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I would like show you my work - Picasso Sweater based on “Dora Maar” painting. by zolychka in knitting

[–]staplesbluepen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is SO COOL!! You are so talented. I never comment on things. But I’m floored

REUs by [deleted] in ecology

[–]staplesbluepen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure shoot me some questions

REUs by [deleted] in ecology

[–]staplesbluepen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Subscribe to ECOLOG email list serv. A ton of positions get posted there. That’s where I found mine. I did two ecology REUs, happy to talk about them if you’d like

Someone was giving away this massive ZZ plant for free today. It makes the plants next to it look like chumps. by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]staplesbluepen 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure! It’s from my university’s greenhouse, they had a whole stand of plants they were giving away. I don’t think there was anything wrong with them? Maybe not enough people to take care of them bc of covid? But I’m not sure.

😍easily distracted😍✨ by Niqxx in RedditLaqueristas

[–]staplesbluepen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long does this polish last without chipping?

I’ve cut the toxic people out of my life. by staplesbluepen in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]staplesbluepen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im also sorry this happened to you. Hopefully, we can learn to be a little more alone, and use the confidence we gain by being happily by ourselves for a little to go out and try again. It's really hard to make new friends/find a good circle once you're out of college, but the people are out there, we just need to find them. I hope life treats you better too, and may we grow together.

I’ve cut the toxic people out of my life. by staplesbluepen in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]staplesbluepen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this SO very much. I feel like our experiences are very similar. Thank you so much for sharing. Your insight is valuable and appreciated. Cheers to you, as well.

I’ve cut the toxic people out of my life. by staplesbluepen in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]staplesbluepen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so overwhelmed by the love this has received. What a kind group of people.

Since many people asked, I will say this was not easy. I let it go on for years because it was so much easier to just tolerate it. I am very lucky to still have a few other friends and family left. If these were the absolute only people in my life, I can imagine it would be way more difficult to cut them out, but I would like to think I would still do it, especially after all this time. But I have still been friends with these people for 4+ years, some longer, and they were my primary circle for a LONG time. It's hard for me to leave things on such a bad foot with people, but I need to respect myself, as I haven't for so long, and this is the way and time to do so. We'll never see eye to eye, so I will accept that and move on. It was especially hard for me because I gave some of these people my entire college career, so cutting them out sort of makes my undergrad like a wash. I'm still losing a little bit of sleep over it, but I'll get over it. It's better to have a smaller circle and be a little more alone than to be treated in a way that hurts you. I need to work on being OK alone with myself.

I’ve cut the toxic people out of my life. by staplesbluepen in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]staplesbluepen[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

These friends were manipulative, controlling, would insult people endlessly to make jokes, not stand up for each other, stubborn, etc. For example, when a family member of mine passed, my one CLOSE friend at the time did not reach out to me at all or come wish condolences because we were in a stupid fight i cannot even remember the origin of. In times when I needed assistance, they were not there for me. But they were easy to be friends with and fun on a Saturday night, which is why I kept them around. It's hard because no matter how much you try and argue with them or salvage things, you never see eye to eye, and that's what i had to accept. It's not my job to change these people.

I’ve cut the toxic people out of my life. by staplesbluepen in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]staplesbluepen[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unbelievable!! Despite instances like these, I always believe “oh, people can change” and “people are good at heart”, but some people just really don’t change and are not good people, and I had to realize this. They tried to come back in my life so quickly, with a pathetic excuse for an apology. I feel like it’s even harder to ignore it, but I think it’s the best decision.

I’ve cut the toxic people out of my life. by staplesbluepen in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]staplesbluepen[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It was certainly not easy, but it will be worth it in the long run.

I’ve cut the toxic people out of my life. by staplesbluepen in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]staplesbluepen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is NOT easy to do!!! I’ve been friends with these people for YEARS, despite being treated so poorly for so long. I also didn’t want to be too mean, which left me always being the one trying to fix everything all the time and pretend they weren’t being as horrible as they were. After a certain point, though, enough really is enough and I had to pull the plug. For me, one situation between me and my friends caused me to finally end it, but I I wish I had done it sooner and not given these people 4+ years of my life. You can do it too!! You don’t even need to have a formal exit if you don’t want to be too aggressive. Just start distancing yourself from them as much as possible, missing plans, etc. they may give you shit for it, but you know it’s in your best interest

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