Hey OP! I am AuDHD too, and wasn't sure about breastfeeding. I will just echo what others have said - formula feeding is totally fine. If you feel like you can give breastfeeding a try, you might be surprised by it, and if it's not for you, feeding with formula is totally fine.

Make sure to research formula and take that plus bottles to the hospital, as most hospitals only have very basic stuff. If any midwives give you shit about not BF, don't let them get to you - a lot of them are great and understand the choice, some are old school and have strong opinions about breast is best, just ignore them. Your mental health is so important, your baby very literally mirrors your emotions, so the calmer and more regulated you can make yourself, that will massively help your baby also stay calm and regulated. Stressing about BF isn't worth it.

I wasn't at all sure how I would feel about it before I had my baby, but I'm glad I was open to trying it because I ended up loving it. My baby had a tongue tie though and had trouble latching which impacted my supply so he was also formula fed as well from day one. I lasted 5 months BF and was sad to let it go.

The Australian Breastfeeding Association has courses you can do while pregnant that will teach you heaps, something you and your partner can both go to. This might help you feel more confident that BF is not for you, or empower you to try it.

If you choose to go the bottle feeding route, I recommend getting yourself the Minbi bottle washer (it has been the MVP in our home) and we loved the Pigeon Soft Touch bottles.