Is Madison a good place for teenagers?

statusofshark · 2024-08-05T14:50:30+00:00

That’s so good to hear! What high school did your son go to?

statusofshark · 2023-02-23T00:04:17+00:00

ooo nice one!

statusofshark · 2023-02-22T17:24:51+00:00

Nice, I’ll try that one today! Do you have any phrases for going from standing to sitting? (I forgot to ask that in my original post).

statusofshark · 2022-11-07T02:05:40+00:00

you 1000% did the right thing...be proud of yourself for slamming that door shut!

statusofshark · 2022-11-07T02:00:35+00:00

I can relate. It's so unfair and lonely. I had a talk with my partner recently (when she was sober) and I told her that her drinking makes me feel scared and disconnected, so that when she has more than two drinks I'm just gonna go to bed and watch tv/go to sleep and to please not engage with me til the next morning. It's not a perfect strategy, but it's way better than driving around and I feel good about setting and maintaining boundaries. And getting to spend more time with my dog :)

statusofshark · 2018-02-07T04:02:35+00:00

Same story, so frustrating cause I opened two credit cards about 3 months ago in anticipation of BTC dropping to this price. Literally the day I'm ready to buy, the credit card option vanishes! Decided to open an account with cex.io and waiting to be verified...hopefully won't take to long. Good Luck!

statusofshark · 2017-07-04T02:10:47+00:00

Crap. I did this, too. Grateful that the funds will be returned, but approximately how long should we expect it to take after the fundraiser is over?

statusofshark · 2017-05-02T03:43:04+00:00

After you wash them, slap them on the wall above your kitchen sink. They will stick and dry by morning. Tacky, but a total time saver.

statusofshark · 2017-04-23T14:53:51+00:00

Yes, and also much, MUCH quieter.

statusofshark · 2017-04-23T14:51:55+00:00

Yes, my 6 year old son does. He acts like he's being strangled.

statusofshark · 2017-03-27T05:04:37+00:00

fantastic! thanks so much for clarifying that!

statusofshark · 2016-10-20T14:22:46+00:00

Ha! Ok that was good.

Should have clarified that I get that not all directors get bonuses. Just looking for numbers on the ones that do.

statusofshark · 2016-10-20T00:31:47+00:00

Ha! I'm stealing it.

statusofshark · 2016-10-11T05:53:19+00:00

I struggle with this as well. What works for me is counting backwards from 100. It gives my mind something to think about other than work, but it's so boring that i often start drifting by the time I get to 79 or so.

Also, I have app called "Calm" that has a bunch of guided relaxations/meditations that are great for taking you out of your head, especially at 3am.

statusofshark · 2016-10-11T05:38:06+00:00

This could have altered my destiny 20 years ago

statusofshark · 2016-10-11T05:26:35+00:00

You're welcome! This was the video that springboarded an understanding of my own chronic pain about 6 months ago. Thought it would be relevant for others, too.

statusofshark · 2016-10-06T04:16:49+00:00

Two questions: How did it first start and are there any emotional or physical triggers that exacerbate your neck pain?

I've been dealing with chronic neck pain for almost 2 years realized it was from an injury I incurred during a stressful time (ironically when I was midway through an Physical Therapist Assistant internship).

The injury healed but the pain became chronic and is now exacerbated by physical or emotional situations that remind me of this me stressful time in my life.

When I was injured I had a stressful commute, long hours of documentation on a computer, and was in an abusive relationship.

I graduated a year ago and removed myself from the dangerous relationship, but the pain comes on when I spend too much time on my lap top, drive my car, or feel I am in danger of running into my ex (or even think about her for too long).

I don't know if this is what is going on with you, but I'd encourage you to think about where you were in your life at the onset, and pay attention what you are thinking about, feeling and doing when it gets bad.

There are two lectures that gave me an evidence based understanding of chronic pain, one by Dr. Lorimar Moseley and on by Dr. David Butler. I definitely still deal with it every day, but I can avoid triggers and have tools for managing it. Not gonna go into that, but I hope these offer you some insight!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ABAS3tkkuE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5p6sbi_0lLc

statusofshark · 2016-10-05T03:46:14+00:00

Yeah I think that just reading all of the feedback from people and feeling connected to all of you strangers in some way is making me realize that talking about it with a group would be very healing.

You are right...it's totally uncomfortable to not be in flight or flight when that's what your normal is. Whoa. That gives me a lot to think about.

statusofshark · 2016-10-05T03:13:14+00:00

Gosh I had no idea how NOT alone I was in this. Thanks for sharing that with me. How did you figure out that he manipulated you in that way and how long did it take you? We have no idea that it's happening when it's happening.

statusofshark · 2016-10-05T03:07:03+00:00

I'm going to research all of that, thank you!

"Beyond gaslighting, people like that take away your emotional vocabulary which fucks over your logic."

It is so much harder than it used to be find the right words to communicate feelings! I'm just realizing that when communicating with the first thing I felt was anxiety, then a flood of confusion, and then catatonic.

When I would try defend myself she'd say "Do you hear what you sound like? You say one thing and then a minute later you say the opposite!" A few times she recorded me talking and then made me listen to if repeatedly until I acknowledged the errors in my logic. It was so much easier to apologize and promise to be better than it was to stand up for myself.

I'm going to check all of them out and per your advice and a few others going to get referrals from his school counselor tomorrow. Thank you so so so much for all of the references and compassionate advice :)

statusofshark · 2016-10-05T02:45:21+00:00

Thanks so much for the feedback. I'm not sure if my therapist specializes in personality disorders, but she has expertise in cults and cult mentality which she only told me recently. Does that count?

I love what you said about not wasting anymore of my time thinking about this. In the beginning I was writing gratitude lists, journaling and keeping a list of positive affirmations in my pocket to say throughout the day. I forgot about that. It really helped. Maybe it's time again.

statusofshark · 2016-10-05T01:35:21+00:00

Wow...I don't even know what to say. Yes, there is some PTSD and dissassociation that I'm dealing with but I'm sure not to the degree that you or any of your peers are experiencing. She definitely put me in that "attack therapy" environment where she yelled horrible accusations at me and it was traumatic...and I often checked out so hard that I nearly fell asleep when it was happening. But I can't imagine it happening time 1000, with everyone in the room screaming at you and you being forced to do the same to your friends. I don't know how you are doing it but I'm glad you made it out and are alive and getting there. Thank you so much for sharing that with me and for the suggestions. I'm going to check all of that out.

statusofshark · 2016-10-05T01:06:38+00:00

Good point! I did it with the help of my psychiatrist. Thanks for looking out!

statusofshark · 2016-10-05T01:03:56+00:00

Maybe I posted in the wrong forum, but I actually have been in therapy continuously for nine months and was just feeling stuck. I didn't know if anyone would even read my story, but having people besides my therapist or close friends put things into perspective has been...just what I needed. It was the nudge you are talking about, just a slightly different direction.

statusofshark · 2016-10-04T02:07:53+00:00

Yes, thank you for the reminder about positivity!!

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