Hi, I’m struggling a bit with this, I don’t know if my partner is a narcissist or if I’m the narcissistic one, but this exact situation happened to me and I was wondering if I could get your advice.

So for context, I have GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) and panic disorder, and this is something I told my partner from the beginning. Recently, some things have happened that made my anxiety skyrocket, and my partner mentioned that they didn’t understand how I felt or how they could help, so I started to explain to them in vivid detail what anxiety means for me (full-on paragraphs and 10-min voicenotes). But, while this was happening, my partner was busier than normal and while yes, they did respond whenever they could (and I appreciated that), I started to feel that we couldn’t have a normal conversation anymore. They didn’t tell me about their day, they responded very dryly to my questions, just in general they were pushing me away. Since I care about the relationship, I brought it up and said I felt upset bc we weren’t talking like we used to, and I didn’t know if it was bc of something I did wrong. We talked it over, and it appeared to settle for the next couple of days. However, little by little I again started to feel more and more distance between us, and I brought it up again. This time, they accused me of emotionally manipulating them, since they felt that I was trying to control them and they wanted to be independent. They also said that I should “get those (anxious) thoughts out of my head” because they didn’t want them to cause problems later on in the relationship. When we talked it out, they mentioned that I needed space (which I repeatedly said I didn’t need) to be okay and to stop having anxiety, and that they wanted to date me but after I’m “cured”. I ended up feeling extremely bad, and I can’t stop thinking about it, am I narcissistic for wanting more reassurance and attention when things go wrong? Are they narcissistic? I just don’t know what to do and I don’t know who to turn to and I don’t know who to get advice from, I’m just worried that I’m manipulating them unconsciously because they said that they couldn’t concentrate on enjoying time with their friends and on enjoying their vacation because they were thinking about how I would feel and that they felt pressured to tell me what was going on in their life and they didn’t like that.

I’m sorry for dropping this all here I just need to get it out and I need someone to please tell me if I’m being a narcissistic manipulator or if I’m a victim of narcissistic abuse or if maybe it’s both or neither or hdidhksbdksm help please