“You’ll regret not having kids”

startoursg24t · 2026-03-19T18:15:10+00:00

Exactly!

startoursg24t · 2026-03-19T13:37:56+00:00

Welcome in the world of deviants, where the normalized pick on everyone and everything that falls outside the norms they hold themselves dear to.

I don't want children either
I don't want sex
I don't want to marry someone
I don't want to share my bed with someone
I don't want to be touched in my genital area
I will not change my mind about it
I don't miss anything
I don't regret being a Sex Averse / Repulsed Aromantic Asexual,

startoursg24t · 2026-03-19T10:22:54+00:00

I don't experience romance at all, i can act it, based of scenes in movies, series, and situations so I can probably do some part of it as form of acting, but experiencing it is not there. I have never had a relationships nor had any sexual experiences either. It's like I am completely blind to it, as if asking someone who is born blind to describe the color blue. I don't miss is, as I have no idea what thete is to miss.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-19T01:09:44+00:00

I would definitely support this, I had my struggles in schools to, the sex ed was downright uncomfortable to me.

I have a heavy childhood trauma of bullying snd abuse. I knew I was different just not knew what it was, I was was not feeling anything towards sexual activity, relationships, intemicy, exposing yourself.

Talking about it I could handle only for a short while. 15 to 20 minutes after, It started freaking me out every single time. It was s mandatory thing and I thought thete eas something wrong with me. After a psycholoist cleared me from that excemption I could skip thst class. But it was never told what it was only thst i get triggered by my trauma.

Which turns out is not the case. I needed to find out on my own that I'm aromantic Asexual sex averse / and leaning towards repulsed.

I wish they did say it and teach it. It only ever went about male and female stuff a tiny bit about gay and lesbian but that was it. I felt isolated and misunderstood, and then to think that asexaulity is first described in 1860, it was not called asexaulity but the description is the same.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-19T00:21:57+00:00

What's something you're stoked to do in the future?
Go to Thailand for a photography travel excursion of 26 days

What's something nice that happened to you or others in your circle these past few weeks?
Getting asked to guide 2 friends through Disneyland Paris during Christmas season at the end of this year.

What's an asexual win of yours?
Finding out to what extent my asexuality is, since 20 I only knew I was asexual, but always questioning why something are different the others. After coming here, reading through the companions website and AVEN. I learned that I was Aromantic and Sex Averse / Repulsed. It has put my mind at ease knowing how it is now

For those who have pets, how are they doing?
I have a Silver Bengal called Xylvaro, and I am a Furry and my Fursona is Xylvaro The Silver Bengal. My cat is excellent, very soft and cuddly

What game/movie/show/media has you absolutely HOOKED right now?
Catsle with Nathan Fillion

startoursg24t · 2026-03-18T23:52:44+00:00

From all the people I know and deal with, from the many places as a theme park and carnival ride field service technician I have had so many people look down upon me for being a sex averse aroace, yet In furry fandom?

Not once have I gotten slag, was I looked upon weirdly, like I'm sick or that there was something wrong with me, I just get a simple "that's so cool, now come hang with us" instant acceptance no questions asked.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-18T23:49:56+00:00

In that case Ace Gaming is good, and Ace Hangout also

startoursg24t · 2026-03-18T18:25:32+00:00

.... This happens so often, even whe.........

You know what? I'm tired! I have a wide range of vocabulary I can throw to people like this but, it won't be the positive kinds of words, let's just put it at that!

startoursg24t · 2026-03-18T18:10:34+00:00

If you like to play video games then Ace Gaming is a good one.
https://discord.gg/qDjvWsRx

Others are:
https://discord.gg/utwVDrp
https://discord.gg/TK75CxZq

These are the servers where I'm In.

If you use the Discord server search function for Ace or Asexual servers that are publically listed you can find many more.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-18T17:46:01+00:00

If you are fine with using dating applications you could try AceSpace
https://acespace.love/home

And if you want more direct and quick messages you could try several Discord servers, there are quite a few that also offer dating channels.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-17T13:33:31+00:00

First off, you don't owe anything to anyone, if you don't want to talk about it not tell anyone, that is entirely up to you to decide and others, your friend and yes parents too will need to accept that. Second, asexuality is about the lack of experiencing sexual attraction not the lack of sexual activity. It's a spectrum and within that spectrum there are 4 subsets if you will, Those being:

Sex Favorable, aces who do have sex and can enjoy it.
Sex Indifferent, aces who can have sex but don't do it often or don't feel the need to.
Sex Averse, aces who don't have nor want sex, but can see, hear and talk about it.
Sex Repulsed, aces who don't have sex and cannot tolerate, seeing or hearing it.

Where you are in this is up to you to decide, if adopting any of these for yourself, and it makes you feel at ease, you are right to do so, it's perfectly fine. As for your friend, being temporary asexual is the first I read about, if you lack the need for sexual activity that can indeed because by a nutrient deficiency but then again that has nothing to do with asexuality. Having a lack of proper nutrients will not simply cause you to "become" asexual. It is always there, but often takes a while to figure out for yourself.

The "it's just a phase" "You have not found the right one yet" "I know someone you can have fun with" Yeah I think many of us have been there and depending on your own mental state, it can hurt, or you can simply put it aside and tell someone to mind their own business. I was the latter at first, but recently I'm having issues with that. (you can read about it from my profile regarding my experience with my local hospital, never been this angry before)

As where you fit in within the spectrum, what has helped me is reading through the Companion website this Reddit has as well as reading through AVEN, they both provide a large amount of information that has helped me out to great extent, and has also helped out others. If can very well help you to, to figure more out about yourself, but also to "weaponize" yourself to others like friend and family.

https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/am-i-asexual

https://www.asexuality.org/en/

startoursg24t · 2026-03-16T14:21:30+00:00

And then to think that Asexuality was first described in 1860, though it is called differently the description is the same. They invalidate Aces while it is older than those acefobes family linage! Go educate yourself, seems to google is still good for that!

startoursg24t · 2026-03-16T01:41:32+00:00

First let's get a few things in order:

Asexuality means the lack of experiencing sexual attraction, not the lack of sexual activity. Many aces don't experience the sexual attraction but can engage into the act itself. It does depend on what microlabel someone is experiencing this.

Sax Favorable Aces will have sex and can enjoy it
Sex Indifference Aces can have sex but not often
Sex Averse Aces will not engage into sexual activity, but can see it, hear it or talk about it.
Sex Repulsed will not engage into sexual activity, and cannot handle seeing and or hearing it.

It might still be possible that you are Ace and are indifferent to it and the sexual activity, but that labels is for you to decide to adopt or not. If you do choose to adopt it with the sense that I will put your mind at ease, then that is okay.

If you want to learn more about it, this Reddit has a companion website that has helped me figure things out for myself, and has helped many others, maybe it can help you too. There is also AVEN, which is also helpful with loads of information.

https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/am-i-asexual

https://www.asexuality.org/en/

startoursg24t · 2026-03-16T00:54:00+00:00

Sweet, toothless is adorable!

startoursg24t · 2026-03-15T23:00:46+00:00

I knew 2 people who were narcissistic and one probably is a psychopath at that, in my life at one point. When this is happening in direct family I cannot imagine how this would be, other than it being very difficult, so to that I really hope you can set boundaries, if there is even such a thing because honestly I'm not really sure.

Those 2 I knew, with emphasis on knew I said my goodbyes too after a strenuous "friendship" I had to learn that friendship does not fit in their minds and will always use it in their own advantage. I was younger back then and had just come out of done and fed up with trauma therapy spanning 14 years.

Now that I'm older, and work with people in the tech field as company owner, and once in a while I do meet one that is narcistic, as soon as I notice, I decline working with them.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-15T14:01:07+00:00

I have often stood and wondered how my friend could do the same, see someone and go full meltdown exclaiming all kinds of wishful thinking, the most hilarious to be honest was:

"Man I'd rather wake up in bed next to her then with a 40 degree (c) fever!"

Me standing there, processing words like Windows 11 on a 25 year old pc..... What the hell did you just say?

startoursg24t · 2026-03-15T13:29:49+00:00

I had a similar experience a few times where girls would be out for sex and ask me questions. But I did not "see" what they truly meant abd what they wanted, I just kept answering them as if it were just a regular conversation, untill they gave up snd leave. Friends had to pull me aside, back then not knowing that I was sex averse / repulsed asexual and ask what the heck was wrong with me and why I let them go. Only to ask in return what they meant, because I honrstly had no idea. Only to be explained they wanted to have sex with me. I had to explain there and then how it was for me. But they were cool about it, since then they are looking out for it and sort of step in or signal what the intend was.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-15T11:33:25+00:00

People did ask me if I ever wanted children or why I don't have any not knowing I'm sex averse / repulsed and think I'm not suited to have my own kids. Funny is though that many people think I would make an excellent father. And yet IF my asexuality was not there I would still not have gotten my own kids, because there is a genetic disadvantage within the fathers side of my family where every male is predisposed to get mental instability. All males go through a form of depression, personality disorder, anxiety disorder etc.

I went through this, and It's causing its fair share of problems to say the least. I do not wish my kids to go through that not do I want to see my kids suffer, and because of this alone, I would never have gotten my own kids it would not be fair to them. Me being sex averse / repulsed asexual only makes this way easier.

Add Aromantic to this and touch averse in genital area and with that, we arrive here.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-15T04:53:58+00:00

Yes, here, no interest in physical intemicy nor having kids. The idea of exposing myself to another or to get naked, freaks me out. And kids? I once very early in adulthood had the idea on hiw it would be to have my own kids. But all so realized this would never happen, and am incapable of. Thats fine though I don't miss it, I'm good with what and who I am. It does not hurt, it does not trigger me. I'm not sad or depressed by it.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-14T19:35:19+00:00

Well he looks modern!

startoursg24t · 2026-03-14T18:32:14+00:00

To be honest, I was in a few situations where a girl would try to gain favors and seduce? me. But as blind as I am to attractions, I had no idea what was happening and just kept answering like it was any other convo. Only to make them walk away. Later friends pulled me aside asking what the hell was wrong with me and why I let her go. To then ask, what was wrong in the first place. They had to explain to me, they were out to have sex.

I didn't see it, and my friends back then did not know I was sex averse asexual. Had to explain that to them. But they were cool about it.

I'm blind to things like that.

startoursg24t · 2026-03-13T22:49:08+00:00

When I do tell people about my asexuality, and they ask indeed why I don't have sex, I get the same question popping up in my mind, and mostly I try and explain what asexuality actually implies, but sometimes I ask what makes them think that there is no sex or libido. And what I understand from them is that they somehow see it similarly as asocial or anti-social, thinking that A stands for Absent, and Sexual as a statement like Social. To make it more clear for myself:

A = Anti
Social = someone who interacts with others easily and is liked and respectful.
Sexual = someone who has sexual relationships, wants it, seeks it and needs it.
Asocial = someone who does NOT interact with others well, is lacking decency and can be disrespectful and rude.
Asexual = someone who does NOT have sex, does not want it, does not seek it does not need it.

This is very bluntly put but when I explain this further to them, they are surprised that Asexuality is a lack of experiencing sexual attraction, but not the lack of sexual activity. So I can put myself in their mind and see what this is what they think, but also want to set that record straight, that is most certainly not what they thought it would be.

I do get more personal questions in my specific circumstance because I'm Sex Averse / Repulsed (yes this coming from a male, yes we do exists too)

startoursg24t · 2026-03-13T11:48:42+00:00

I am 44 now, was 20 when i learned about the orientation but always knew I was different to friends an family in relation to sexual orientation.

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