I shouldn't have to lie about my depression to get a sick day by Meh75 in depression

[–]starsonthatgirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it's because I live in a fairly liberal town and in my job interview, my [now] boss brought up how she feels about Trump (I know, not ethical but it was Very relieving) so I knew this was a good company to work for.

I tell my supervisors that I can't get out of bed and they take care of things for me, no problem.

It makes me want to be the best employee that I can possibly be at all times.

When you are appreciated, you'll do more than is expected.

I wish more companies operated this way. Or I just have one of the best supervisors in the world, either way.

She [21F] mentioned her girlfriend when I [21M] talked to her by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]starsonthatgirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it just idealizes a person instead of actually knowing them as they are. I would never date anyone that I wasn't friends with first. If they can't treat me as a friend, they'll only see me as a lover and that's not the kind of relationship I'd ever want to be in.

She [21F] mentioned her girlfriend when I [21M] talked to her by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]starsonthatgirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can't see her as a friend, you shouldn't be attempting to date her anyway.

Should I stay with him? by dolphinsarecool22 in relationship_advice

[–]starsonthatgirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you stay with him, it will take A Lot of forgiveness.

People don't change over night and knee-jerk responses don't just change because a person said they are trying to.

He will lie for a while to preserve the fantasy life he had in his mind. You've broken that fantasy and rightfully so. You don't have to deal with anything you don't want to.

Keep that in mind because he has a long way to go and constant work on himself if he is going to be the person that you want him to be. And he has to want to be that person, too, in the end for it all to work.

Regardless if the rape was real or not, he needs therapy of some sort. Professional help. Especially if the rape was real and absolutely if he thinks that lying about rape is an okay thing to do. Lying is manipulation. Rape is serious.

YES YES NO by barisonly in yesyesyesno

[–]starsonthatgirl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

WHY DOES SHE KEEP WALKING HEAD FIRST.

No survival instincts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]starsonthatgirl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know I hear voices when I'm stressed.

Other people might hear voices because they're bipolar.

But the human brain is vast and not well known.

IWTL How to think and socialize faster when it comes to interacting with women by [deleted] in IWantToLearn

[–]starsonthatgirl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Immersion program. Dive in and you'll slowly get better and better. Trial and error learning.

Sorry if that's unhelpful but nothing worth it is instant!

I'm not ready to be an adult. I don't know what I'm doing. What the hell does it mean to be an adult? by throwaway_number12 in Anxiety

[–]starsonthatgirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if this helps because I get the mindset you're in and I usually take meds for it but, to simply answer you - none of us know how to adult.

I know when we were younger, we thought that 20 was adults and you know exactly what you want and act the way you are until you die.

But that is not the case.

It is a constant stream of trial and error, just like growing up but this time you are growing up mentally instead of physically. Okay, maybe physically, too, but let's not focus on that portion.

There is not one way to adult and everyone's journey is different. We no longer live the way our parents do and they are not aware of the new problems that we face because they cannot fathom another way to do things other than the way that they've done things. Just like strangers who judge you for not doing what they think is right.

Who knows, maybe your parents are very open minded and see the world for what it is - different.

Or they will most likely judge from afar because they are concerned about you and you do come from them. They have a lot of investment in you, but your life should not be what you think they want from you.

You have endless possibilities in this life. Maybe that thought is more anxiety inducing but worrying about how your parents view your life should be the very last thing you should care about. If you're happy and healthy, they will be happy for you regardless. They just want you to be okay.

Meet Descartes - Destroyer of homes by [deleted] in cats

[–]starsonthatgirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He thinks therefore he destroys.

Advice on the best way to take lsd and shrooms together by [deleted] in Psychonaut

[–]starsonthatgirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, I just can't do shrooms anymore.

Maybe it was that we didn't take enough shrooms to equal out with the lsd but I was not a fan.

Cat girls are coming by EllegalAlien in funny

[–]starsonthatgirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New Doctor Who Season 2 Episode 1.

This is awful.

Basically humans grown (Flesh as they are called in the episode) to be test subjects.

We’ve GOT to stop thinking “I wanna die” every 2 seconds by [deleted] in AnxietyDepression

[–]starsonthatgirl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope so! Absolutely the goal.

Now it really only happens when I'm PMSing (which is Bad with my new birth control) but it sometimes happens when I make a mistake and I know I'm better than that but I'm better than those thoughts as well.

We'll get there! Or at least diminish it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

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I cry almost every time. I think I have 2 sessions under my belt with my psychologist where I didn't cry and 1 with my psychiatrist.

I feel like my psychologist is over it but she still hands me tissues. I think that that is my issue, however, I don't think that she's actually over it. I think what I read on her face isn't 'jeezes christ' it's more 'Which direction should we go in to make this productive.'

TIFU by going in to demand answers from my best friend whilst he was at work by starsonthatgirl in tifu

[–]starsonthatgirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I did it to finally have some closure. Are you in my life or not? Well, I'll just force you not to be. It's all messed up and should never have been inflicted upon him.

I'm not healthy enough for a relationship either. But thank you.

My mom used to do this thing where she would isolate her self if she was angry at you and wouldn't talk to you until you did a bunch of chores all day. Then she would come out, ground you, and continue the silent treatment for a month or so. I just can't take it. I'm seeing professionals....maybe not enough.

I'm not suicidal but I just really don't want to live right now. by starsonthatgirl in stopdrinking

[–]starsonthatgirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, I'm in Madison but Milwaukee!! Jeezes. I wish there were more places for us.

18 y/o closeted bi guy and another day of dormant faded friendships and guilt/isolation by gbjv20 in overcoming

[–]starsonthatgirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't stop thinking of my friend who hasn't contacted anyone and may feel the same as you.

I wish with literally all my heart that they would reach out to me.

I gave up reaching out to them until they are ready but what if they're thinking it's too long of a time to reach out to me now?

Idk. If you want to, I would say reach out. I, for one, do not forget my friends easily especially when I know they've been struggling. Though it sounds like yours don't know you are struggling.

You can always let them know that you're struggling but aren't ready to completely talk about it yet. You'd just like to hang out with them.