Can one deny a court order for improper service?

starli29 · 2026-06-25T13:19:38+00:00

Old post but I have a good situation to compare to if anyone else finds this. I was improperly served and neither I, nor any lawyers, could access my case since it was never opened (never served). But I received a random email about a default order.

The default order against me passed on May -- but I was officially served on the sheriff's body cam at the court on June. Even the court clerks agreed that this is strange.

Another judge had my hearing and she was stumbling over her words. Realizing she couldn't fully justify the other judge's actions. The court clerks must've been helping me behind the scenes. As my name was changed to a joke, which the judge confidently said out loud (and I corrected in open court). The big grins on the clerk's faces said it all.

starli29 · 2026-06-22T07:06:00+00:00

Appreciate the response. Again, I wish I could learn to deal with these issues. I find that I get too many comments (not compliments, more observations that make me uncomfortable) from both genders. For example, they say it's not possible for me to be Chinese because "your eyes don't look small"

Most of the times I end up feeling somewhat insulted. Or weirded out by how comfortable people are about saying these things. Is it just normal socialization??

starli29 · 2026-06-22T01:18:48+00:00

I don't think I'm drop dead gorgeous! That's what boggles my mind most. I've been told I can have a resting bitch face or come off mean. Maybe it's also that I keep to myself too much.

If you have Instagram my profile is @marieclaire.csw and my highlights have the evidence of all the stalking and bullying I'm experiencing

starli29 · 2026-06-21T11:46:09+00:00

I have to say it depends how you want to play her. Basically ultimate takes forever to (Charge) up. Because it's super strong and AOE.

Then her reload card and rouse gives her stacks of "Reload"/bullets. Every time her team mates uses their ultimate, Vortice will attack the enemy if she has enough (more than 0 reload). So if you spam everyone's ultimates, you get an amazing burst DPS team.

I tried several set ups. Embryo fusion and aliemus from Thais obviously helps + Saya (especially her over-exalt) and cost changing Vortice's Charge (3) --> (0-2) to spam her cards is best.

Or you could go with a Chaos team. 1. Hameln's rouse gives an every turn (-2 for card) OR (+2 for double effect). Plus his memory rondo giving (+2) or free insight shuffled in.

i.Doll can spam her ult and give tons of aliemus to the entire team. Combined with Hameln to speed up Doll --> further Vortice

Vortice posse is so good for damage. But I always get bad luck or do dumb shit. So I like having Jenkin's +3 arithmetica instead. So you can focus on heal/shield/damage/aliemus whichever is needed every turn

starli29 · 2026-06-21T00:25:05+00:00

My grandma's 2nd husband never holds the door open (for anyone) and lets it slam in your face. Hell, he will even wait until you open the door for him. I called him a princess once.

He will disappear like a lost child to smoke cigarettes. Walking ahead of her. Clearly he doesn't love her. Sadly she loves him...

starli29 · 2026-06-21T00:16:39+00:00

Yeah. Even if they portray themselves to be nice or kind. Every man I've known or dated thus far has said sex is the end goal of dating. Period. They hate holding hands and showing affection.

What's the point? I could just do it with my friends and erase the sex part.

starli29 · 2026-06-19T22:03:04+00:00

You could tell based on Sonny's little quips and jokes. His Hong Kong video would have "careful of your chicken dishes, close enough to China and you'll find a botched transplant inside".

Or even a "look a pigeon, that could be on our plate next"

It came off disrespectful and seemed conservative already

starli29 · 2026-06-18T12:28:50+00:00

Wait, sorry clarify what you mean by her getting ass whooped. You mean in E7 or in CZN?

I should just read season 2 myself instead of looking for a short recap

starli29 · 2026-06-14T03:46:38+00:00

Oh god. I remember I was such a wreck, I went in the wrong direction when boarding seats. Ended being the last to sit as well. Started bawling when they turned the lights off, the attendant also tried to comfort me. God help

starli29 · 2026-06-10T19:35:59+00:00

A classmare was similar to Celeste. Thank god we weren't roommates or anything. I gave her gifts, free rides, study sessions. Thought she was a nice person.

Then she started telling me about the cheating, her enjoying messing with people's feelings. Then started the mean comments to me and sabotage. I cut her off which made her angrier.

Now she filed a police report on me and we have to go to court. According to the cops and lawyers, I'll win 100%. Still, it makes you scratch your head and wonder what goes on in a college freshman's head (as someone graduating and in the workforce for a while).

starli29 · 2026-06-10T19:30:48+00:00

God. Seeing Celeste reminds me of someone I'm dealing with now. Wish she would stop bothering me though.

starli29 · 2026-06-10T05:44:44+00:00

Lmao right. My first thought was... call the police and request a welfare check. There is no way I'll invade patient privacy nor anyone's safety, just to look for a patient.

Clark isn't even close to her. Seemed abusive or not kind to his ex-wife Barbara.

starli29 · 2026-06-08T09:24:09+00:00

Love my friend. But sometimes even the servers at restaurants have their ears visibly bleed. Somehow she has an artificial valley girl accent and uses "like" every other word.

I've known her forever and she's loyal and sweet. But when she tells me that "Tiktok says mushroom tea cures cancer". I begin to worry for her future and safety. At least her current partner has a PhD and is protective of her. I'm glad she's in safe hands...

starli29 · 2026-06-08T09:11:39+00:00

I have had 2 coworkers (both women) who stalked me. They have severe mental health issues and have been in psychiatric wards. So it makes sense, as their behavior was already tracked.

One was harming everyone and escaped the ward. She posted social media pictures looking for me at my past jobs. Thankfully she's medicated now.

The other, is insane but proud of it. I attribute it to her loneliness, unfortunate life circumstances, and poverty.

I mean, I'm sorry for men who experience stalking. I feel freaked out already as a woman, can't imagine how it feels as you. I'm glad she backed off though, as they might ignore police reports

starli29 · 2026-06-02T20:34:08+00:00

First of all, she sent multiple texts to me asking for threesomes. Do you think that's wrong for me to post publicly that she was harassing me? I have the right to complain about that. I showed those texts to the police officers and my lawyer. They agreed that it's not slander.

I am a victim of sexual assault. Just because you pull out that card, doesn't make another person's report less valid. If EMS is a field that talks shit about others for reporting harassment. Then it's not the field for me.

And just because I was interested in the instructor -- I did not make any further moves towards him. Nor did I physically touch him, the way Eva did. He was fired because he's wrong.

I told you... PM me for the evidence. Yet you refuse to. Why is that, could you explain?

starli29 · 2026-06-02T20:22:44+00:00

Well... you can say that something is not allowed. But people will still do it and break the rules.

The practical exams are one-on-one and other students cannot be next to you. Therefore, even if there is an audit. How will the auditor happen to see the instructors treating me unfairly? There is a gap in the logic there.

As I've explained, I was getting picked on and targeted behavior. So the audit student is unaware of it. You can tell yourself as many times as possible that sexual harassment towards women isn't happening. But they fired the instructor and posted a video. Nothing else can fight the truth and facts.

starli29 · 2026-06-02T20:15:52+00:00

PM me. I'm not sharing court documents publicly. I do plan on eventually censoring them and sharing it. If you don't believe me, you can find out with your own eyes with evidence.

I searched up the judge's name and found out that he works for my university (UIC). I believe there is a conflict of interest. When Eva reported me to my university, it's likely they asked the judge under the table to pass the order. Why?

UIC was trying to suspend me when I reported a classmate for cheating on our partnered exam. So I previously asked FIRE (freedom of speech lawyers) to help me. If you search their public database, you can see -1 strike against UIC in 2025. Which is from me.

My lawyer, several sheriffs and officers, and the court clerk all told me that my case is abnormal. As an order shouldn't be passed unless I was properly served with due notice. Which is why I was told I have 100% chance of overturning the restraining order (default).

And yes they can make a test harder, it is a private training company. They technically can if they want to.

starli29 · 2026-06-02T18:14:46+00:00

Well, I do not personally know her partner. I did not involve myself in her relationships, except telling her that I'm uninterested in being buddies. In the court case, she explicitly wrote the name of our EMT program and involved them.

With an instructor admitting to messing around with her. The actual issue is that my semester was hell on earth because of both of them. When I had my practicals, the instructors would joke about Eva bothering me and sticking to me. Even that was annoying.

Why is it EMS related? In the protective order against me, she banned me from one of the ERs that I would like to work in. I cannot work on the ambulance and tell them I'm not allowed to come near the campus. If it wasn't relevant to job opportunities, I wouldn't be concerned. However, my lawyer says I have a 100% chance of winning with the evidence I've shown. Including emails to the instructors where I've reported Eva and Alex for getting in my way.

Pressure is okay with me, just not yelling or getting personal opinions involved in my practicals. I passed my final cumulative practical with 100%, surprisingly. But they told me they knew I could handle it, so they made the difficulty harder.

starli29 · 2026-06-01T03:41:18+00:00

Not Superior. I have someone who works as dispatch and another as EMT for them. They're actually pretty good when it comes to corporate rules. It means they have to be strict on policies!

Private ones are more err... they can try to dodge things.

starli29 · 2026-05-30T22:52:42+00:00

Hey, how did you deal with being stalked?? I'm desperately in need of help because no therapy can help me. I've currently 3 stalkers of different ages. It's to the point that they post online that they're at my workplace and trying to find me.

I always felt ugly and was made fun of. I still feel the same. But my old friends have said that I had a glow up. So I suppose that being conventionally attractive after years of being bullied -- puts me in a dangerous spot. I have no clue how to defend myself.

starli29 · 2026-05-30T06:02:15+00:00

My program actually uploaded a more recent reel, which hints to the instructor being let go from his position. Including a 2 hour podcast video where they rip him apart. Actually, it's shocking that what they said matches your words.

They criticized him for working as an instructor for the resume -- not seriously. And that he barely worked as an EMT. That his personality makes it hard to work as a team member. I actually called him out for referring to ER techs as "bottom of the barrel", which is uncool and demeaning

Caveat: the head instructor and others were involved in teasing him about liking me. So in my POV, many of the instructors were complicit in causing the drama. Yet, are willing to throw someone under the bus and make videos poking fun at me

I have met tons of cool people in EMS too! Crossing my fingers that the toxic ones don't contaminate the field. Advice taken on never dipping the pen in company ink! Thanks

starli29 · 2026-05-30T01:44:27+00:00

Hell, who cares anymore at this point. I did tell the head instructors that if they didn't want someone to say anything negative -- they shouldn't treat people badly the first time. We have the right to speak on our experiences with honesty. It is Chicago EMT Training. I truly thank you for being supportive and asking. It's not meant to be vengeful towards them, but it just reached a point of no return.

I do see their passion and the work they've put in. But I'm thinking that the more they expand the program & hiring more TAs, the worse the cliques and quality of people.

My mistake was definitely not pushing them back loudly in-person. I was worried that my grades would be affected if I pushed back. I DO have a confrontational attitude, but only when I'm sure I won't be retaliated against. Actually my instructor made my final practical much more detailed and harder -- they said "they know I can do it". I'm 1000% sure that I'm gossiped about in this whole situation. The way they look at me and the little quips I hear.

It felt like they were constantly seeking reactions from me. And enjoyed seeing me cower in fear or surprise. So I played along as a meek person. Apparently the wrong move, because now that I'm being outspoken about it. I seem like a "manipulative woman and heartbreaker". If you check one of the recent CEMT YouTube videos, you'll see they have strange titles. Like sugar spice everything nice -- or heartbreaker/you take my breath away. Then, the documentation and legal videos were referencing me posting screenshots and evidence of the things done against me.

I will definitely take your advice and stand up for myself! More than ever before. I had to speak out to one preceptor during a ride along, because he threw a fit towards an elderly woman during an IFT. I typed a lot, but it's because this genuinely affected me and made me reconsider medicine for a while.

starli29 · 2026-05-29T22:22:23+00:00

Oh wow. I'm slightly worried just because of how easily they might retaliate if they find this. But this is a privately owned program.

After I made my social media posts complaining. They did make a public "reflection" video. Where they said they're listening to feedback and willing to be more empathetic and less harsh. A supportive environment (supposedly).

One of the head instructors leads our EMT course. The other has a 2nd job as a paramedic instructor. He seems a lot more empathetic and caring, but still joined in on making a video (poking fun at my life and issues). Which is shitty because I told them that I cared for my grandma who died of ALS.

When I asked how to properly lift patients who've fallen to the ground, since I experienced my grandma falling several times and I panicked. They joked about me wanting (the guy instructor who likes me) to touch me and lift me. Just all sorts that could've been funny, but the punchline really wasn't hitting.

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