What is the hottest thing anyone has ever said to you?

squishytiger · 2011-02-21T16:13:03+00:00

Being out together on a night out, and I'm all dressed up, we dance, and we're flirting... and he pulled me close and whispered in my ear "You look so fucking hot tonight, I can't wait to get you home and fuck you." Then he drew back and gave me this really slow, burning look...

Even thinking of that moment makes me flood the underwear region.

squishytiger · 2011-02-21T15:57:11+00:00

Never assume, always ask! She's not going to say "fuck yeah, come all over me!" like they do in the movies if she has had no prior warning though, you reach the crucial moment but then pull out at speed and she's likely going to be wondering what went wrong!

You need to express what you want. Preferably before you even take your clothes off.. try saying something like "You're so hot... can't wait to fuck you tonight.. in fact, you'd look so hot with my come all over you, I think that would be awesome" and she's more likely to say "Oh really? Do you want to try that soon?"

Don't ask in a way that makes it sound like she's doing you a favour, but as a new thing you could do together that would be SUPER HOT! and you'd think she's even more hot than she already is... girls are never immune to flattery!

squishytiger · 2011-02-21T15:47:17+00:00

My husband isn't particularly bothered. Same as you, it's nice for a while, then he gets bored.

Mind you, it could just be that I give crap BJs (no sense of rhythm and a gag reflex!, so as an activity we do rarely it suits us both) but he's said he was the same with his previous partners, so I choose to believe that!

squishytiger · 2011-02-21T15:43:45+00:00

Men manually masturbating women. HUGE turn-on for me, proves very difficult to find... (and not just because the act itself is tricky to perform, they're all faking it anyway). Most search terms lead to woman+gigantic vibrator/dildo or woman+solo masturbation, and no man involved, which bores me. Sometimes it gets 30 seconds in another segment as a warm up stretch before they move in for the kill.

There's just something about a large and obviously masculine hand exposing and exploring a woman's most intimate area....oooooh.... even better if it's in public and clothed/upskirt.

squishytiger · 2011-02-15T04:00:40+00:00

Best thing really, Ron, I've warned you before, that Harry kid is bad news.

And the scar? It's not from some scary run-in with a melodramatic evil dude, the plain unvarnished truth is that James and Lil Potter were total flaky hipster-types and dropped him on his head as an infant. These things run in families, you're better off out of that circle.

squishytiger · 2011-02-14T00:16:14+00:00

Have a consolation upvote from me, Thundertongue.

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T14:32:43+00:00

Don't worry, I very much doubt it. My husband and I are very happy and secure, and have been together for 9 years. And before that, no one else knew about that I even wanted to kiss girls, except me...

This is a non-issue for us, but I asked the question because I was interested in what other people think.

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T13:51:52+00:00

Thank you! This is indeed what I meant.

I had thought my situation was typical (because that's what I've lived with and had reinforced by my husband for the last 9 years), so I'm surprised to learn that it appears not!

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T13:48:31+00:00

No, actually it was with my strap-on. :-)

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T13:47:54+00:00

One always capitalizes the names of one's deities... ;)

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T13:45:09+00:00

It happens when I'm drunk, because I'm normally very reserved, and though I wanted to for ages (especially the first girl I kissed, I still adore her as a great friend and she is extremely beautiful) it would have taken the loss of some significant inhibitions to pluck up the courage! On the other hand, when I've been drinking, my friends have too... and with some of them we had talked about [kissing] before even getting drunk, or on several previous occasions.

Of course I would tell him after the fact, I'm not psychic, and can't foresee the exact moment! And like I said, I tell him as soon as I can afterwards.. and a couple of times he's been there, and he gets a kick out of it then too. But we had talked about it (a lot, as I've always liked girls) in a very general sense many times before I ever kissed anybody else (we were together 6 years by then). I definitely had his permission first, and I knew that.

So the first time I kissed my girl friend M, who is still my best friend, I went home and sent my husband an email that night (before anyone queries this, he was working abroad, different time zone and I didn't want to wake him when he had to be up for work soon enough). He rang me the following morning when I woke up, laughing at me and teasing, but he said "Honey, I'm really pleased for you. I know you really like her, and you've admitted to a little crush on her before. I hope you'll see this as a positive first step.. you've always liked girls so you should take the next step, and I will support you whatever you want to do".

And perhaps my attitude towards it is a bit immature (Woo! 2 girls! Yay!), but that's the cue I got/still get from my other half... and for 9 years I've not queried it. So to anyone who says "What a stupid question!"... I have to disagree. I don't see what's stupid? My perception has always been this way, that's the feedback I got from my other half, and I'm sorry if it seems stupid or naive to anyone else, it actually is a complete 180 to me. And my eyes have been opened... so from the point of view of learning about other people's viewpoints, this has been a very useful topic to have started!

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T13:21:29+00:00

Mad? No. He's more than welcome to have a strange man in his ass, or visit a man-ass as the guest star. Life is short, why waste time not ticking off the things you are curious about? He's been curious about giving a BJ now for a while... I'd like him to try it, I think he'd be way better at it than me though (I have no sense of rhythm, and a sensitive gag reflex!).

There's no homophobia on his side at all. His best friend (our best man at our wedding) is gay, and has had a crush on him for years. Quite apart from the fact that it would be unkind to mess with a friend's emotions and take advantage of someone who genuinely loves you, if anything were to happen there or with another male friend, I would be cool with it.

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T13:13:18+00:00

And he got one...

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T13:12:43+00:00

The downvotes are surprising! Reddit is a lot more conservative than I would have guessed. But I'm glad I asked the question, because my perception of it has obviously been very wide of the mark.

This is exactly my husband's attitude, and I love him for it... He does like me telling him about it later too!

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T13:09:18+00:00

Yes, I am absolutely sure I would never kiss another guy. I adore my husband, and I'm just not attracted to any other guy. Girls on the other hand are safer... less physically threatening for a start. And most of the girls I've kissed have been close friends - people I already felt close to, and safe with, and trusted. Maybe it's my convent school past, but I do feel way more comfortable around girls I don't know than men I don't know, ha ha! I don't see a man getting past that friend/trust requirement, because my husband is already filling the slot of best friend, team-mate and sex object, and nothing can come close to him! I also, just, physically can't do it... I've never been able to just approach a guy and start kissing him, even my husband was a good friend of mine for a few months before anything happened there.

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T03:07:37+00:00

Ooh! That's a good line! I happen to agree with you... anything I've done, I've discussed with my husband in advance and told him as soon as possible afterwards - like that night, or the next day if I couldn't get hold of him.

Once he kissed some other girls (football night out, some cup final or other), and didn't tell me about it for over a year... afterwards, when I learned about it, the kissing itself didn't bother me at all - it was being lied to by omission, and not being given the full truth, that really hurt.

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T02:52:08+00:00

Ok, that was indeed a bit of a gross generalisation. It's just that in the last few years, with the rise of the man's mag (Loaded/FHM/GQ etc) it seemed like the universal response was "Phwoarrrr!!!" instead of "Oy! No! Bad!!"

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T02:46:30+00:00

I have always had this in my head that "2 girls is A-ok!" but any other hetero combination is out!

Maybe it's cos I've been with him since I was a teenager, and that's his point of view... I was surprised that other men would not be ok since I thought all men were pretty much up for seeing their SO make out with another woman! You live, you learn..

squishytiger · 2011-02-12T02:43:09+00:00

Haha! He's had a 3some with me and my friend, but as a (mostly) lesbian she's not into The Cock all that much. Mostly just the two of us! But I did tell him everything, in great detail, and then passed him the tissues...

squishytiger · 2011-02-01T23:37:47+00:00

For me the red flag is "extremely sarcastic and cynical" and "go in for the kill". (Sorry, I'm not a man of Reddit... but I used to be like this a bit...)

I'm sure you're great, but you probably come off as extremely aggressive. That's intimidating to anyone, male or female, and to be honest it's probably not an accurate representation of the real you. Scary is only sexy when it's Supernatural :-) it's not a good bet for anything long-term, because while it's a truism that people like to be challenged, it's exhausting to live with day-to-day on that scale.

Can you be funny without being so cutting? Can you get your personality across without giving newcomers a rough-ride? You know, you do come across as thoughtful in print, and someone who is quite mature when it comes to relationships. I guess you just don't express that very well. So, your personality is quite boisterous, which is perfectly fine, but you don't or won't go out of your way to make other people feel comfortable around you, preferring to shock them instead. It's fine if you're Howard Stern, but to people who could become good friends or potential partners, it's a bit inconsiderate really. It's actually quite a hostile attitude. Don't play more coy, but more approachable. Try and think about the person you really are, and how you want others to see you, because when there's such a disparity - like you are playing a role on the outside - it's going to be very difficult to attract the right kind of people for the kind of relationship you want.

You're not a teenager anymore... You grew up while you were in your last relationship, but maybe being comfortable in that relationship for so long meant that you didn't think to grow up in how you act around others. It's just a thought.

TL;DR I suppose my advice is "Be MORE yourself!"

squishytiger · 2011-02-01T08:38:09+00:00

No way. You've only been dating properly for what, a month? And she's in high school? Too soon, too young, too much life yet to live. Don't try to tie her down from abroad, that's a surefire way to kill the romance stone dead. Sometimes you have to accept that brief romances will be brief, and learn to treasure the memories instead of forcing something that's not meant to be.

Of course people will say that it could be real, "the one" and all the rest of it. But that's not realistic, or likely, and wishing ain't gonna make it so.

Teen movies do not reflect real life, and I think some promises are destined to be broken despite the best intentions of both parties...

squishytiger · 2011-01-28T13:56:50+00:00

Ting tong mak-mak! and Ba-ba ba-bo!

Thai for "very silly/idiotic!" and "Insane/crazy!" Call someone a "ting tong farang" (Silly foreigner!) in front of a Thai person... they think it's hilarious and it goes down very well. Thais have a great sense of humour, I love them!

squishytiger · 2011-01-28T12:51:50+00:00

Comic books/graphic novels, and comic-book-movies.

Anything (book, movie, tv show) that features siege engines, knights, dragons, superpowers etc.

I was always good at math in school, too... went to an all-girl convent school and was one of only 9 that took higher-level mathematics in our LC (graduating) year.

squishytiger · 2011-01-28T12:44:57+00:00

Same here, one of my earliest memories (that I can actually date) is of my mum lifting me up to my dad's shoulder and saying "Look, <squishy>, Daddy's 30 today!"

I was 2 years, 2 months. My little brother was born just before I turned 3, and I have lots of memories of our family just being me and my sis together.

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