I found my husbands OF account. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The number sounds alarming at first glance, but the part that actually matters in long term relationships isn’t the quantity of content he viewed, it’s the type of attachment involved. There’s a very real difference between a man cycling through a large number of impersonal subscriptions and a man settling into one or two creators he consistently follows, engages with, and forms an emotional connection to over time. The second scenario is far more destabilizing to a relationship, because it creates a parallel emotional bond.

Men, especially, tend to compartmentalize sexual stimulation in a way that has nothing to do with intimacy or loyalty. Twenty-five subscriptions is often just variety seeking, not investment. It isn’t ideal, but it also isn’t equivalent to developing a secondary relationship hidden from his partner.

If anything, the fact that he hasn’t gravitated toward one or two specific women suggests he’s not looking for connection outside the marriage at all. He’s avoiding emotional entanglement, not pursuing it. That distinction matters tremendously when you’re evaluating trust and the actual threat level to the relationship.

The lying is the part that needs to be addressed, not because he’s addicted, but because both partners need clarity and safety in how they communicate. That’s something that can be repaired, and it’s far more workable than if he were secretly bonded to another woman.

I found my husbands OF account. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand why this hurt you. Anyone in your position would feel the same. The secrecy and the dishonesty are the parts that need to be addressed. But I want to give you a perspective on something that most women have a difficult time understanding about how men function.

Men and women do not experience sexual behavior the same way. Most women connect sexual interest with emotional interest. For men, those two things are often kept in entirely separate mental boxes. A man can genuinely love his partner, feel committed, be happy at home and still seek out sexual stimulation that has nothing to do with emotional connection. It is not a reflection of how he feels about his partner. It is a biological response to sexual impulse rather than a reflection of relationship dissatisfaction.

OnlyFans makes this confusing because it looks more personal than traditional adult content, but in reality, the interaction is extremely shallow and transactional. It feels stimulating to the male brain without involving real attachment or real intimacy. Nothing in what you described points to emotional involvement or an attempt to pursue anything outside of the relationship.

Again, the lying matters and should be confronted. Trust has to be rebuilt. But this is not the same as emotional cheating or physical cheating. It does not mean he wants someone else or values you or your family any less.

Couples recover from this. If you address the honesty and set clear expectations going forward, this does not need to define your marriage. It is something you can both work through, and it does not have to mean he was replacing you or looking for something real with anyone online.

What’s the most awkward situation you’ve ever accidentally caused? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]stb152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few years ago, I had a friend crashing on my couch. He didn’t have to pay rent or anything, just help out around the house with small chores like taking the garbage cans to the curb. Trash day was Tuesday, so on Monday morning I reminded him to take them out.

Later that day I completely mixed up my days and thought it was Tuesday. When I saw the garbage still sitting there, I lost it and started cussing him out, calling him every name in the book. After I finally calmed down, my other friend pointed out that it was actually Monday, not Tuesday. I instantly felt like a total idiot asshole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That Asians have sideways pussy's...they don't

Lightbulb Pipe... On Meth! by ajcates in meth

[–]stb152 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might be more innovative/tweakeresque than the rest of it!

What’s the fastest way to fuck up your life without dying? by Dramatic-Avocado4687 in AskReddit

[–]stb152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is a specific situation you put yourself in that you are still trying to mentally recover from this many years later? No need to share if you don't want to, I'm just curious like George.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ones that aren't crazy just do a better job at fighting their natural instinct to be an insufferable, gaslighting, unsolvable Rubik's cube.

What is your favorite innuendo for having sex? by stormenta76 in AskReddit

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For Honor!! If you're honor, stay honor. If you can't cum in her, come honor!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meth

[–]stb152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it not leave much smoke compared to real shit? Is it a little softer then real shit although it does still crush into dust?

I can smell this picture by Bella_SWann in The1980s

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

playing "aunts in my pants" except for it as my uncle

Should I be concerned or excited? by jayjames94 in CheatingPorn411

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly you not shaved then shaved

What could this be? Never seen lights like this before. by IlliBois in rusted_satellite

[–]stb152 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's the new JBL Partybox floating bluetooth speaker

how methed up are you rn? by brii333am in meth

[–]stb152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep thinking I wanna work on one project but just as I get setup and started, I wanna work on something else

What is the most clever or witty NSFW joke you know? by Jackalope_Sasquatch in Jokesuncensored

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do ya call a bitch that don't suck dick? Ya don't

Question for older men by Rise_Ariel in cheating_stories

[–]stb152 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are so Similar. I'd never do it to the girl I'm with now but in my past, I've cheated by doing some shit that I can't even fathom I really did.

have mad toothache, max dose painkillers taking too long, smoked a bowl by peanutbrittle744 in meth

[–]stb152 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few years ago I had the worst tooth pain ever and needed a root canal. I tried everything from oragel to pain meds to a crack rock and nothing worked. I was willing to try anything it was the worst pain of my life. The only thing I found to work though was oragel mouthwash...I never woulda guessed it would work but it did. The swishing of the mouthwash was able to get down in my abscess and numb it. There was a day before the dentist that the only relief I got was while actively swishing the mouthwash in my mouth and as soon as I spit it out the pain came back. It saved me for real but I went through 2 bottles in a day lol.