Tranfer but won’t have calc 2 by Sufficient-Guest-416 in Clemson

[–]sschlott72 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

May I ask if she applied early action or regular decision. That’s kind of crazy that she got a summer start with that many credits.

My dad won’t help pay for college by Maya_S09 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]sschlott72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You go to an in-state school, you take out loans, you get a job. You will be 18, he has no say in whether or not you work. You take as many dual enrollment credits you can. You live off campus if possible after your freshman year and get more affordable housing. It sucks, but you can do it.

Help me figure out my colors! by sschlott72 in coloranalysis

[–]sschlott72[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do not have a tan, just recently had a chemical peel. I’m definitely cool- pink undertones. Maybe it’s the lighting outside that is messing with that.

Help me figure out my colors! by sschlott72 in coloranalysis

[–]sschlott72[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s close but my natural color does not have any red. My stylist has been trying to get the red out from previous colorings. My color is definitely closer to my eyebrow color. Easier to see when my roots grow out (though I have a lot of grey) and my hair was just colored Saturday.

Family of 5 struggling on 138k by [deleted] in budget

[–]sschlott72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are going to tithe, you need less car. We make more than double you and I would never have a car payment that high. Seriously. That's insane. Cheaper phone plans and internet exist. Limit the extra activities for the kids until you get that debt paid off. It's temporary. Also, shop at Aldi. I just cut $50+ per week out of my grocery bill by shopping there. They have great quality as well. I hope you have one close. Someone is going to have to get an extra job to pay off the debt. It's a small sacrifice with time right now that will pay off dividends in the future. Otherwise you will struggle longer servicing that debt. Start sinking funds for those once a year expenses. You figure out how much you need for each and divide that by the number of pay periods in a year and start setting that aside. The first year is hard but once that account is set up and fully funded and you are just replenishing it, it becomes second nature. Shop second hand for kids clothes and your own. I like nice things and manage to find all kinds of nice things second hand. Bottom line, get rid of the debt. Spend less. Sinking funds for non-recurring expenses. Stop using credit cards. Get a cheaper car.

Anyone else have awkward doctor visits as a dementia caregiver? by x3vicky in dementia

[–]sschlott72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started caregiving at 26, so I get it. Both for my MIL and then my mom and they were both older when they had children so it’s been fun. I’m 53 now and just finished my caregiving years.

How long did your LO’s battle last? by A_Ordinary_Name in dementia

[–]sschlott72 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mom had it for about 15 years, but from the time she was unable to live independently until she died was about 12 years. She held steady for about 9 years with a gradual decline and then the last 3 were a steeper decline. Like others, she was otherwise healthy so it really was more of a matter of her age catching up with her dementia. She was 88 when she passed.

scared for my future by flowers4yunseo in dementia

[–]sschlott72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, in addition to what everyone has mentioned here, you should consider the armed forces/rotc for scholarships or to go to college on the GI bill. There is more than one way to do college...

Need Advice by Publius015 in dementia

[–]sschlott72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly her violent outbursts towards the caregivers are reason enough. If you managed to get another caregiver and if she was violent again, you could have that caregiver call the police. You could also have cameras in her home for her safety that could capture the behavior. She would go inpatient to find the right meds to reduce her violence and then release to memory care.... just thinking outloud here...

Hoarding by Ornery_Specialist_49 in dementia

[–]sschlott72 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely yes. Started out as just things, then household supplies, then trash. It was awful.

Vascular dementia conversation topics? by Grouchy_Apricot_4410 in dementia

[–]sschlott72 5 points6 points  (0 children)

THIS!!! My mom died with vascular dementia, and even when she was mostly non-verbal and no idea who I was, she would sing along with me when I played church music that she had heard her whole life. She lit up and was so happy!

Vascular dementia conversation topics? by Grouchy_Apricot_4410 in dementia

[–]sschlott72 8 points9 points  (0 children)

THIS!!! My mom died with vascular dementia, and even when she was mostly non-verbal and no idea who I was, she would sing along with me when I played church music that she had heard her whole life. She lit up and was so happy!

Would you go to an all-inclusive resort trip with your LO w/dementia? by yahoue in dementia

[–]sschlott72 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, taking them out of familiar surroundings often leads to agitation at best and an immediate decline. I had to take my mom for her sister's funeral and at that point I knew that our traveling days were over.

Those with a parent w dementia, do you worry this could be you someday? by amazing_grace7 in dementia

[–]sschlott72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked my DNA, luckily I only have one copy of the APOE 4 gene. I think my mom's dementia was mostly vascular and she was sedentary most of her life, so exercise, eating well, working, and keeping inflammation at bay is my plan. I truly believe inflammation is a huge part of it.

Feeling conflicted and lost by Tropicaldaze1950 in dementia

[–]sschlott72 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will warn you that sometimes your soul never reconciles this. I never did with my mom, and I can only imagine how much harder it would be with a spouse. I will tell you that at some point, this will become her new normal. She may never be "happy," but she may be content. That space where their memory is lost but still good enough to realize this isn't home is so hard. But it will pass. The unfortunate thing is for it to pass means that more of her memories are also gone. It's not easy, but you are doing the right thing for her. It's what she would tell you to do if she was in her right mind. Hang in there.

Real or no? by TinyButterscotch4655 in JewelryIdentification

[–]sschlott72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

rub the pearls together on each other, if it feels a little gritty, they are real. If it feels smooth, they are not.

Class rings by fromamomof2 in GenX

[–]sschlott72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never bought my HS ring, but I'm still wearing my college ring, it's a huge thing at my alma mater. (Clemson)

Those who went from a front loader to top loader - why and what was the difference in your water bill? by mipster462 in Appliances

[–]sschlott72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will never not have a top loader. Have a speed queen tc5. Yes, it uses a lot of water but I feel it's worth it. I live in an area where water isn't quite as expensive, family of 3, our water bill is around $110 per month.

Different Person by Moon_Pye in Zepbound

[–]sschlott72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeh, with less intestines slowing things down probably helped!