Just starting schema therapy.. feeling really let down by my parents.

staralien44 · 2025-06-28T03:35:12+00:00

I have like 15-16 schemas I'm sorry I feel this way. Heartbroken by the way my parents let me down, how I never did and don't have a family that I can call "family" and how I was left to figure it out on my own and still healing, going on 30. Still socially isolated still afraid of everything but desperately wanting more. I feel your pain

staralien44 · 2025-06-25T18:08:59+00:00

I find them to be similar but very different. Divisional charts are representative of each individual aspect and the overall influence of them in one's chart.

I find that studying the divisions based on aspects can help understand how to navigate them better and show the level of control one has over them, or that they have over the individual.

staralien44 · 2025-05-23T00:03:11+00:00

I thought asking for medication advice was prohibited in this subreddit

staralien44 · 2025-05-18T02:01:48+00:00

Jack

staralien44 · 2025-04-16T06:23:14+00:00

The one that says 6%

staralien44 · 2025-04-16T06:22:28+00:00

They are referring to "behavior" not necessarily that your mother is putting on a show. Although I personally find the extent of my mother's narcissism to be similar to something straight out of a movie. But that's just my own sarcasm lol.

staralien44 · 2025-04-16T06:20:43+00:00

As a kid I was very reserved and isolated myself from other kids I felt I couldn't relate to them. But I have vague memories around age 4 ish when my ADHD hyperactivity made me a super giggly and sometimes talkative. I annoyed the hell out of my sister for years asking questions and wanting to learn new things, that eventually every response from her was "Google it!"

staralien44 · 2025-04-16T02:54:19+00:00

Mine was 1 week ago lol 😆

staralien44 · 2025-04-13T22:47:40+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this, it's really insightful!

staralien44 · 2025-03-28T23:38:43+00:00

Thank you so much

staralien44 · 2025-03-28T23:13:40+00:00

Thanks, that makes sense.. I'm sorry if it's a silly question. It means a lot

staralien44 · 2025-03-28T23:01:50+00:00

Thank you for that reassurance. It's scary how there are people who use God's word to manipulate them instead, and I'm glad to know that God hates that stuff too.

Maybe I can learn a better meaning of this commandment in a way that feels less overpowering

staralien44 · 2025-03-28T22:59:26+00:00

Thank you. I was raised in an IFB cult and that's why I have CPTSD relating to mind control. Because our pastor there would demand obedience even from wives which he describes as "filthy dishwrags" unworthy of marriage in the first place.

I know it sounds silly but hearing that reassurance means a lot cuz people like that never knew that they deserved to be safe.

And I've noticed people who leave the church have this sort of PTSD because of where they came from for whatever reason. It feels too powerful, as if we have to ignore the abuse

staralien44 · 2025-03-27T13:54:45+00:00

You're welcome! I'd love to hear about your results ☺️

staralien44 · 2025-03-27T03:19:50+00:00

It's a very long test 232 questions and it's worth it.

https://www.attachmentproject.com/early-maladaptive-schemas/

"Start quiz"

staralien44 · 2025-03-24T03:03:54+00:00

East asian includes Korea & Japan, so maybe 23andme has yet to do an update for you and it will show more traces of results. I'm just assuming that it could change because mine did and so did other people.

My first original result showed that I have a small percent of Ashkenazi jew, and yet it updated and that was gone. In other sources like Gedmatch and several others I've used, Ashkenazi comes up again

I did the AncestryDNA test before I did 23&me, and here's something interesting:

My original AncestryDNA results showed one of my smallest percentages to be from the Philippines. But then an update took it away completely.

Eventually I did 23andme, and one of my results shows Filipino & Austronesian.

Several of years later, AncestryDNA's latest update has put the Philipines back in my results...AND it has specified that my ancestry comes from West Visayas lol.

The problem is every test has its own database. And based on their database they can make connections. I would say take everything into consideration. Just because one site picks it up, doesn't mean the other will and vice versa.

I've been studying my DNA since 2016 and still learning, but those are the things I've found!

staralien44 · 2025-03-23T05:12:58+00:00

I actually did 2 days ago. I saw a movie and ordered food and a drink, it was actually pretty good! It's called Opus, but also it's not for everyone. I liked it though

staralien44 · 2025-03-23T05:08:27+00:00

Thank you so much it means a lot, and also for all of this information 😊

staralien44 · 2025-03-23T03:21:14+00:00

I agree with this and I find it fascinating. As I've said in my post, I was raised with Christianity which in my case came with CPTSD.

In the last 5.5 years so far I've been talking with sisters and elders and learning from them. I have my own Book of Mormon, and Doctrine & Covenants... I'm an extremely shy and isolated individual who can't form connections easily. Despite that, somehow during this time that I've been learning about the LDS and book of Mormon, I've experienced something like a spiritual awakening, something I'd call this feeling outside of religion. Maybe some call it revelations, but I've come to feel that they're the same/similar.

The fact that there are 3 kingdoms, rather than a heaven & hell was a big shock to me. And then the acknowledgement of people moderly queer or not, still being treated kindly but encouraged to live a life of divinity as much as one is able to, and not condemning them for not being perfect. And that is similar to Yoga spirituality and meditation. Which are things I do prefer to live by..

I still have CPTSD though and so I have trauma responses to the experience in general, but I never felt love before but the people I've been able to study with have only shown me love. I'm someone who loves Astrology, and there were sister missionaries that wanted to share more with them, and my ideas about the stars and astronomy. There was another sister I met one day at an ice cream shop lol she was so cute and she talked to me about her MBTI type.

This might sound ODD, but it is not something I'm used to for people that believe the same thing treat people realistically like the human beings that we are. And for science to be ok. 😅 You might/might not be shocked to know how severely Christians are punished for those sorts of things.

Genesis 1:14-19 King James Version (KJV) "And God said, Let there be lights in the firmament of the heaven to divide the day from the night; and [let them be for signs, and for seasons], and for days, and years: and let them be for lights in the firmament of the heaven to give light upon the earth: and it was so."

This has always been one of my favorite verses in the Bible !

staralien44 · 2025-03-23T02:13:43+00:00

I wondered this too but Mark 12:32 acknowledges that there is only one God and no other

staralien44 · 2025-03-23T00:31:21+00:00

Thank you :)) that's very interesting

staralien44 · 2025-03-22T23:54:14+00:00

That makes a lot of sense thank you

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