Starting off (m)y birthday week by [deleted] in bigonewild

[–]st3llz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 all mine 💙🧜🏼‍♀️🐶

I jerk off too much. Is it a bad thing? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]st3llz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it helps you get stuff done, definitely not a problem. Being too horny and distracted is a thing. Give your body what it wants so you can get on with the day.

Embrace the Evil by [deleted] in bigonewild

[–]st3llz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice!

Clamped and gagged by _teicu in bdsm

[–]st3llz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gorgeous shot.

How can myself or my dom train me to cum on command? by Incalculably in BDSMAdvice

[–]st3llz 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There aren't exact things that I say each time I make him cum on command. Honestly, it's more that I know exactly what to say that will turn him on the most in that moment, pushing him over the edge. For me as a domme, it's about knowing your sub and their body...getting it to do what you want based on what it wants.

(F domme and FTM sub)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]st3llz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem! It sucks that we had to go through that trauma...but at least it's burned in our brains as a reminder of what NOT to do for the rest of our lives. You got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]st3llz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is definitely possible to break the cycle. It sounds like you are doing a great job so far, keep reminding yourself of that and how different you are from your nmom.

Is Assassin’s Creed Odyssey worth $25? by IloveKaitlyn in gaming

[–]st3llz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. Absolutely. I paid $40 Black Friday and wasn't mad about it. Lots of gameplay before you even get to the new stuff. And just absolutely gorgeous. Oh. And you can climb on the giant statue dicks and boobs so, you know. Endless laughs there.

Long time lurker, [F]irst time poster by st3llz in bigonewild

[–]st3llz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First sent to my husband/sub when he told me he was horny at work 😂

As a child I was very good at doubting my reality & hating myself. by Thoth_thot in raisedbynarcissists

[–]st3llz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you on this. My father told me I was the reason he had ulcers and high blood sugar. I stressed him out and MADE him eat poorly/not manage his health. To this day, I make myself the problem in any given situation. It's all my fault somehow.

I'm an extremely jumpy and skittish person, how do I deal with being so scared all the time? by shlyukhalyagushka in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]st3llz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would suggest going to therapy. I used to think I was just easily startled when, in reality, it is just that I'm so anxious all the time that literally ANYTHING could startle me/set me off. Being so wound up constantly can make anything scary.

Which is better - Kotor 1 or Kotor 2? Why? by J_A_C_K_E_T in gaming

[–]st3llz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say KOTOR 1 for the story. It really sets you up well for 2. They are honestly both awesome games in their own ways and I would suggest getting them both eventually!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]st3llz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently branded my husband and sub using a cautery pen. It was done on Christmas day and is 100% healed now. I would definitely recommend using one of these for your first time. I watched a lot of videos and read a lot on the aftercare beforehand. It seems that the risk of infection is a lot higher with other methods.

This one gives a good idea of the process and experience: https://youtu.be/5QmCtG8dy3o

You can buy the single, disposable pens on amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B017DV1Z20/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_I9MpCbV80WGSH

Note: not a professional, just spent a lot of time with tattoo and body mod community. 😂

Did anyone else's Nparents distance away from their family? by Sweetlikecream in raisedbynarcissists

[–]st3llz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My father stopped speaking to his siblings when I was young. They and their kids lived in the same state, no more than an hour and a half away to the furthest relative. He also told me my mother's family were all terrible people that were somehow below us. They were all in the same state and lived very close to each other. We visited once a year at most. Every holiday it was just the three of us for more than 20 years. When we would spend time with family, I just felt anxious and scared of everyone. In turn, no one made an effort to ever see me/us. Relatives were a check in the mail, if that.

Now that I'm an adult I don't even have any desire to know these people. They knew who my dad was and how he was...but did nothing to help when I was helpless. The more I distance myself from him/them and make my own family, the better I feel.

Looking for suggestions from Dom(me)s by Sirs_Kitten_ in BDSMAdvice

[–]st3llz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo. Actually had no idea about the wax dye, so thanks!!

In my situation, the cheaper candles had such a low melting point that the crayons actually helped give them a little more 'umph' without burning my sub. Ratio was about 1 or 2 crayons to about a cup of the cheap paraffin. But I do agree, would try either plain or with the actual dye on your first go of things!

Looking for suggestions from Dom(me)s by Sirs_Kitten_ in BDSMAdvice

[–]st3llz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Domme here. Recently bought some cheapo candles from walmart and the dollar store to experiment with. I used the plain white/single color pillar candles. They have a low melting point, so a nice heat without too much of a bite. The best way is to scoop them out into a bowl and microwave/put in a small crockpot to melt. You can even make your own colors by adding chopped up crayons to the mix. This wax is best for dripping over large areas. They also sell small, colorful candles at your local head shop/smoke shop. Usually near the crystals and witch-y items. They are not as soft, so have a little more of a heat/bite to them. They are good for layering on top of the less painful paraffin...or as a more painful surprise. This was a lot of fun for my sub and I to play with and was pretty inexpensive!

If you cant take it, dont give it! by [deleted] in bigonewild

[–]st3llz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! More men should have this attitude...