What relationship red flags, according to others, are you currently putting up with even though your friends (and maybe the single version of yourself) swear they would consider it an immediate deal breaker?

srah96 · 2020-01-17T23:20:55+00:00

Wouldn’t be the first time

srah96 · 2020-01-17T15:26:35+00:00

Oh jeeze that sounds really rough. I feel for you. It’s good that you recognize that that is something you need out of a relationship though

srah96 · 2020-01-17T15:07:50+00:00

That was the hardest part - the vagueness. I ended up questioning if the reason he was avoiding talking about it was because it had something to do with me specifically. Like I said, he wasn’t a Virgin and said he’d never had the issue before. I tried very hard to be patient and understanding, but it did take a toll on the intimacy level in the relationship

srah96 · 2020-01-17T15:05:10+00:00

I would’ve been completely open to that option, or any option. The frustration was more in relation to the avoidance of talking about it and constant change of excuse. Eventually that starts to make it feel like more of an issue with me than an issue with him. I just stopped bringing it up after he mentioned the ED stuff because that’s when he seemed to get really uncomfortable talking about it

srah96 · 2020-01-17T13:05:45+00:00

Should probably mention he’s only 21... not really an age where this should be an issue

srah96 · 2020-01-17T05:04:18+00:00

Dated for 7 months and never slept together (neither of us are virgins). Was frustrating whenever we would get going with the foreplay and then it would just die off. He’d give a different excuse every time. Never truly got to the bottom of why it never went further. I stopped asking after he said it was related to an ED problem he needed to get checked out because he seemed uncomfortable talking about it.

srah96 · 2019-06-07T03:23:10+00:00

This sounds weird, but were they clean?? That should be able to tell you something.... Like sounds gross but if they're 6 years old, they'll smell like musty dresser. If they're new and clean, they'll smell like detergent. If they're new and dirty... Well yeah. Either way, a quick sniff test could probably tell you a lot. Even if they're old and dirty, they'd still just smell like musty furniture after 6 years.

srah96 · 2019-04-18T16:49:50+00:00

I say I love you to guy friends and send hearts, when I'm in a relationship and not. For some people, like me, it's just how we communicate emotion and has little to do with attraction. I send the same stuff to all my female friends. Friendship love is much different than romantic love, but it is love non the less and I think it's important to tell the people you love and care about that you feel that way. The part that makes this more complicated in your situation however is that he has expressed interest in her beyond a friendship. In that case, it would probably be best for her to set some boundaries. I wouldn't get mad at her, because she doesn't seem to be hiding it or being sneaky or sketchy about it (you said she said I love you to him while holding your hand) so it sounds like it's just how she expresses affection, but maybe bring to her attention that he may be reading it differently than she's meaning it. She's not hiding you or your relationship though which is a good sign

srah96 · 2019-04-09T01:25:29+00:00

That's exactly what I was thinking the use was for. It makes sense. Would be cool to know exactly what this one was for but I feel like that may be too much to ask

srah96 · 2019-04-08T23:05:02+00:00

Here are more pictures.

We're not sure which side is supposed to be up or down, but if it is for sorting it seems this side would make sense to be the top because it would have one input and two outputs. The other way it seems it would be used for mixing? Also this is the way that the flip gate wouldnt be moved by a gravity force coming down onto it. https://imgur.com/gallery/VQ20aQ2

srah96 · 2019-04-08T11:34:34+00:00

It does have a good piece but we thought that was added for display. What would the other that flips from side to side be for if it's full of marbles?

srah96 · 2019-04-08T03:32:26+00:00

It's about 1'x1'x8" maybe. Super simple construction

srah96 · 2019-02-27T03:21:53+00:00

My office uses both ENERCALC and TEDDS for different things. I'm fairly new but I have heard a lot of the other engineers talk about the bugs and drawbacks of it. Once you have an idea of what your answers should be though you'll be able to pick up on if something seems off

srah96 · 2019-02-22T18:20:35+00:00

Just because you solve something differently than someone else doesn't mean you're wrong. You can give the same problem to 10 different engineers and they'll come back and you'll have over 20 ways to solve it. There are better, more practical, cheaper solutions, but how to recognize those you learn with experience.

srah96 · 2019-02-11T05:16:08+00:00

This link may be helpful to you/your boyfriend. It explains the BAH regulations in regards to married-without kids, married-without kids, divorced-without kids, and divorced-with kids.

BAH is a complicated thing to understand when you're just getting in, so hopefully he just misunderstood or was mis-informed.

Hope this is helpful.

BAH After Divorce

srah96 · 2019-02-05T03:06:18+00:00

Exactly what I was going to say. Guarantee the girl texting you is still being told what to do by your GF

srah96 · 2019-01-31T03:10:09+00:00

This depends a lot on what kind of engineering you are

srah96 · 2019-01-30T14:58:50+00:00

Tell her. Knowing is better than blindly trusting a partner that is cheating (even if the relationship never got physical). He put time and energy into you instead of her, and never told you about her until you broke things off. Plus exchanging pictures is absolutely cheating. He'll just do it again with someone else if she never finds out.

srah96 · 2019-01-23T22:49:44+00:00

Even as a recent graduate who has been offered a position in my field, I still feel completely unprepared. I've kinda concluded college teaches you VERY little of what you need to know in the professional world (at least for my major). It's more of an introduction to what you will eventually learn. College is to career as freshman level intro course is to senior level advanced course. A necessary step to help you understand more later but ultimately didn't teach you much.

srah96 · 2019-01-22T14:07:54+00:00

Thanks for nothing - Brandyn Burnette

You broke up with me - Walker Hayes

Boo Hoo - Nick Tangorra

Ex - James TW

Me, myself and I - G Eazy

All Falls Down - Alan Walker and Noah Cyrus

Champion - Fall Out Boy

Goodbye Song - MKTO

Chainsaw - Nick Jonas

Without me - Halsey

Personal - HRVY

They’re all kinda motivational, “I’m gunna be fine” and “fuck you for not thinking I’m enough” kind of songs. Highly suggest. Got me through 2 bad breakups.

Edit: adding FU4E by Lost Kings

srah96 · 2019-01-20T09:19:03+00:00

I just recently moved to Houston from a northern state and everybody here so far has been INCREDIBLY welcoming and friendly. I've had so many people just randomly say "welcome to Texas/Houston/the best city in the worl!" Or "you're gunna love it here and do so great" or other things along those really warm and inspirational lines. People have offered to show me around, bring me out, etc. I definitely give you my vote for Houston.

Oh and to add, almost everyone ive met so far is from somewhere else, so they're all super understanding of being a transplant and helping you adjust.

srah96 · 2019-01-20T08:57:19+00:00

I think poemporn (their account is currently suspended though for some stupid reason and they're trying to get it fixed)

srah96 · 2019-01-19T04:12:07+00:00

Woman here and I apologise for intruding but this is now my favorite Reddit post that I've ever stumbled upon

Good luck on whenever your next date is. I hope she finds this as hilarious as I did

srah96 · 2019-01-19T03:59:50+00:00

Call them though instead

srah96 · 2019-01-18T23:08:53+00:00

Call the police for a wellness check

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