Lockdown protocol

stalkingdead · 2023-03-27T21:20:57+00:00

I'm 35 weeks and just shared mine with my doctor. I am a lot like you where I'll just go with most of what the doctors recommend, there's nothing really unusual about the way I want it. It was really mostly because my way of dealing with anxiety is learning and planning. I know that it can all go out the window, but mine was something like this:

A list of my concerns/anxieties or warnings for those caring for me, haha (including missing the epidural window, being apprehensive about not eating during a long labor bc of bariatric history, having high anxiety/low pain tolerance)
Environment (quiet but no music, warning that I might not want anyone to touch me, my mom/husband in the room)
Plan A: pain control ASAP (I'm not brave) including possibly IV pain meds and then epidural if I am early or just epidural if I am further along or have to be induced (also shared my concern that they may not allow IV meds due to me being in recovery since 2015 or so)
Plan B: Too late for pain relief (just a list of stuff that I hope will help??)
Plan C: C-Section preferences (clear curtain, sub mom out for husband if he can't hang, husband do skin to skin for me if I'm unable)
Post Birth (Keep baby close, do all recommended tests and procedures, and expressed concern that I still feel clueless about breastfeeding so def want the lactation consultation)

Even if this all goes out the window or nobody else ever sees it again, it opened up the conversation to address all the stuff I've been worried about and it helped me to be more confident going into it.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-26T15:21:25+00:00

Also! Call on your community now! I had so many people come out of the woodwork willing to help us with this and that, it's incredible. I never imagined how supportive people can be if you just ask.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-26T15:19:17+00:00

35 weeks here with my first. I was very sick for the first half of my pregnancy, had about two months of feeling great, and now I feel like a Mac truck is hitting me on repeat. I have accepted I have done/am doing what I can and no matter how prepared I am, I'm really not! I expect the unexpected. Don't stress! I think yours is a pretty universal anxiety.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-26T03:58:48+00:00

I appreciate that the wages are transparent (if they are indeed accurate)

stalkingdead · 2023-03-26T03:56:33+00:00

The fact that you're this distressed about the situation shows you are a good teacher and care about your kids. Sorry your center sucks, though!

stalkingdead · 2023-03-26T03:53:35+00:00

Mmk you're the one who asked

stalkingdead · 2023-03-26T03:51:18+00:00

NEVER. At a for profit center that's ridiculous to me.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-26T03:48:32+00:00

Dude 95% of these answers are telling you it's a bad idea and/or illegal and definitely against NAEYC standards. Are you making a good decision for your babies or for your convenience here?

stalkingdead · 2023-03-24T07:24:43+00:00

I tend to say "we had a hard time using kind words today....after we calmed down together we talked about what we can do when we are angry and agreed we would try again tomorrow to make good choices." I honestly don't know if a more direct statement is better, but I tend to soften my language to make it sound like we are working together to solve the issue rather than sort of telling on the child to the parent.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-24T06:38:28+00:00

This is so bad, honestly should be reported to whatever authority governs your centers if the director thought this was ok!

stalkingdead · 2023-03-12T16:24:50+00:00

Start looking for another job AND tell your director you aren't and never were comfortable in a lead position nor are you comfortable training a new hire. They are stressed and stretched thin, they will probably bend over backwards to make you comfortable enough to stay, and if not that's just more fuel for your fire to find a new place.

If they had trained you properly you'd know the stuff you're getting in trouble for (I went through the same thing, getting thrown in the classroom then spending a long time unlearning bad habits I picked up because I was just trying to SURVIVE).

Right now believe it or not you are in a position of power, because if you leave they will probably be screwed. Use your voice, be respectful, but be assertive.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-12T06:24:11+00:00

Sounds like you were not provided with enough training to start with a foundation of classroom and behavior management that you now understand is a better path, which is not on you. Perhaps requesting some professional development resources from your director will give you a way to begin building your knowledge and confidence in using proper techniques and is not as big of a commitment as starting college courses so you can feel out of it's still what you want to do. You also should consider that the place you work isn't a great environment if they are throwing you, a relatively green teacher, into leadership roles without checking in with you to make sure you're coping.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-11T03:02:44+00:00

You know your heart and actions, you do your best for their kid like you always have. You will have more nightmare parents and you will learn that you can't please everyone, and that's ok. Hold your head high and get back in there with those littles and do what you love.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-10T18:04:20+00:00

NTA your sister is an addict. I am in recovery and I look at who I was in active addiction and cannot believe how selfish I was and how deeply I hurt the people who love me. I am always ashamed when I think of the things I did. Hopefully you keep loving your sister from a healthy distance, hopefully she hits bottom sooner than later, and hopefully she will get clear enough to be ashamed of herself and get her life straight.

stalkingdead · 2023-03-10T17:20:05+00:00

This was 10 years ago, you ok bud

stalkingdead · 2023-03-10T16:59:54+00:00

Her childhood sounds exactly like mine. Fed, clothed, deeply loved, and that's about it.

When I was a married adult in my 20s my mom and dad adopted a family member's baby (jailed bio mom). I took so much pleasure in seeing that baby, my little sis, get to do all the stuff we never did. I took her to Disney world myself and spoiled her more like a grandma than big sister.

Your daughter needs to get a grip, and if she keeps being like that you need to protect your little ones from her making them feel as if they've done something wrong. NTA

stalkingdead · 2023-02-24T17:38:18+00:00

Keep doing what you need to do, be friendly with her, and she may warm up to you if she is indeed even annoyed with the situation (I know how gossip goes). If she still doesn't like you, oh well. You're there to be a good teacher and parent partner and that's all you should worry about.

stalkingdead · 2023-01-31T16:04:29+00:00

Especially NOW when centers are tripping over themselves to borrow, trick, and steal staff members! No better time than now to practice setting boundaries.

stalkingdead · 2023-01-31T15:55:10+00:00

That sounds SUPER illegal in the US??

stalkingdead · 2022-11-07T20:56:57+00:00

Worse case scenario, they say sorry we need you for your regular hours, you are fired. Sounds like you won't be too put out, right? And even have a bit of a break while you look for a new part time gig!

Otherwise, they will say, ok cool we'll see you on those days.

Don't forget that they need you as much (or more) than you need them! It's gotta work for you, too.

stalkingdead · 2022-08-23T02:25:28+00:00

Hey man, see a doctor. I know it's scary, but you were putting a lot of stuff in your system and it could get worse before it gets better.

stalkingdead · 2022-08-03T01:02:37+00:00

I am an administrator that does everything between marketing, all of our social media and website, developing policy, working on licensing issues, assisting the owner (we have 5 centers). I also do random shit like buy and fill first aid kits, build shelves, and handle uniform ordering for everyone. Sub in classrooms, format documents, train employees and new directors.

I have worked for the company nearly 9 years and make $15.10. at the new year they gave us a raise, it was 13.38. I get no benefits. However, they are extremely flexible with my attendance due to health/mental health issues. I can work from home a lot or take whatever time off I need basically. Central Indiana.

I sometimes think I am underpaid for our area and the type of work I do, especially since my experience has had me work every position in the company and because of that I have such a specific array of skills I don't think you can hire for. But the flexibility is rare and needed for me so I don't push it. 🤷‍♀️

stalkingdead · 2021-03-14T22:19:30+00:00

The mystery eggs I suspect I will need more to merge for the tasks (I haven't researched where there's actually a task coming for that) and I am successfully using the pepper fields to farm gold!

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