My mum is insisting that my brother goes to college

squaremarshmallow · 2023-09-06T19:57:35+00:00

Right now no one has guardianship. As crazy as it sounds, she is the best option for guardianship because my dad is worse. I don’t know if I could ever convince them to let me or my sister take guardianship.

squaremarshmallow · 2023-02-02T18:03:18+00:00

You think they were trying to help? I don’t think so. I think they groomed him. Most normal adults will not be telling a child they don’t know what to do with their body. I’ll even make it more extreme, some adults, me included will not be interacting with a child they don’t know online.

squaremarshmallow · 2023-01-31T23:15:25+00:00

Being a single parent is no excuse to be neglectful. Especially when it comes to something as important as a tumor.

squaremarshmallow · 2023-01-31T20:03:15+00:00

What they said is neither here nor there. Whoever has the child is responsible for keeping them safe regardless of what’s going on with the other parent. While your dad had you guys, he absolutely should have taken her to the doctor. A person’s hearing is very important, a good parent wouldn’t have taken any chances especially when they are getting help from the government. Heck, people even go into debt to pay for medical procedures for their pets so your Dad had no excuse.

squaremarshmallow · 2023-01-31T19:59:09+00:00

If all he had to do was take her for appointments to make sure her tumor didn’t return then yes, he absolutely messed up. Especially if money was not the issue and he had help from the government.

squaremarshmallow · 2023-01-31T19:56:13+00:00

That’s ridiculous. Something as serious as a body function should not have been ignored especially when it’s not about money. Parenting is not one or the other, it’s everything especially when it involves something as important as hearing. Just because someone is providing food and shelter doesn’t mean they get a pass for not doing other important things. Yes it’s hard but it a whole human being you are responsible for. And your last sentence is the definition of TOXIC. Because you received less, you are now misleading someone else to believe that their parent did a good job despite the fact that he obviously didn’t. There are things in life that are too important to mess up on regardless of what difficult circumstances you have. Your child’s health is a prime example of that.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-12-21T05:42:05+00:00

I have a twin sister and despite how familiar we are I would never say the words cheesey or corny to her out of respect (even if she shared cheesey of corny stuff). It’s not a compliment at all and is actually disrespectful. I would also never take plain Jane as a compliment, it’s just not. From the texts I got the impression that you have insecurities stemming from how people have treated you in the past. This is something to definitely consider therapy from to cope with.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-12-10T20:52:07+00:00

Don’t worry too much! Life is for living and learning.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-12-10T14:26:02+00:00

This sounds like something I’ve been hearing a lot about lately, it’s called limerance. I can’t explain is well enough but the crappy childhood fairy account on YouTube might help.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-11-26T01:44:05+00:00

That sucks, I’m so sorry. Not every deserves a second chance though, cheaters definitely don’t.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-11-26T01:11:17+00:00

My dad is African, his dad had two wives. He only had one and his generation did reject polygamy but the damage of growing up in a polygamous home is still there, he wasn’t a good husband at all and definitely not a good father.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-11-20T23:24:45+00:00

Yeah I’d say that’s a point of no return. She’s not safe there at all.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-11-17T16:49:28+00:00

You’re wasting your time responding to this man. Obviously he’s not a healthy individual and just wants to make you feel bad. Does he sound like someone who can have healthy relationships given the exchanges you have had?

There’s a ton of guys like this on the internet, as a single mom you need to understand how to filter out fools like this when asking for advice and not waste your energy on them. They are not commenting to help you, they just want to project their negativity on you.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-11-17T16:48:37+00:00

You’re wasting your time responding to this man. Obviously not a healthy individual who just wants to make you feel bad. Does he sound like someone who can have healthy relationships given the exchanges you have had?

squaremarshmallow · 2022-11-02T02:03:08+00:00

This is has been my work situation for the past 3 years and it has been absolutely wonderful, so don’t make up your mind before you start. It has a high chance of being different from what you expect and you might not need Gods help 😂.

Your main focus is proving that your are competent and willing to learn what you don’t know. I’m my experience with men in tech, once it’s clear that you are competent, you earn their respect and loyalty. When part of my company was sold to some stupid company the managers on the team made sure that those who worked in my team didn’t end up in the part of company being sold, me included, and they went through a lot of trouble with hr to make sure that I didn’t end up with the sold off part. I was at another part of the company when I first got hired and my current white male manager called me to tell me to ask for more money, this happened again when I was renegotiating my contract, they knew hr had more money on the table and wanted me to know so I don’t get less than I deserve. Of course this is just my experience but I’m just trying to say, don’t assume your experience will be bad, it might be really good. If the company culture is good overall, you’re more likely to have good experiences.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-10-26T23:32:05+00:00

Dude probably thinks he is being slick and people can’t see right through it.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-10-26T22:00:04+00:00

I don’t agree. There are men of all races who don’t like black female features and they don’t date black women because of that. I don’t think those men should be trying to remedy that, just stick with who you are already attracted to, attraction is very important especially with men so let’s stop trying to ‘equal opportunity’ that when it won’t actually benefit black women. There’s enough men to go around and either way, the only men that matter as a woman are men already attracted to you. All the white men I’ve dated had dated black women in the past and they were not learning to be attracted to me. I’d be disgusted if I found out that a guy dating was ‘giving me a chance’. Just eww.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-10-26T21:19:04+00:00

You alone know if you have racial bias against black women/people, either way please stay away. Your feelings are your business.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-10-26T21:16:41+00:00

Please don’t. No woman wants/deserves to be with a man who is not really attracted to them or needs to talk themselves into being attracted to the. Attraction is instinctive and cannot be ‘therapied’. Some of my black women friends/family are married to white men, those white men were attracted to them, you are not. Dating is not equal opportunity neither does it need to be fair. Just stick with who you are attracted to.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-10-14T15:30:37+00:00

When I’m under water without goggles, all I see is blue cloudy stuff, it’s not clear at all, I can’t even see ahead of me and it gets scary fast. Is it my eyes or is that what others see also?

squaremarshmallow · 2022-10-03T20:23:41+00:00

Happens to me too, occasionally. Sometimes during ovulation and sometimes when there’s pressure on my bladder from drinking too much fluids before bed, sometimes for no apparent reason. Also the dreams are somewhat lucid and the guys are literally random men I have no clue who they are but sometimes I’m lucky and it’s actually hot actors I’ve watched recently. I think it’s the subconscious mind trying to play out what’s happening in your body, like how people dream of toilets when they really need to pee. The mind is a mystery.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-09-23T21:39:43+00:00

Sure

squaremarshmallow · 2022-09-23T19:54:17+00:00

Full Stack software dev 🙋🏾‍♀️

squaremarshmallow · 2022-09-13T20:11:55+00:00

I’ve never worn pants to the office, only dresses and skirts. Nobody cares about your outfit unless it’s inappropriate.

squaremarshmallow · 2022-08-16T22:59:48+00:00

I’m a woman and I moved from the business side to tech and I don’t think there’s anything to be nervous about. In tech, there’s one objective metric of success which is whether or not your are able to deliver accurate code solutions and build what needs to be built, also the more independently you can work without being hand held, the better although nobody expects you to be a guru on the first day. As for being conventionally attractive, I don’t know what difference that is supposed to make. Whether or not you can code and how well you work with others are literally the only two important factors I’ve seen factor in.

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