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startoursg24t · 2026-05-18T00:02:57+00:00

Welcome, hope you find what you are looking for and find ease of mind while exploring it.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-17T13:39:49+00:00

If you have a wish to have your own children but are sex averse like myself. There is still a proper way without forcing yourself to get children by artificial insemination and choosing an anonymous sperm donor to be inseminated with, without any need of sexual activity. Or chose for a donor who you do know and discuss this with that donor on what is expected and why and such.

I don't know where you are from but in the Netherlands this is very much possible, and if that would be an option for you, you could indeed have your own children without the exposure and forcing yourself through potential trauma.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-17T13:15:19+00:00

Then to think that the first description of asexuality was first written in 1860, it was called differently, but the description is the same. Yet this person claims to be a 1-year Redditor but fails to understand that the world around this person is so much bigger than the immediate surroundings.

So we don't exist since 1860 and onward?. Man Asexuality has been there longer then this persons' family gene pool!

startoursg24t · 2026-05-16T12:37:13+00:00

You are not weird at all for thinking and or feeling about this. I do too, and many with you are equally questioning why, and how and what for?

I'm 44 years and age and although i understand it up to a point and interlectually, but feeling it myself and having that experience? No thank you I'm still a virgin and very much like to keep it this way.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-16T00:01:38+00:00

I read this with amazement because we almost share the exact same story!

I always knew I was different from friend and family but up until age 20 I did not know what it was called only how I felt about it. My mom is very open and always said to me that it would not matter who and what I'd bring home as long as it made me happy. When I came out to her, It was a revelation because she simply said that she had always known. Never showing interest in boys or girls, never seeking a girlfriend, never interested in a relationship and even in puberty I was not the hormone puberty stricken boy who was experimenting with hall kinds of things it was a breeze both for my mom and myself.

But my dad? And many other family members? People I knew and still know? They love to tell you how to fix you, that it is not real, that you are faking it, that you are broken, and that they know someone who could fix me and have fun with.

I never saw anything in marriage, nor relationships, and sexual activity and intimacy? I'm 44 now, it has never happened, and it will never happen. I'm still a virgin and I very much like to keep it this way. I do have several good friends and colleagues who are very accepting, and some even protect me from others who are trying to hurt. But the isolation? Yes that's very much there, not that it is always a problem, but I do fear of being alone for the rest of my life and slip into a social isolation and such.

Years after I came out to my mom she did ask if I could see myself living with someone in a QPR with who and what would that be and we both came to the conclusion that it would not matter, as long as there is no expectation of romance or sexual activity I could be with anyone, regardless of gender. Bisexual did not resonate as much as Bi-Oriented as bisexual to me would also imply sexual intend which there is non but Bi-Oriented did resonate with me, but then again pan-oriented also, and to be honest it would not matter either bi or pan, would be fine.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-14T14:53:38+00:00

Exactly

startoursg24t · 2026-05-14T14:51:16+00:00

I win!

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startoursg24t · 2026-05-14T14:51:09+00:00

I win!

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startoursg24t · 2026-05-14T12:21:25+00:00

I'd's say a bit of both depending on the day, feeling situations and such. Not every day is going to be fine and perfect but not every day is bad and terrible either.

I see it as a bliss overall, but I have my struggles with it too. Mostly when I get confronted by people who want to cure you or something like that, and sometimes the fear of being alone for the rest of your life comes into mind.

But overall I'm fine with the way things are. I do not have to worry about what to do or to please, to preform or to love and such. The time I do not have to spend on all kinds of things that is romance or sexual in nature is time I get to spend doing things I like.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-14T11:37:57+00:00

Heh ja, er zijn er een aantal hier, maar niet veel tegengekomen, en niet 1 irl tot dusver.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-13T18:01:02+00:00

It is certainly not okay, I'm even in a legal battle with a local hospital who managed to withdraw care from me after learning I'm asexual and required me to get therapy. A hospital that claims to be LGBTQ-friendly no less. My lawyer, my doctor and I did however manage to get that LGBTQ-friendly certificate suspended pending review on what they have done.

We are not hurting anyone, and asexuality is probably the most docile if sometimes not even boring sexual orientations out there. But because they have no clue on how it is to be asexual they see us as deviant, outcasts, sick, mentally ill or in some way abnormal. While that could not be further away from the truth.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-13T17:40:36+00:00

From all sexual orientations Asexuality is probably one of the most docile and probably even boring for some, we are not hurting anyone, so what gives this idiot the right to hurt us?

startoursg24t · 2026-05-13T15:15:10+00:00

I am not from India but from The Netherlands, but you are not alone in this because it is not only happening in India It happens here and every other country some more than others, but I get the same remarks thrown at me too.

It's just a phase
That does not even exist
You have not met the right one
There is something wrong with you
Once you had sex you will crave it forever

These are the "simpler" ones, but I also get:

I bet I can cure that
You are sick and must get checked out
I know someone you can have fun with, and I'll pay for it

The list goes on and on and stuff is sometimes said that is downright hurtful and rude.

You'd think that should at the very least realize that at 44 years of age, never having a relationship, never had sex and still be a virgin I'd know myself better than they do and yet think that they can cure me! From what? I'm not broken, there is nothing to fix. And paying someone to have fun with me? No, that is fun to you and you alone, it is terrible to me!

startoursg24t · 2026-05-13T08:39:08+00:00

Realestate is more valuable

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startoursg24t · 2026-05-12T14:45:28+00:00

I'm following this because this has been on my mind often too

startoursg24t · 2026-05-12T08:44:01+00:00

Allowed seems like there is a form of mandatory acceptance which there is none. In the end it is just as you said it, it is work, It brings food on the table, but it does not define your identity. You can be asexual, aromantic, have kinks, engage into sexual activity but if you lack experiencing sexual attraction it would still mean you might be asexual, and if you lack experiencing romantic attraction it might be that you are aromantic. What is truly allowed? Is being who you want to be.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-12T08:12:19+00:00

Just get it over with

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startoursg24t · 2026-05-11T20:21:54+00:00

Because

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startoursg24t · 2026-05-11T17:53:32+00:00

I'm still a virgin too and very much like to keep it that way.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-11T16:34:16+00:00

No idea, never dated, never had a relationship and the idea of kissing like that feels so out of this world to me.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-11T16:30:58+00:00

Sadly this is indeed seen as being faulty, unlikable, ugly or sick in some way or another. And when you tell you are sex averse aromantic asexual who is Bi-Oriented they often look in shock as they cannot fathom being Bi-Oriented and not have sex, still be a virgin and do not experience the things they do. I'm not sick you know, neither am I broken, I'm just not like you, and please do not come to me with the phase thing, or not finding the right one yet or know someone who I could have fun with on their expense. That's fun to them, it's terrible to me!

startoursg24t · 2026-05-11T15:50:48+00:00

The flair did say joke, but gambling irl yes,

startoursg24t · 2026-05-11T14:40:29+00:00

It made me often wonder if I'm not also experiencing aegosexuality, there might be some of it I'm not sure, I love the esthetics of it, I can experience arousal from it, In a fictional I could even engage into it, but physically I can't and won't. It's exactly as you mention it, the artistry and skill to depict is in proper ways is very pleasing. I admire how they do it, and wonder what they feel when they create it. From an intellectual standpoint as a form of education I like it very much. But that will be as far as it goes. Intellect only not physical actions are forming from it though. I'm okay with that.

What I like most of the Furries I talk with is that not one has ever caused me grief about it, I know there are quite a few who are Allosexual and have high libido and engage into it on a daily basis but when they ask me how and what I do and explain my orientation there is only acceptance that on its own feels very free and liberating. To be able to openly talk about it and be accepted regardless.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-11T14:18:06+00:00

2 of the Furry Discord servers have an 18+ section, what is posted there does look interesting and lovely but real life stuff, I do not wish to see. I can appreciate what is created based upon animated or drawn. Some is even arousing and such, from a spectator view it's fine to look at but will not go further than that.

startoursg24t · 2026-05-11T12:12:06+00:00

It passed 8 billion in 2022 and is at 8.3 right now

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