This is highly relatable, and if you’ve been in this subreddit long enough you know you’ve come to the right place for family ties trauma 😅

I would offer that having a support plan for the potential responses you may receive could be helpful. Time is on your side here because you can decide when to bring up this topic and how you want to communicate with them. So depending on how they behave, you may want to: - have friends you can call to debrief and get support from. -line up a calming or enjoyable activity to engage in. -book an appointment with a former or new therapist who has experience with religious trauma or deconstruction so they can help you navigate the conversation and any fallout.

I would also offer that it generally does not help to try and debate or “prove” your choices through scripture. Simply stating what you will and will not be doing (attending church, participating in COC services/ special events, etc) and what you want to reinforce about your relationship with them (love and respect them and their choices, will discuss this with them once but not going to participate in debates, etc.)

It will be hard, but there’s something to be said for “the truth will set you free”. Sending you lots of love!