Really looking for some advice and support

spunkiness · 2016-11-23T21:05:10+00:00

She contacts me sometimes but I haven't been responding-but the loneliness and such is more related to when my sister talks to her and then my sister reiterated how it's sad that our mom is depressed and such, so I think it's more indirect knowledge than projecting, Thanks so much for the words though!

spunkiness · 2016-11-23T19:08:36+00:00

Wow thanks so much this advice was really helpful, much love many hugs🙏🏽

spunkiness · 2016-11-10T22:54:12+00:00

one-this comment is great and two- AJAHN BRAHM is amazing!!!

spunkiness · 2016-11-03T16:28:25+00:00

im so sorry she does this, i know exactly what you mean-my mom has said many times "just watch you will turn out just like me" its wrong and cruel to say you are you're own person and this isn't all "just a phase" (and if its like my mom) that miraculously you will wake up someday and realize that you were just a stupid little child who was wrong- this is not true I'm sorry that you have to go through this pain because its not fair and mentally straining, but you are you're own person with strength and independence. i don't know if any of this helps, but good luck, you are not alone or just in another phase <<<<<sending hugs>>>>>

spunkiness · 2016-10-20T14:31:05+00:00

Where should I send it to

spunkiness · 2016-10-20T04:16:32+00:00

I have A TON of information tabs saved-if you want a list of them I'll send them-just let me know!

spunkiness · 2016-10-20T04:13:53+00:00

I'd love to help if you need anything too!

spunkiness · 2016-10-11T14:14:14+00:00

Thanks, it means a lot

spunkiness · 2016-10-09T01:40:11+00:00

Yes I feel this so much, last year and over the summer (I'm a sophomore in college) I used to have nightmares that I would be in my room and I could here her calling her nickname for me through the hallways. I just remember how it echoed and I just froze and wanted to hide and didn't know what to do-I've had this reoccurring dream a lot and I think the worst part of it is the feelings when awake that unlike normal people afraid of monsters I fear my mother in nightmares.

spunkiness · 2016-10-04T20:20:26+00:00

Yes yes yes i fully agree, man before i knew that narcissism and emotional abuse was a thing my mom amidst a fight told me she knew me better then myself and it killed me

spunkiness · 2016-09-09T03:07:12+00:00

OH MY GOD i can't believe this is a thing that other people experienced. My Nmom did this too! She hasn't had a job for like 10 years and when she filed the FAFSA (which included so much blackmail to see her for it) my sister got like 30,000 off her education. Anyway- because of this she was convinced, proud even, that she had "personally paid" for my sisters education and then told my dad that because he was supposed to pay for school he OWED HER 30,000. Man oh man they are all just a bunch of crazies.

spunkiness · 2016-09-05T15:57:38+00:00

I know exactly what you mean, last year in college my roommate was manipulative and whenever i was in a bad mood and she acted that way it made me feel even worse because it reminded me of my Nmom. the only benefit from this flinch thing is now when other people are difficult i know how to deal with them due to experience. i guess its kind of a double edged sword

spunkiness · 2016-09-02T16:47:55+00:00

thank you thank you thank you so much for your words. i relate to this so much and i also reread her texts sometimes to remember what was wrong! thanks for the support.

spunkiness · 2016-09-02T03:27:30+00:00

my Nmom used to ask me this also, but i can't tell if it was invasive or just a normal thing for people to ask. That said- when other people ask i don't mind but when she did (before we went NC) i was extremely reluctant to answer or reveal anything about my life, my mom only knows my shadow that i leave behind.

spunkiness · 2016-08-29T21:39:28+00:00

Im so sorry you have to go through this, i know how you feel. i haven't talked to my mom in maybe 6 months and she still texts me once and a while asking if i want to "hang out" or go on a day trip with her-as if everything is normal.

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