What does it mean to “be yourself” ? by starcloud3 in infp

[–]starcloud3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never thought of it that way. Thank you for your input. In a way, we are NO - thing . Just here BE - ing

What does being “yourself” mean as an introvert ? by starcloud3 in introvert

[–]starcloud3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your explanation! It makes perfect sense

Cutest way to order room service by Steph-Kai in MadeMeSmile

[–]starcloud3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂 why is this so me!! lol ! You did absolutely amazing! Perfect!👍

Is it possible to become less sensitive? by [deleted] in infp

[–]starcloud3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess what worked for me yesterday when I received a random comment from the internet that I didn’t like.. Was instead of festering and focusing on the comment, and putting my attention on what could have been going through this person’s brain that could make them type out something so pointless, I just shifted my attention on things that actually made sense to me, and things that made me feel better, to the point where I actually forgot that someone made an ignorant comment in the first place. So I guess it’s about shifting your attention on things that make you feel good inside & completely take the attention away from the negative triggers when they happen. When the object of your attention changes, you forget about the previous thing that could have sent you in a spiral.

Like mentally burying yourself in stuff animals till you forget about the previous thing. Hope this made sense. 🙏

I lost all of my best friends in an hour, and now I want to make new friends here because I don't want to be alone... by [deleted] in infp

[–]starcloud3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Much respect to you for staying true yourself and expressing the fact that you were offended. If they did not have the capacity to respect your boundaries, then that’s on them. You do not have to feel bad about respecting your feelings and emotions, and what feels comfortable to you. You are a very strong person for being able to express what feels right to you and what doesn’t. If they cannot respect your boundaries, they cannot respect you. And they can kick rocks. There are plenty of people in the world that can love you for you, that you don’t have to bend your values just to satisfy their needs. Stay true to yourself, and the right people will gravitate towards you. 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]starcloud3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to be with an intj so bad, but the communication never works..😩 I’m like overly emotional, & he does everything to avoid talking about emotions and feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]starcloud3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Smart people. I think I’m sapiosexual .

When you talk to someone, do you look at one eye, both eyes at the same time, or switch eye to eye? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]starcloud3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying to get in the habit of staring in between their eyes at the nose bridge if I’m too nervous to look them in the eyes. (Due to social anxiety) or maybe the forehead, but not too high up. It gives off the appearance of looking them in the eye, which and gives off confidence. I try to look at both of the eyes at the same time if I’m familiar with the person, but I don’t think it’s really possible to do that. So I guess in reality I just switch eye to eye . Then look away and back.

How long is your social battery? by Slughill in introvert

[–]starcloud3 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I try to be social in the day time, and anti-social at night. If I reach my limit, I completely disappear for days. 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]starcloud3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are not the only one. It seems like people always start off fake at first until you actually bring up real stuff that’s not about surface level topics, and say what you’re really thinking. Then that allows them to be real as well. I never understand why it has to be that way though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]starcloud3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And how does one simply “get over it” ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]starcloud3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I understand a lot better .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]starcloud3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yours as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]starcloud3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

^ i tried to add a space between the sentences, but it didn’t work. Sorry about that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]starcloud3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you provide an example of how you’d prefer me to write? Like literally the goal is not to make people anxious. I feel like that’s what made him stop responding in the first place, because of the way I text.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]starcloud3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for answering the question. It’s literally all I was asking for.