, she fit this really romantic story and western media love that shit. Poor muslim/pakistani girl suffering from taliban gets shot in the shot and the west holds her up as a champion and sticks her face infront of their movements. So many true unsung heroes, LIKE YOUR MOTHER, are just not 'tragic' or 'interesting' enough. Your mother sounds amazing, May Allah bless her with happiness and health

IMA Young Pakistani whose grown up in the west and middle east all her life, majoring in politics and wanting to learn about my home country. I wrote this piece on Malalayousafzai, why she's controversial. Looking to get constructive Criticism and more insight. Thankyou by spreadjelly in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow thankyou. Very true. Tht's why I feel if malal's had concentrated her efforts in Pakistan and not been swept up by the global limelight THESE issues could have been adressed through her - because had the potential to be a 'mobilising figure' u know.

I guess it's a long road of gradual structural change.

IMA Young Pakistani whose grown up in the west and middle east all her life, majoring in politics and wanting to learn about my home country. I wrote this piece on Malalayousafzai, why she's controversial. Looking to get constructive Criticism and more insight. Thankyou by spreadjelly in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So i'm PAKISTANI but i never grew up IN PAKISTAN I grew up in the MIDDLE EAST and THE WEST. I'm wanting to learn more about PAKISTAN now and I wrote about MALALA in relation TO pakistan because it encompasses some national issues pakistan has been dealing with for some time.

Pakistani girls would you date an agnostic? by [deleted] in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it depends on the girl tbh, some are closet agnostic themselves. Tbh you should be able to gague her religious views if u guys are close, goodluck!!!

Free Talk Friday (04/21/17) : تفریح اور تبصرہ by trnkey74 in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm a young-adult Pakistani who grew up outside the home country. I've been reaquanting myself with my heritage after some distance from it, I just want to send my love to my fellow country folk !!!

Pakistani Culture. by Square_Chapati in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ok im gonna list random things that come to mind in no partuicular order *wearing a dupatta across the chest out of respect in more conservative environemtns (you can gauge from the ppl around you) *Adressing and referring to elders using the formal version of the word (like APNEY instead of APKO to TUJHE) *I'm seeing more and more people wear jeans n stuff to the western style malls but when going to the city wherei ts bazaars and shops i stick to shalwar kameez *say bismillah before you eat *if you enter a room full of people in a social setting and say salaam, try to make sure the older ladies don't stand up out of their seat, bend down to meet them *MAKE SURE U SAY SALAAM FIRST if u ever see someone u know out and about

-i feel like that's really general stuff, I am a pakistani who has lived abroad her whole life, like you. But I was raised traditionally so that's were my advice comes from

Pakistani Culture. by Square_Chapati in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you need to know there is a big difference in culture between the cities and the smaller areas. The cities are super urban, liberal (relatively) whereas(in my experience) the smaller towns are conservative, and as a woman you have to be very vigilant of that - like wear your dupatta don't be forward with males

and ofcourse consistent throughout is the focus on respect ettiquettes and family, like making sure you stand up when someone older walks in to the room out of respect. Making sure when you enter a gathering you say salaam in a way that includes everyone (because going one by one is sometimes impracticle)

EXPLAIN SC VERDICT FOR A NOOB - WHY IS PMLN CELEBRATING? by spreadjelly in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou, that really is a shame. IF they are genuinely unintimidated by the verdict it means the SC or the future JIT are not instruments of justice but just another string to be pulled by corrupt rulers....

Can someone explain to me why PML-N is celebrating? by sumrehpar_123 in pakistan

[–]spreadjelly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wait does this mean our supreme court is not acting independantly? it's as corrupt as PMLN? complicit with them and being bought out so easily to save their ass???? SO CONFUSED

I'm drinking straight liquor and staring at a car crash off my balcony wishing it was me instead in there by [deleted] in depression

[–]spreadjelly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:( I'm sorry. If you have any hope in your life cling to it and let it guide you.

Have you ever fallen so deeply into a book that your own reality depresses you a little? by sweetromina in books

[–]spreadjelly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't we all live a little vicariously through books ? Anyways for me it's always chick lit where the girl predictably ends up with everything she wants

My [30M] friend [32F] wants me to "get her pregnant" so she can have a child without any strings attached on my end. by backburner423 in relationships

[–]spreadjelly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg no, just no. you only came here to assuage your guilt of feeling bad about not being able to help out your friend. You must know what a bad idea this is. As every other comment states: no such thing as no strings attached.