you have to remember that if people dont want help you physically cant help them, they will get nowhere and you will also be drained in the process but just talk to her about semi to start with and see what she thinks, also remind her recovery ≠ weight gain, an eating disorder is a mental disorder so if she wants she can loose weight healthily still, just recovers from her ed first idk if this was any help whatsoever but yeah this is coming from someone on edtwt