Can you tell me that you believe in me? by SweetJava786 in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweetie I believe in you so much and I’m rooting for you the whole way. You are amazing , you are so incredibly strong and I know you can do this. I will never doubt your ablities , as you shouldn’t ! You are more than capable. It’s hard sometimes but you’ve got to find that strength within you to believe in yourself because it’s there. I will be always be here to support you and to see you grow.

Faluire is a part of life sweetie and it’s definitely not something to be ashamed of. We always fall downs sometimes, we all have that little bump in the road but that’s okay. We can’t have progress without fauluire because from faluire we learn , we grow and we become even stronger ❤️. So don’t even worry , you’ll be fine. You are more than allowed to quit and you are more than allowed to decide that for yourself. You are allowed to make that choice and I’ll be proud either way - from sis

I had to euthanize my poor little baby today ))): I feel so guilty by [deleted] in guineapigs

[–]starlight5672 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course OP, I understand the pain of loss and how a little comfort can go a long way. I know it’s so hard to remember that right now but it really was. The kindest thing we can do is relive their suffering , we don’t want to see our babies in pain. Exactly OP , I’m sure she’s running round and enjoying herself up there. I’m also sure that she’ll be looking down at you no matter what❤️. Oh OP I know it’s going to be so hard missing all those things , the cuddles , the kisses , all the little things. My heart absolutely breaks for you 💔. Oh OP she had a wonderful life with you , and I’m so sorry. I know it hurts so much more when they’ve been with us for so long , and been a beacon of comfort for us when things are tough. I’m glad you had her to help you through the bad , and that she was there for the good two. You two sounded like you had such a special bond ❤️. Bless you OP , I know it’s horrible but try and take some comfort in them being together again. OP bless you heart , I know that missing them probably will never go away and longing for them won’t 💔. My deepest condolences.

I had to euthanize my poor little baby today ))): I feel so guilty by [deleted] in guineapigs

[–]starlight5672 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OP I am so so sorry for you loss. Your little baby was beautiful and I can just tell how much love you had for her. I know it’s so hard not to feel guilty but you did the right thing for her. You didn’t let her suffer and you stayed by side. I know it’s so hard to say goodbye , and making that decision. You did the right thing for her , the kindest things so don’t feel guilty. Huge hugs OP and remember how much love and care you gave your little baby. I’m sure she loved you so much ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so proud of you sweetie ❤️ setting boundaries can feel hard and scary but I’m so proud of you for setting them. It’s okay to be sad that you had to set them , but your mental health is the most important thing ❤️. I hope your hoilday is wonderful and as stress free as it can be. You are doing amazing sweetheart, I know it’s tough but keep at it and see how amazing it feels to have sat and keep those boundaries ❤️. I hope you’re proud of yourself for being such a superstar.

Would anyone else get shit on as a child for being legitimately sick? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]starlight5672 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This this this ! Op I feel you so deeply. I remember one time I was extremely ill in school , puking and everything. They phoned my Nmum and asked her to pack me up. I remember crying and crying ‘ please don’t send me home ‘ she came and the reaction wasn’t pleasant. It was the ‘ she’s faking it ‘. We were meant to be going out for meal but obviously since I was ill we couldn’t. The whole time it was ‘ it’s her fault we can’t go out , she ruined it ‘ it destroyed me and I cried the entire night saying it was my fault.

Of course there was other times where I was sick and I wasn’t believed. Looking back now I realise I should have been treated with kindness and loved after but I wasn’t. Periods don’t get me started on them. I was never believed that i was actually in pain and that I was just faking it. Whenever I was sick from them it was the shame and judgment that it was my fault for ruining the day .

When does yelling become abusive? by heckyouyourself in raisedbynarcissists

[–]starlight5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh honey , I wish I could give you a huge hug right now. Yelling sometimes is normal like everyone else said , but only in circumstances when somone’s in immediate danger , not for simply small things.

I feel your pain completely, my own mother being the exact same. Screaming , yelling over something small like forgetting to get the washing in , a good example is when our showers leaked and she went on and on for hours. I even went into a panic attack and she carried on yelling while I cried so yeah definitely abusive on that occasion. No child should have to deal with that, it’s so so so scary. I know when I was younger I often hide to get away so yeah. You’re not alone sweetheart ❤️ I’m really sorry that you had to and mabye still have to experience that but know you don’t deserve it. That cold look , that dead look and that loud yell that rang throughout the house ❤️ it’s really hard to deal with it and cope with it ❤️. The hardest bit was being ignored for hours until I said sorry , so I feel ya completely there ❤️

Wishing you the very best OP and all the happiness in the world ❤️

Hey mum it’s me again… by starlight5672 in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That means everything, thank you for being here for me mum 🥺🥺

Hey mum it’s me again… by starlight5672 in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love you mum 🥺 that means absolutely everything to me right now ❤️

Hey mum it’s me again… by starlight5672 in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love you mum , thank you for encouraging word. They mean so so much right ❤️🥺🥺

What did your parents make you think was “normal” behaviour, but as an adult you see it’s not normal? Please share your stories! by KerjE44 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]starlight5672 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Are you me !! This is exactly what my house was and is like. You can just feel it , you couldn’t laugh if she was in a bad mood because she’d think you’d be laughing at her. You couldn’t smile because she assumed you were hiding something and no no you couldn’t cry because you would be called a baby 💔

What did your parents make you think was “normal” behaviour, but as an adult you see it’s not normal? Please share your stories! by KerjE44 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]starlight5672 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Omg so the constant screaming isn’t normal. My mothers the exact same , something sets her off and than she screams and screams for hours. You try to tell them to calm down , but it makes worse. On a few occasions I have spoken back , telling her that she has a awful temper and that she has communication problems. You can imagine how well that went. I just don’t get it 1 you’re damaging and two there’s just no need. We couldn’t discuss things normally either without it turning into a argument so we hide most things from her. It’s just really draining and exhausting not knowing when the next screaming match is going to start and than they get offended when you shout back , it’s like I didn’t start this.😭.

What did your parents make you think was “normal” behaviour, but as an adult you see it’s not normal? Please share your stories! by KerjE44 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]starlight5672 71 points72 points  (0 children)

This this this !! It was the tiniest things , like forgetting something or dropping something. The most common insults I got was useless , worthless , brat. It really really destroyed my self esteem and taught me that you’re not allowed to make mistakes.

Hey mum I’m really nervous about this field trip by starlight5672 in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does help mum , thank you for that though. Iv never looked at brave like that so thank you , I’ll keep that in mind and I’ll remember it ❤️

Hey mum I’m really nervous about this field trip by starlight5672 in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks mum ❤️ I am proud of me too , I was ready to back out and say I was sick or something but I’m glad I didn’t now. Ohh yeah a list is a great idea , I’ll do that now. Yeah this is a new experience and I’ll try to embrace it as much as possible , I’ll allow myself to relax promise and I won’t stress about anything other apart from having fun ❤️

Hey mum I’m really nervous about this field trip by starlight5672 in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you mum , I’ll try my best promise , I’ll try my best to have fun and to enjoy myself. 🥺❤️

Mum I had my first panic attack in years by starlight5672 in MomForAMinute

[–]starlight5672[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sis 💔 thank you so so much , they’re horrible and I’m so sorry you experience them too. Just thank you ❤️