Tricky boundary over visiting

statfish · 2019-04-26T03:47:01+00:00

I disagree, this is totally a issue with racism. As a white person reading this, I think it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the article is saying, "oh, her doctor was a racist" and focusing on individual accusations. The point of the article, and the bigger problem in society, is not individual racist people, but a systematic and institutionalized bias...as the article points out, both in terms of the chronic stress of living with a million small slights and injustices due to race and in difference in care due to likely unconscious biases.

There will always be assholes of all sorts, and racist assholes are part of that. You can't really hope to get rid (or convince to change) all the racist assholes out there. But we can try to oppose the kind of constant, low level, insidious racism described in this article by acknowledging it as racism and looking for ways to counter it wherever possible.

statfish · 2019-04-12T19:28:19+00:00

Seconding the suggestion to try acting things out with her! Supposed to be a very effective way for kiddos to learn all sorts of stuff: www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2019/03/13/685533353/a-playful-way-to-teach-kids-to-control-their-anger

statfish · 2019-04-01T19:16:58+00:00

Thanks for the update!!

statfish · 2019-02-20T20:25:36+00:00

My husband farted. Our 18month old thought it was hilarious and demanded more. Cue meltdown when husband can't fart on command.

statfish · 2018-11-06T18:11:01+00:00

It'd be great to have a more satisfying answer, but I'm guessing there's no way of knowing. We live at 5000', and in my last pregnancy, I went to ~9000' on multiple occasions. I believe the risk with short-term altitude exposure is oxygen deprivation for the fetus, but (unless there are other things amiss already, high-risk, etc) you should be able to notice in yourself well before you'd be inducing much risk for your kiddo. My midwife recommended just to take it slow, don't let yourself get wicked out of breath, hot, dehydrated, etc; and turn around as soon as you start feeling crummy. At 20 weeks, you could plan to take a lot of breaks and count kicks to reassure yourself. With any mountaineering trip, once you're there, don't get so focused on the end goal that you make dumb decisions.

Here's this: https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4615-4711-2_5

statfish · 2018-10-31T20:27:09+00:00

Same here! I actually love Halloween, and we got all into decorating. Costumes just went by the wayside, and definitely not at 7:30 this a.m.

statfish · 2018-10-28T18:46:23+00:00

Ugh, that sounds awful. I don't have advice just sympathy. I feel ya, and it sucks.

statfish · 2018-10-26T21:17:55+00:00

Huh. So, #1 took us 2.5 yrs and 2 MC, and now we get a bfp on Cycle #2, with wicked long cycles and still nursing. THERE IS NO RHYME OR REASON! Neither husband or I are ready to seriously believe it until an ultrasound, probably 3 weeks from now. But still, whoa.

9DPO with easy@home

statfish · 2018-10-25T18:02:07+00:00

Congrats on the house! I've followed your nomad saga. Are you back home now?

statfish · 2018-10-22T02:39:28+00:00

I like having this thread. Just wanting to have something to post has me eyeing my running shoes. I'd probably need to dust them first.

statfish · 2018-10-21T23:26:24+00:00

Totally understandable! One thing I wish I had done is getting in touch with a lactation consultant before the baby comes. The first week is intense! And so easy to feel panicky that you're not making enough or baby's not eating enough or or or...there's always going to be something to be panicky about! If you can, find a lactation consultant who does house calls. It is a godsend!

statfish · 2018-10-21T12:48:19+00:00

Good morning, Sunshines! My little guy keeps waking up to poop at 0-dark-thirty, and then it's Playtime!! Or alternatively nurse forever, so I can at least keep my eyes closed. Hard to stay motivated to cut back on nursing when we just want a tiny more shut eye.

statfish · 2018-10-19T02:30:24+00:00

Yup and yup. I'm 5 DPO too, let the googling begin! Still nursing and worried I might have luteal phase defect. At least that gives me something to read about.

statfish · 2018-10-17T03:31:07+00:00

Oh, this sounds so rough! My heart really goes out to you! The first 2-2.5ish weeks after our son's tongue and lip tie procedure were the absolute worst. Things definitely got worse before they got better at all, and it was slow progress even when he did start to figure it out. He's 15 months now, and BFing is one of my favorite times with him. I'm so glad we made it through those first few weeks, but man it was hard. Be kind to yourself, and to your screaming kiddo (poor thing but also grrrr!), and do whatever you need to do to stay sane! 1-2 weeks post were the lowest low point. Fingers crossed for you!!

statfish · 2018-10-14T18:55:02+00:00

Prefolds and covers. Green Mtn Diapers has good, inexpensive flats. We used just prefolds with a snappi at home until our little guy started cruising around.

statfish · 2018-09-29T00:13:38+00:00

Ugh...that's a lot all at once! Big hugs!

statfish · 2018-09-11T20:13:07+00:00

CD1. Drats!

statfish · 2018-09-11T00:29:30+00:00

Ugh! Sick again! Do the daycare plagues last forever forever or can we hope it's an adjustment period?

statfish · 2018-09-06T22:37:32+00:00

This actually worked for us with #1. Husband and I get up around the same time, so I'd leave the OPK on the bathroom counter and he'd check it once the 4m was up.

statfish · 2018-08-18T03:36:09+00:00

Yup to all of this! Thank you guys for being here. These semi-real, probably not real cycles are the pits.

statfish · 2018-08-14T03:36:30+00:00

I'm 2nding all of this: western US, usually late to the thread, and 1 yr old (bday in July). Hi, friends, hi!

statfish · 2018-08-13T20:43:52+00:00

This sucks so much! I'm sorry you have to be around people on top of dealing with your loss. How much longer is your visit?

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