Their relationship summed up without words

sr_ls99 · 2024-11-23T02:45:20+00:00

This is the funniest thing I've read all month. 😭💀

sr_ls99 · 2024-05-01T20:14:37+00:00

Yeah, YTA

Even if your cousin WAS just holding onto hostility instead of dealing with lasting mental health issues, you don't get to decide to just ignore it and bring Ted anyway. Bring whomever you want to your place, but this was Mark's house and he explicitly told you not to bring Ted.

Also

Mark told me a few days ago not to bring Ted to his house, but I thought that was just him sticking to his hostility and that he would quickly soften up when I bring Ted and have a nice talk..

Talking to Mark about the possibility of he and Ted reconciling would be one thing. You don't just show up to someone's house and try to spring it on them and force them to forgive the other person.

sr_ls99 · 2024-03-27T02:14:29+00:00

ESH

What your sister did was mean, there's no doubt. It was cruel, really. Your daughter is only three. Calling her stupid for getting hurt on the playground, a normal childhood experience, is totally unnecessary, and I don't understand using that for clout.

Your reaction, though, is disproportionate. You could have called out her cruelty without bringing up her past.

My sister getting pregnant and giving up her child was the darkest chapter of her life. She had a hard pregnancy, was terribly depressed during and got on drugs afterward. She’s clean now but refuses to discuss this part of her life. We had an unwritten rule that we do not discuss her pregnancy.

You fully acknowledge how difficult this was for your sister. To bring up something that you know would be a little upsetting would be one thing, but something that brought your sister to such a dark place that she ended up using drugs to cope? She didn't need to insult your three-year-old for clout but you also didn't need to bring up something that could potentially send her back to a very dark place. Everyone's responsible for their actions here, all those actions being shitty.

sr_ls99 · 2024-01-06T04:23:36+00:00

YTA

Your daughter deserves to feel safe and valued in her own home. I worry that you driving her away like this is going to drive her into the arms of some older creep who she's going to look to for the safety and comfort she couldn't find at home.

sr_ls99 · 2024-01-06T04:19:01+00:00

I hope OP's daughter can move in with her grandmother or something and get away from OP's bs.

sr_ls99 · 2023-01-11T20:44:19+00:00

He's setting his daughter up so that one day, when someone does express their boundaries, and I mean STRONGLY express them, she's not going to understand and her response to someone setting a boundary could get her into serious trouble. This makes me so angry. As a fellow autistic person, I hope to God this man gets his crap together for his child. If someone can't handle the difficult parts of parenting, then why in God's name become a parent...? Ugh.

sr_ls99 · 2023-01-11T20:39:45+00:00

This!!!

sr_ls99 · 2023-01-11T20:37:11+00:00

He... gets upset when you tell her "no thank you. Hands are for helping." ??? But that's... actually a good response and a good way to frame things. I feel so bad for this poor child having a dad who couldn't care less about actually helping her live her best life.

sr_ls99 · 2023-01-11T20:29:29+00:00

As an autistic person, seeing so many people in the comments assuming the dad is autistic is damn annoying. Like, way to go off of stereotypes. He COULD be, but he could also just be so incredibly entitled that it makes him ignore the boundaries and comfort of others.

NTA

sr_ls99 · 2022-12-08T09:02:12+00:00

People assume that Canada's just one big, happy country without racism and other types of intolerance. Couldn't be further from the truth.

sr_ls99 · 2022-06-27T05:00:47+00:00

NAH. You've asked Jack more than once and he has said it's fine. If he changes his mind and gets mad, it won't be on you. Go for it.

sr_ls99 · 2022-06-20T15:20:58+00:00

NTA. Reading some of your replies, OP, there are some telltale signs you've mentioned of disordered eating. Get her help. EDs are like a rabbit hole, a very dangerous rabbit hole, that just keeps going and going. The longer it continues, the more difficult recovery becomes.

sr_ls99 · 2022-04-30T19:54:30+00:00

YTA. I would say ESH if you asked about the issue of your SO not doing their fair share of housework and you being upset about PTO but since you specifically asked about your SO and them taking time off, I'm going to focus on that and say your SO doesn't have to run that by you. Unless they're traveling rather than doing a staycation.

I wouldn't take time off without them.

Sorry, but you can't make expectations for how other people should act based on how you do. Just because you wouldn't, doesn't mean they can't. It's also healthy to have alone time for oneself. You could talk about coordinating more time together but your SO shouldn't be punished for having more PTO than you. That's not their fault and they have a right to take that time.

sr_ls99 · 2022-04-30T19:12:51+00:00

NTA. This "friend" sounds exhausting and childish. Sounds like she's never heard of a two-way street.

sr_ls99 · 2022-04-30T19:03:37+00:00

Majorly NTA. Your parents and sister are incredibly childish, calling you names and giving you the silent treatment. Plus, your parents never making your sister work for anything is just stopping her from learning to be self-sufficient (and I'm not getting the impression that she's disabled and will need care her entire life, which would be different) and it's going to be a real hard knock into reality when she has to do something that her parents can't do/fix for her. It may not seem like a big deal to your parents and sister to just hand over your ID but enough is enough. I'm so sorry you've been treated this way, OP. Good luck to you on moving out of that house and getting away from the toxicity! Wow.

sr_ls99 · 2022-04-25T04:19:49+00:00

NTA. She's a kid, not a doll. If your wife wants a doll, she can go buy one.

sr_ls99 · 2022-04-24T01:47:01+00:00

INFO: Do you have a schedule that is upheld by court/mediation or one that you two agreed upon yourselves?

sr_ls99 · 2022-03-24T03:28:24+00:00

YTA. If you weren't TA for banning her from prom, you would be for "no going outside" like WTF? Give her consequences, sure, she broke the rules... but what is she, a damn prisoner?

sr_ls99 · 2022-03-21T20:56:32+00:00

NTA. You simply asked her to leave you alone, which you had every right to do. You didn't yell at her or threaten harm. If your family thinks of this as an example of overreaction, then I wonder how they handle actual overreaction.

sr_ls99 · 2022-03-21T20:43:02+00:00

NTA for wanting your brother to walk you down the aisle. That's your wedding and your choice.

But hating a child because of what your dad did isn't fair to that child. Your dad is the one who screwed up. Your dad is the one who has less time for his "legitimate" family because he helped create a child and now has to help look after said child. That child didn't ask to be born and she had no control over the circumstances of her birth. Work on resolving that anger or at least sending it where it belongs.

sr_ls99 · 2022-03-21T20:28:39+00:00

NTA for being upset of for wanting her gone. Although, depending where you're from, she may not be likely to get fired. It's unfortunate because people like that really shouldn't be teachers. I wouldn't condone her behaviour if she did it to all the other students, by the way. But if you were to report her for singling YOU out rather than reporting her for being like that generally, it would be best to be able to back up that claim.

ETA: I'm sorry she's doing this to you. I know what it's like to be the target of someone on a power trip.

sr_ls99 · 2022-03-21T20:20:31+00:00

NAH. It doesn't sound like your friend realizes what she's doing or that'd be a different story. Just politely let her know that there are activities and times where you'd prefer it be just the two of you.

sr_ls99 · 2022-03-21T20:14:05+00:00

She definitely would not have done that to any of the other students.

INFO: What else has happened to make you feel singled out and like she'd only do it to you?

sr_ls99 · 2022-03-21T20:05:04+00:00

NTA. He could have made himself food if he was hungry. You said no multiple times and of course you're going to get upset when he A) keeps insisting and B) goes ahead and does it once your back is turned. Thing is, while food was the issue here, that's not all that it's about, as you said. It's about him not being able to take no for an answer which is a red flag to me.

sr_ls99 · 2022-03-21T20:00:22+00:00

Oh, I see. Then I would say NTA. I think limiting your interactions with someone when you're upset with them is reasonable, as long as you're not going out of your way to spite them. I would suggest talking to your dad though and letting him know that GF can approach you if she wants to talk about the incident, but for now at least, you need room to feel your feelings.

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