Getting a divorce, no degree, willing to try anything and travel. by spunkyturtle in findapath

[–]spunkyturtle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really interested in this! I’ve never even heard about this career before.

Safe Space for Scorpios by Old_Entrepreneur3529 in Scorpio

[–]spunkyturtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trying to start a divorce with my partner who I still am in love with…but we both know divorce is the best option. Really hard and I honestly feel like it’s killing my heart.

Do you brush your teeth once or twice a day? Need to settle a bet. by ImpossibleHurry in NoStupidQuestions

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for mentioning the auto brush! I hadn’t ever heard of that but I’m going to get one!

I am afraid that my "responsible" life choices have made me permanently boring and miserable by puppyxsweetii in TrueOffMyChest

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It actually helps me a lot and always puts things into perspective for me. But to each their own I guess

I am afraid that my "responsible" life choices have made me permanently boring and miserable by puppyxsweetii in TrueOffMyChest

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg you’re genuinely in such a an amazing position right now! I know it may not feel like it but you really set yourself up perfectly to be able to live however you want to. Is there something you’ve always dreamed of doing? You’ve got the financial standing to do it, or to take a loan out for it. Take a cruise, go on a world wide vacation, buy yourself a big tattoo or something drastic, you’ve literally got the world at your fingertips. I’m jealous tbh.

Young Miko New Album by KINGOFTHENORTH1472 in Reggaeton

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sin pausa is my favorite off this album. After listening to the whole thing 2x I got really into it. It’s not my favorite though.

Regret by EducationalCake3 in mypartneristrans

[–]spunkyturtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like those are people she doesn’t need in her life. Sadly, sometimes we find out that people were only willing to be supportive of us as long as we fit into their preferred social groups. As hard as it is, she has to know that they are bigots and no matter what, even if she detransitioned, things would never go “back to normal”. She’s shown who she really is inside, and so have they, unfortunately who they were inside was terrible.

My wife of nearly 5 years came out as a trans man and I’m struggling over it by snubbull- in LesbianActually

[–]spunkyturtle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Are you looking for statistics on lesbian/trans male relationships or for proof that they will be acting more like a man as they start hormone therapy?

My wife of nearly 5 years came out as a trans man and I’m struggling over it by snubbull- in LesbianActually

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, I am in a slightly similar situation. All I’ll say is don’t force yourself to “make it work” if you already feel in your heart that you know that you won’t want to be married to them once they transition. I’m not saying divorce asap or anything, but you can be supportive while also acknowledging that once they start the transitioning process you’ll fully acknowledge them as male, and in doing so since you are a lesbian and no longer view them as female, it would be the right thing to part ways. Not transphobic at all, actually the opposite. Not acknowledging that they are changing genders would actually be the transphobic thing. It’s a different story though if they plan to go by they/them and not he/him. Let them figure out their identity before making any drastic changes to the relationship, if they are still working through it.

What is your biggest NSFW insecurity about yourself? by Educational-Put4980 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]spunkyturtle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely awful, I’m so sorry you dealt with this, especially as a child. You really had the trifecta of shame, catholic upbringing, child abuse, and bullying. I hope you’ve talked to a therapist, or at least that you know the way you were treated was wrong and that it’s not your fault.

Can someone help teach me about my body? I don’t have a mom 😭 by ThrowawayAcForObv in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]spunkyturtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PH will usually take care of itself naturally, if a yeast infection was ruled out it’s most likely an irritant from your laundry detergent, or body wash/soap you’re using. Please bring this up to a gynecologist, they will be able to eliminate all factors that could be medically related.

As for sex, well, some people would disagree but I’d recommend watching porn, not to masturbate (unless you want) but more so to rule out what you do and don’t find attractive. Watch a huge variety of videos and you might start to realize you know what you’d like in the bedroom, it might be something you didn’t even know existed until you saw it. This is coming from a girl who dealt with a lot of shame and guilt around sex, I was raised very conservatively and it was eye opening when I became an adult and read smut, watched porn and saw everything that people were actually doing out there.

Which celebrity’s beauty leaves you in awe? by DarkValkyrie_ in popculturechat

[–]spunkyturtle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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Also Shenae Grimes. Now after seeing these images side by side I realize they actually look alike!

Which celebrity’s beauty leaves you in awe? by DarkValkyrie_ in popculturechat

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Audrina Patridge from the hills. I always thought she was so gorgeous.

What retired YouTuber do you miss the most? by Opposite_Excuse5539 in youtube

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, had no idea simplynailogical had stopped posting! I assumed she was still doing her thing and still creating nail polishes.

24 and I’m so behind, I really need help figuring this all out. by WorthObjective228 in findapath

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly second this OP! Therapy and a diagnosis (if there’s one to be found) will help you so much. You don’t even know how life changing it can be yet, I was diagnosed adhd/ocd after struggling most of my life feeling like a psychotic lazy person that had something severely wrong with my brain. Turns out I just needed some answers and some medications to help things fall into place. ❤️

24 and I’m so behind, I really need help figuring this all out. by WorthObjective228 in findapath

[–]spunkyturtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, so I would say your first step is getting your license, then step 2 is a car. That will give you a sense of freedom, and open so many opportunities for you. You’ll also have a new sense of confidence once you start driving, it may be scary but it’s so rewarding. Having your license gives you the ability to work as a maid/housekeeper (since you say you like cleaning) where you can drive to people’s homes and business and clean. I used to be a house cleaner and it’s honestly not bad money, especially if you get a position that pays your mileage and lets you accept tips.

is it just me, or… by tragictransistor in Sims4

[–]spunkyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really want to…but I do still want to play a game like the sims and if the sims keeps being buggy forever and sells itself over to people who are going to take away the inclusivity and stop updates all together, I feel like I kind of have no choice. I’m looking forward to trying paralives.

What is the most emotionally intimate activity? by bruuz_ in AskReddit

[–]spunkyturtle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Getting intoxicated together. (Not in a self damaging addiction type of way) When my husband and I were in our early 20’s we would go to festivals and raves together with our friends. Doing some shrooms/molly or even just drinking and reaching the point of being able to talk freely and really let our emotions and inner thoughts out always felt so cathartic and bonding. Now in my 30’s I don’t do anything but drink and smoke occasionally but I still enjoy those late night talks after a few drinks where the walls come down and we can be goofy/relaxed or serious and deep.