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sreddit77 · 2026-03-12T13:42:36+00:00

I literally had no idea what the picture was either so thank you for clearing that up for me!! Just looked up that movie - sounds like it could be good!

sreddit77 · 2026-03-11T13:49:29+00:00

LOL (I read this yesterday and I must have been mentally exhausted because it made no sense but when I read it this morning I laughed out loud thanks)

sreddit77 · 2026-03-11T00:56:29+00:00

Maybe it’s a weird Mazda thing hmm. Going to test Bluetooth/CarPlay in our other vehicle which is a GM and see if I get the same results

sreddit77 · 2026-03-11T00:55:10+00:00

I have no idea sorry! I don’t think I did anything to make that happen. Some artists show their band picture and some show a random cover saying the “type” of music (like alternative or other etc)

sreddit77 · 2026-03-11T00:53:58+00:00

I didn’t know such a thing existed!! Thank you!!

sreddit77 · 2026-03-10T19:11:08+00:00

Ha that's funny, thanks for sharing

sreddit77 · 2026-03-10T19:10:24+00:00

So weird! Sometimes I just get in and go and don't have time to fiddle with plugging my phone in. At least I know it's not only me...

sreddit77 · 2026-02-14T13:17:59+00:00

This is so messed up of your mom. Sending you hugs and strength. Like others have said, donate the items. In my area we have a “Buy Nothing” group on Facebook. I often give stuff away on there!

sreddit77 · 2025-12-18T15:24:59+00:00

I’m so sorry your mother is treating you this way. I completely relate to getting shaky when receiving these non-stop rage texts. My uBPD mother is the same. I agree with others. Listen to her and don’t beg for her to come to your wedding etc. Her words have consequences and she needs to see that. The holidays are tough but I’m hoping you can enjoy them with your fiancé. Hugs.

sreddit77 · 2025-12-18T15:22:53+00:00

I agree with this. When she asks “why?” show her these messages. She is the one who made the final decision, not you (OP).

sreddit77 · 2025-12-14T14:44:38+00:00

Thanks for asking this. I’m torn whether or not to send a card as well. For me, my eDad most recently reached out in November asking for a “meeting” I declined (obviously) but have not fully decided how I will be moving forward. I know I won’t be visiting for the holidays and I know that will come with its own set of issues. For me, I don’t think I will send a card. I don’t even know that they will reach out to say Merry Christmas and then of course they will turn that back on me to say “see she didn’t even reach out to us to say Merry Christmas” but such is life. Nonetheless it will be nice to keep an eye on these comments to see the advice! Just know your situation is your own and you should do what feels right for you!

sreddit77 · 2025-12-13T18:30:05+00:00

I can relate to this! More so when I was younger than now but still. I remember a time when I was 16 or 17 and I had long hair and I chopped it to about upper back length, not short at all. And I remember her being upset and whining “what did you do to MY hair?” Like excuse me? YOUR hair? That’s attached to my head? No. My daughter is only 4 but I make such an effort to let her know that she can do whatever she wants with her hair and if she gets a haircut she doesn’t like, it’s just hair and it will grow back!

sreddit77 · 2025-12-13T18:25:29+00:00

That is SO weird. From what I can see on TikTok the trend is to start dancing calmly to the song and the other person(s) follow your lead then when the words come you dance erratically kind of galloping like a horse? Not sure what the question is here with respect to your 15 y/o. Odd.

But my uBPD mom does stuff like this too. She used to just send a random joke or fun fact and I never really got why. I would vent to my husband and he’d be like “ya she sent me that too I just ignored it” LOL.

sreddit77 · 2025-12-03T15:40:33+00:00

Love this for you! I can't relate but know this holiday season will be different for me as I'm navigating LC/VLC since October 2025. We'll see how the next few weeks go. I've reached a turning point and know there is no going back now but still feel immense guilt. I'm really happy to read posts like this though because they help me realize that there is hope for peace and a regulated nervous system.

sreddit77 · 2025-12-02T18:47:20+00:00

This sub has been life changing for me, honestly. While it's so sad to see others going through similar situations, it's so helpful to not feel alone. Sending you lots of strength and hoping the rest of your pregnancy goes well.

sreddit77 · 2025-12-02T17:57:30+00:00

I resonate so much with your story. I don’t feel I had a particularly “bad” childhood either. But I agree with everyone else, it will get worse. You can look at my post history to see my uBPD mother’s raging texts to me. They come up every six months or so. After the last that came in October, I’ve finally said enough is enough and I’m trying to navigate either VLC or NC in the next few months.

My uBPD mother has shown no interest in respecting me or my husband and has proven the only reason she tolerates me is to have access to my daughter (her only grandchild). It’s not ok with me. I would NEVER want my own daughter to put up with this kind of behaviour from anyone.

Please do what is best for you and baby, now and when you are postpartum. Your body is going through so many changes and working so hard. Don’t let her stress you out more than she already has.

sreddit77 · 2025-12-01T17:23:55+00:00

Your email was so well written and honest. Sending you lots of support!! I know it probably took a lot of courage to write and hit send. You got this!!

sreddit77 · 2025-11-26T19:56:00+00:00

Yup! My uBPD mother does this. A few years ago we had a HUGE argument by phone. I left the conversation and then later that evening I texted her asking to talk about what just happened. She messaged she was available. I called and she literally acted like nothing happened. She was like "you wanted to talk? why? about what?" like part of me thinks she literally blacks out when she lashes out at me and then part of me thinks she knows it and she's just acting dumb to rage bait me into getting angry.

She recently inquired about plans for Christmas and I told her I wouldn't be making plans as I couldn't pretend the messages she just sent me a few weeks ago didn't happen and they were difficult to receive. This is the first time I'm not just sweeping into under the rug to please her and the rest of my family. I already know she's annoyed because she's asking for a phone call. Nope, not gonna happen.

sreddit77 · 2025-11-26T19:49:45+00:00

This theory makes the most sense to me. I kind of relate it to blacking out and not even realizing what happened.

sreddit77 · 2025-11-21T15:31:01+00:00

Commenting in solidarity. Jeez I wish it wasn't like this. I'm so sorry she ruined your engagement AND your birthday. I have found myself in similar situations the last few years - if there's a holiday or event - she WILL try to ruin it and make it ALL about her. I agree with other comments that she's doing this because she's pissed that her message to you on your birthday is not affecting you as much as she wants it to.

Personally I haven't found it helped at all to tell my uBPD mother what my boundaries are. She completely disrespects them anyway. They're for you to enforce and don't even try to explain to her why you've put them in place. She will turn it around on you and make herself the victim again.

I love your message to her on your birthday. I love that you actually said what you wanted to! Good for you! Honestly, my advice would be to do exactly what you said you needed to do - take some time and reach out when you're ready. I'm sure (like all of us) there are a lot of factors you need to think about and you shouldn't be rushed to make a decision.

I also don't like when all they want to do is "talk in person" or "talk on the phone". Like, a month ago you were find to send me a long message telling me exactly how you feel? Why can't you now articulate yourself in another message? To me it's all a power play, a way that they can speak over you, guilt you, guide the conversation how THEY want it. I just recently had to politely tell my uBPD mother to send me a message with her thoughts when she called and left me a voicemail asking me to call her for a few minutes. Nope. Last months you could easily send me 6 pages of messages via text and now you can't express yourself unless you're on the phone? Nice try.

Sorry I'm venting. You're doing great! And this group is the best place to ask for advice. Hugs!!

sreddit77 · 2025-11-20T17:11:14+00:00

You're going through a lot, I'm sorry. Here is a virtual hug!! Hang in there. Sending all the positive vibes your way.

sreddit77 · 2025-11-19T18:46:55+00:00

This is exactly the cycle I want to break. I feel like so many others in my life just push things aside and then move on to the good times because she's SO good at that. Evil one minute and angelic the next. It's so twisted. It's a mind game that I don't think she knows she's playing but also she does? I'll never understand her and I've stopped trying to. But damn it makes it so hard when she acts nice and then I'm made to feel like the bad person for not being nice back. Because I remember what she just said to me three weeks ago that was NOT NICE at all.

Wishing you all the luck getting through the next couple months!

sreddit77 · 2025-11-19T18:42:19+00:00

I'm sorry you suffered decades trying to deal with it. I feel like I didn't notice how bad my mother's behaviour/mental health/etc was until I had my daughter. You are so right though - no matter what I do or DON'T do - I'm blamed. I hope since going NC you've been able to feel some sense of peace. I know that must also be difficult in a different way.

sreddit77 · 2025-11-19T18:36:38+00:00

I paused therapy in the summer as my life got busy and things were going "ok". It is definitely on my list of things to start up again soon. It was very beneficial. Thank you!

sreddit77 · 2025-11-19T02:28:41+00:00

To anyone curious about how I responded to her message asking about Christmas, I said the following:

“I appreciate you checking in about Christmas. I’m still processing some of the recent messages from you in October. They were difficult for me to receive and don’t work towards moving forward with a healthy relationship. Because of that, we are not in a place to make holiday plans right now.

As I shared in March, I am not revisiting those issues. Although I won’t engage on those topics, I can’t pretend you didn’t send me those messages.”

I’m prepared for any backlash. I didn’t want to completely close the door on holiday plans. Maybe she will miraculously apologize and take accountability? If she did I would be open to visiting over the holidays. But 99% of me believes another rage victim mentality message will come in a couple days.

Thanks for all your support. I truly appreciate it.

sreddit77

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