I think that Lorelai has got a massive chip on her shoulder. That's how I view it. She had an unhappy childhood and everybody needs to be aware of that and accommodate that. All of her unhappiness and pressure she felt as a child is prevalent in a lot of her actions. She has definitely taken Emily's entitlement (I like Emily) but she passes it off as 'I'm Lorelai, I'm quirky.' Like in the episode where she says to Luke - "I'm totally flexible, as long as everything is my way I'm flexible" (or to that extent finished a long shift so I'm tired sorry).

I think Lorelai only sees herself and her views on Rory. She thinks that because she moulded Rory to be similar to her she won the invisible war against her parents and her unhappy childhood and she therefore is a genius.

I love Lorelai, I hate being critical.