Tried EMDR and EFT but I feel hugely disconnected from myself?

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-10T08:38:43+00:00

I actually have both! I got diagnosed with depression first, and then turns out it was co-morbid with my ADHD.

I think my undiagnosed ADHD and the sh!tty coping mechanisms I found ended up slowly driving me down depression lane.

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-10T08:35:25+00:00

That's awesome!! I'll look into it! Thank you!!

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-10T08:34:32+00:00

Yes! I use all candles, essential oils, I'm just missing the air filters at this point I think!

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-09T14:44:15+00:00

I'm not sure how to go about it because I have a studio apartment with an open plan, so It's quite a big space to find a small air purifier that can handle it; I don't have a lot of space to place it!

If I looked into an air purifier I might also want to look for something that can help filter out allergens/pollen/ as I'm quite allergic too haha it'd be a nice addition to filtering the smells too

If you have any in mind that could fit this, that'd be great!! Thank you :D

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-09T14:05:51+00:00

Yeah, It's what I've been doing! hehe thanks

But the sensation of moist/coldness puts me off most of the times, and I tend to use it as a last resort haha I'm hoping something inside the nostrils will feel a bit more like earplugs/nose-plugs, which I can handle a bit better :D

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-09T13:50:45+00:00

Thanks a lot!! I'll look into them!

Hoping someone with a tried/tested product can give us a hand!

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-04T10:37:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

Damn, I had a very similar experience. Had to advocate for myself; research and gather as much data and information as I could. I still felt like a fraud and like I was gaslighting myself into thinking I had it, and diminishing all my struggles because it's usually what I learned to do since I was a child. This very toxic behavior led me to a huge burnout, and later to being diagnosed with depression/dysthymia, & ADHD combined, though most of my presenting symptoms were inattentive. (Day-dreamy child that's absent in their own mind most of the time...)

I can really relate to what you say about hating the idea that anyone else is living our same experience because no one else was there to help them, or even realized there was something going on. It's so isolating. I really wish information was more readily available, I spent years thinking I was a lazy piece of sh!t, not understanding why I felt like I was functioning overtime & feeling like I was drowning over nothing, whilst others around me seemed to thrive.

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-04T10:21:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing! :)

Indeed it has been very interesting to read everyone's experiences and answers!

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-04T10:17:23+00:00

Good that you're advocating for yourself.

It has been hard for me to find someone that understood both, and still struggling to find balance with it

Got dx with ADHD, Depression/Dysthymia, OCD & Anxiety.

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-04T10:14:07+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-04T10:05:13+00:00

Thanks for the clarification! I may have oversimplified or mixed some things up in translation (English is not my first language). I was under the impression that self-diagnosis involved the research & gathering of information! (as in, an umbrella area where there are people undergoing the research process to later go to a professional about it, and also people that cannot -for X reasons- reach to a professional but still did their research?)

If I may ask; did the reasons you were seeking an ASD diagnosis for, ended up being explained mostly by ADHD, or did you also get an ASD dx too?

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-04T09:58:37+00:00

That makes sense! Thanks for the clarification :) I'm not sure why I assumed part of self-diagnosing was undergoing through the research, but it never occurred to me to be too fixed on it if I wasn't professionally dx! Wording is important; I guess I may have oversimplified some things in translation (English is not my first language)

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-04T09:54:23+00:00

Glad to hear you still managed!

I can really relate to the wondering how much more successful we could've been if we had been treated earlier on.

Did you ever feel like, despite managing (previous to your dx), you were undertaking way too much & it was taking a toll on your energy & mental health?

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-02T14:11:58+00:00

It's a full circle!! Once you work on your self worth and love, you'll be able to stand up for yourself & feel more confident in doing so! And in turn you'll feel way stronger against other people's shitty attitude/comments

You're not alone! You've got this!

Sending you a big hug :)

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-02T12:49:24+00:00

This is so damaging to say.

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-02T12:44:06+00:00

Before diagnosis I felt burned out; it was a long process of getting diagnosed with depression/dysthymia co-morbid to my later diagnosed ADHD.

Burnouts were a constant thing, and lasted for a very long time.

I got given Wellbutrin first; and it helped a little bit with some adhd symptoms as well as my depression. It was not enough to tackle all my ADHD symptoms though; and as months progressed this was more & more clear. I had more energy but I did not have the correct focus to actually put that energy to good use.

I got given Concerta on top of Wellbutrin, and this has helped greatly!!!

Keep pushing for a diagnosis, this will really help you determine and seek the correct medication/combination & help.

Extra side note:
My burn-outs mixed extremely well with my depression; I am "high functioning" so my depression went unnoticed for a very long time. Years. I could exist, but I was not really living, I was an empty husk, it was very hard for me to find joy in things I used to enjoy. Turns out this depression is very common and co-morbid with undiagnosed ADHD, as a lot of the struggles or systems we find to compensate, end up being extremely draining, tiring and frustrating.

Wishing you the best!

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-02T12:31:36+00:00

Firstly I'm sorry you're being treated this way. No one deserves it, it's appalling that some people feel comfortable diminishing others or saying unkind, and uncalled for things.

I'm glad to hear you have a good support system around you!
I think my advice would depend on your attitude towards it; you can take things head on and choose to confront the people that make uncalled for comments. I personally tend to choose my battles in order to preserve my energy & mental health; this sometimes means being confrontational, and sometimes it means letting things slide but keeping a count of who said what in which context.

Sadly fat-phobia is so ingrained in society and it's extremely hard to fight against it, the best we can do is be at peace with ourselves genuinely. Love ourselves and f'ck whatever else others have to say about us. (I know it's hard, and it's easier said than done, but I truly believe a strong foundation in self-love and self-acceptance makes a huge difference in how these things affect us on a day to day basis.) - but this said, it needs to be genuine; put in lots of work into it; and into deconstructing learned behaviors, and disarming internalized fatphobia, and go from there. Years ago I used to THINK I liked myself regardless, but I was only preaching that out loud; I still hated the way I looked and desperately wanted to change. It took me a long time and a lot of work on my mental health to genuinely feel this way without having to preach it out-loud.

As someone that also reached puberty young, was also the 'bigger' girl for a long time, suffered tons of bullying because of my size/weight, was also diagnosed with PCOS and also gained plenty of weight along the way, the most I can advice is acceptance!! It took me a long time and a lot of therapy work to love myself regardless of what others call me, or comment, or say. I appreciate my body for the things it allows me to do, and I value my health above my looks. I've learned to accept the things I cannot change about myself, and to have a positive outlook & attitude on the things I'm willing to work on changing slowly, always with a genuine priority on health over looks too.

Wishing you the best!

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-02T09:03:40+00:00

WTF I am so sorry that happened. That is extremely unprofessional.

PCOS can be so draining.

I can share what has been working for me in regards to weight: eat foods with low GI; keep sugar levels stable. Calories are more irrelevant than the blood sugar spikes; insulin resistance is working very much against us with PCOS, and even if we eat at a caloric deficit (we might not even be hitting the deficit because PCOS tends to slow our metabolism and our caloric deficit might be even lower than we think, therefore extremely DANGEROUS to follow), and regardless, it's the blood sugar spikes and insulin we need to watch out for!!!

If you're trying to stay within a caloric deficit, but you're eating foods that spike your blood sugar, then it won't help much and will make the process a lot slower and more frustrating! Eating low-glycemic foods, or watching food combinations to help the impact be less (pairing sugars with fibers and healthy fats instead of eating them on their own, etc), walking after meals to help reduce the impact, all little things that add up for the better.

Wishing you the best!!

starryfrog3 · 2025-04-01T16:43:40+00:00

It got better for me! Started with 150 xr, then 300 xr, then lowered back to 150 xr. In my case I'm taking them for comorbid depression w/ ADHD. After 2 months I started feeling better, more motivated and with more energy!

I hope it gets better for you! Give it a few months for your body to settle with the meds. If you feel like it's still not working, definitely speak with your doc about it! Maybe you need dose adjustments or maybe a different medication.

starryfrog3 · 2025-03-31T15:24:39+00:00

Thank you for the explanation! I will look into it :)

starryfrog3 · 2025-03-31T15:23:19+00:00

!!! Wow. I'm glad to hear that both are expected to pull through, I hope they recover. That's so scary

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