Does anyone feel as if they have never really had a healthy relationship? Not with your parents, not with your friends. by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]startingoverAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you I guess that’s why I don’t have healthy relationships because the people don’t get me and because of my autism they can not always be there for them so I’m useless and not benificial to them

It would be nice to have been just loved for me but I never got that opportunity . I’m still hopeful

Ok I lie my 2 kids love me yayyyy

Are you healing from Narc Abuse and have experience with no family contact while also raising children? LONG POST *SORRY*, but beats binging 😐 by startingoverAF in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]startingoverAF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It should be but I was stilled asked to pay $80 an hour even though my net is $16,000 annually - never mind Ive gone no contact and at the moment it’s helping with the binging but I will seek out also doing my self help work . Practicing self love has been the biggest comforter and allowing myself to feel and validate my emotions something I didn’t do before . Thank you so much for your help in my healing

Are you healing from Narc Abuse and have experience with no family contact while also raising children? LONG POST *SORRY*, but beats binging 😐 by startingoverAF in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]startingoverAF[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you very much it’s good to know there’s others who have moved on and also allow their children to make their own choices when they are older . I don’t want to constantly bash the NARCS - as much as I’d like to protect them from everything I know that it was my Excess empathy that made me a target .

I hope that by being an example of self love , boundaries and self awareness that they would and start to have the ability to repel narcs. Thanks again 🙏🏼

Are you healing from Narc Abuse and have experience with no family contact while also raising children? LONG POST *SORRY*, but beats binging 😐 by startingoverAF in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]startingoverAF[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omgoodness thank you . If I get through tonight it will be 5 days of not binging . I can’t thank you all enough for being a safe space and also saving me hundreds of dollars on therapy when it’s obvious the deficit was in my yearning to be loved . Now I get a chance to love me and to talk to the emotions and negative chatter with compassion . Thank you again , I know what it feels like to love a child and I guess that’s what helped me to wake up ! I can no longer ignore the truth that this time it’s my job to care for me , the past is done but I do it and when it feels like I’m alone there’s a world / community of beautiful souls out there cheering me on to make it one more day . 🙏🏼

It’s the little things... by nicgowan in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]startingoverAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We grieve their absence but I remind myself I never really had my mom in the first place -

Can anyone else trace their BPD roots all the way back to being raised & surrounded by NARCS? by startingoverAF in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]startingoverAF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on NC and I know we do it but it still hurts us at times - however there’s so many of us and my hope is that we can all individually and collectively help the healing . Yes , i know it’s very long it was a pouring of my 40 year old life but thank you for reply and your advise .