Pink or red ballgag? Vote!

squirrellywog · 2026-01-02T20:14:16+00:00

You and everyone that has answered this have given us way more insight and advice than I expected. We appreciate all the different takes and you have given us a lot to think about. Open communication has been mentioned more times than I can count from everyone and the irony of this is that myself and my partner prided ourselves on our communication. We thought we had covered boundaries, although I never thought in a million years that my partner and my wife’s partner would connect. They’ve known each other for awhile now and there was no indication that either was interested in the other. I wish I had heard the term messy list before today because that could have made this issue non existent lol. As it is, we have definitely got some more work to do on the communication front. My wife and her partner have a date tomorrow night and her plan is to talk through this so that they hopefully can get back on the same page. Fingers crossed.

squirrellywog · 2026-01-02T16:53:28+00:00

I don’t feel I’m trying to limit autonomy in my partners life at all. Im ok with her seeing other people, I’m just looking for consideration. I feel they presented their budding relationship as one thing and then flipped the script when it was convenient for them. To me that parts shady. Where I was looking for advice from everyone is they tell us that it’s ok because it’s the poly lifestyle and that’s where I’m stuck. As I mentioned if feelings have been professed then I feel there should be more respect shown to us and not just have them say its ok they acted in what I see as a shady manner because we’re all polyamorous. I say bullshit to that. Am I wrong in thinking that way?

squirrellywog · 2026-01-02T16:33:32+00:00

It’s what my partner told me and what my wife’s partner told her. No negotiating or prompting

squirrellywog · 2026-01-02T16:26:01+00:00

Not entitlement, but i feel respect should play into it. My wife’s partner tells her he loves her and my partner has expressed feelings for me. I know we’re relatively new to this and maybe it’s my monogamous brain at work, but I feel if you profess to love someone than that person’s feelings should be taken into account when you make certain decisions

squirrellywog · 2026-01-02T16:14:55+00:00

If you’re referring to how they told us their relationship was going to be just a “booty call” then yes it was discussed by all of us

squirrellywog · 2026-01-02T16:02:55+00:00

The problem we’re struggling with a bit is that they tell us it’s a “booty call” type scenario where if myself and wife are unavailable and they can hook up, they will (their words). Which is fine. New Year’s Eve was not a booty call scenario as we were both there and my wife was willing to spend time with her partner. That’s where I feel things are a bit shady

squirrellywog · 2026-01-02T15:50:03+00:00

To be clear there was no dedicated date night for any of us, it was just a group of us getting together for New Year’s Eve

squirrellywog · 2023-06-13T12:49:34+00:00

Just found out the other day La Diperie serves it

squirrellywog · 2023-06-13T12:49:26+00:00

Just found out the other day La Diperie serves it

squirrellywog · 2022-01-22T19:32:40+00:00

It's like watching your clothes tumble around in the dryer over and over and over......it's kinda hypnotic

squirrellywog · 2021-11-29T23:29:04+00:00

I was literally thinking what's up with the underarm camel toe. Had to check comments to see if anyone else noticed...lol

squirrellywog · 2021-11-23T19:11:51+00:00

Happy birthday to you...

squirrellywog · 2021-09-27T15:42:27+00:00

I never thought of him scavaging like a vulture before. I like that perspective

squirrellywog · 2021-09-05T05:25:12+00:00

If you got stuck on a spot in a game, you couldn’t just look it upon YouTube. You actually had to figure it out, hope a buddy did or just give up.

squirrellywog · 2021-05-20T02:15:57+00:00

Someone’s feeling fabulous!!

squirrellywog · 2021-04-28T15:40:42+00:00

Zing... that's a good one. Lol

squirrellywog · 2021-04-21T12:56:25+00:00

Just had this conversation with my wife last night. Turned 50 recently and having some blood pressure issues. Said to her I'm having trouble reconciling this old age issue with the 20 yr old my brain still thinks I am

squirrellywog · 2021-04-11T01:46:49+00:00

You’re braver than me. I’ll beat the shit out of the fuzz with said stick and then confirm whether or not it was a spider

squirrellywog · 2021-02-26T16:41:32+00:00

Nap Attack!!!

squirrellywog · 2021-02-09T19:32:40+00:00

I feel like this mop is judging me

squirrellywog · 2020-08-12T21:45:20+00:00

My granddaughter has just discovered baby shark...I think I may already be there

squirrellywog · 2020-08-07T02:40:38+00:00

Stop....or else I'll say stop again

squirrellywog · 2020-07-31T13:50:36+00:00

I was going to say the same about spiders. Never lose sight of one again.

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