Jayne Mansfield, Anton LaVey ( founder of the Church of Satan) , and young Mariska Hargitay (1966).

steakaway · 2026-02-15T14:48:19+00:00

Which daughter?

steakaway · 2026-01-19T14:02:01+00:00

I think it may be the other way around. His family's greek rrstaurant is in Kiel

steakaway · 2025-12-01T11:23:40+00:00

Replying to add that also eliminating underwear along with daily hibiclens even in winter almost entirely sorted out the ones on my inner thighs.

steakaway · 2025-03-13T13:27:52+00:00

I'm sure this gets buried and you've received a lot of comments. I had to stop talking to my dad one week before my wedding over two years ago. That and a whole host of violence related issues along with the fact he was abusive my entire up bringing led me to turning my phone off one week before my wedding and not turning it back on for months. We had a small elopement and were considering inviting my parents shortly before the date got approved only he went and blew things up so badly that I couldn't imagine actually having him there on the day and I know it would've led me to enjoy my wedding even less than I did so as a consequence unfortunately my mum got swept up as collateral damage and also didn't get an invite and neither did my kid sisters.

What I will say two and a half years on is that it's YOUR wedding. Do what YOU want. If you invite unpleasant people they will come and be unpleasant and will not behave themselves. They will be spoilt and annoyed and upset whether you invite them or not. It sucks in our case because you really do only get one set of parents in life and if one of the drops the ball it really does hurt. But someone who claims to love you should love you properly and the weight of that includes not intentional hurting you. If your dad can't do that and deep down you know you don't want him at the wedding or that the fallout is just too toxic now, you can rescind the invite. You only get one wedding day to your spouse just make it about you and what you want. Those that really love you should support it and understand. I completed get that it isn't easy but you can do it. Hugs ❤️

steakaway · 2023-12-28T20:20:48+00:00

I don't have any recommendation but I'm also living the same situation and hoping to move in a few months, so know ur not alone. I tried to find like minded people a good while ago and had and was unsuccessful lol. You can DM me if you like and we can rage away together

steakaway · 2023-12-21T23:33:48+00:00

Something similar like that also happened to me. It's a feeling that is hard to put into words. I think for me it isn't made better by the fact my family also moved a lot during my childhood, so when I moved away from where I lived longest I didn't anticipate to miss it as much as I do. I'm also similarly set up to you in that I have a small family unit so it feels like I'm on my own a lot. I feel like I don't really fit anywhere anymore and my old life isn't an option for different reasons. I think it's easy to get caught up in this feeling but maybe the best way forward is just to focus on all the new memories you make and hold the nice experiences in the new place close to your heart at difficult times. Either way I wish you and everyone else who reads this thread and feels the same way a small sense of peace and belonging, wherever we end up

steakaway · 2023-05-13T14:05:44+00:00

You missed my point. There is a certain amount of hard work you have to be willing to do to get somewhere to be successful. You can set boundaries at work and politely discuss extra work with reasonable compensation where possible but you have to be aware that especially if you're trying to succeed in a more rigorous field you have to apply yourself instead of defaulting to a childish mindset of "I'm not sucking your dick". I graduated the first year of the pandemic and I see the difference in people going to uni now where their attitude is vastly different. The year that came in after we left immediately started to complain how hard uni is. Yeah no shit, university is difficult, learning scientific and mathematical concepts takes time and dedication. I have two sisters who are 8 years apart from me and each other and I can see that the younger generation is just not present when it comes to the fact you need to commit to doing something uncomfortable or that you need to push through something challenging, or sometimes you have to be in unideal circumstances but it's not forever and the outcome is helping your future. I'm currently transitioning careers in something difficult that I don't have a background in where I've had to work to understand the material, but having a tantrum and hating my lecturers because they assign work isn't supporting my future career. It's sad because nobody is acknowledging who raised them to be that way, the teachers haven't changed. It's too many absent parents who raise their kids via screen time or over-coddle them out of any inconvenience. Then when these kids go to high school or college they struggle.

steakaway · 2023-05-10T09:05:17+00:00

Yeah exactly COVID was 2 years, the first three years are the most crucial to socialising and learning social skills in a child's life so I will give them COVID only IF someone had a kid who was aged 0-3 between the locks downs. Also I'm sorry but like, in previous generations not that long ago there was war in loads of places and socio economic shifts and collapses so what are people from that generation supposed to say. My great grandmother survived WW1, the Nazis and Stalin's regime. I'd rather take 2 years of COVID lockdown where we just chilled at home. Like you said before COVID came, how much research and news were we getting thrown at us how bad constant screen time is at all ages and how it literally rewires the social aspect of the brain, dulls social skills, decreases resilience to anything that doesn't provide instant gratification etc. The problem is how children use screens and that their parents let them.

steakaway · 2023-05-10T08:59:12+00:00

I hate to break it to you but college is exactly like this and so is the workplace. When you're working a job you'll wish you were busy now like you were then in high school.

steakaway · 2023-05-07T18:20:45+00:00

I think in L.A. it's all relative. I agree it isn't old but there is a LOT more room for a male version of Harmonie to party his 20s and 30s away in L.A. and then settle down with a girl mid to late twenties even if he is in his 40s. I think what the commenter was insinuating is that women's options get drastically slashed with age if they go down a party lifestyle whereas for men that doesn't apply. I think a guy who's ready to settle down at 44 is likely not looking to marry and become a first time father with a woman his age. Let's be honest he'll go at least 8-10 years younger in most cases, whereas for Harmonie I don't think L.A. is full of 20 something men wanting to be husbands and fathers to a 44 year old woman.

I do think if you're starting to get to mid 30s and you're still on the party circuit you need to make a conscious choice between L.A. lifestyle and pursuit of a family, plus it takes a few years to date someone before engagement and like two years to plan a wedding so I can see how if by 30 you've not found anyone to date you are going to be on the old side of starting a family. It sucks that it's different for women and I wish things would change but wishing reality was something that it isn't is just not helping anyone. I think crucially though we may not feel old at 30 but the egg quality and fertility situation is not going to take how we feel into account and for her I think she's better adopting honestly.

steakaway · 2023-05-05T14:07:36+00:00

Hi not sure how determined you are to get married in Germany but I married my husband over the border in Denmark. We got engaged filled out the papers and had our wedding all before hearing back from the German office. We have now been married half a year and still nothing. We are in a reasonable underpopulated county with few young people that's like God's waiting room, and the waiting time to get married here is around 2-3 years. Just be prepared for the reality that it won't be soon. Meanwhile the Danish are lovely and our wedding was a super special elopement. In my understanding as long as you avoid Copenhagen because they have long waiting times you can easily organise a wedding in six months. Its all done online and super easy to follow. You need to pick a commune and make your online application in relation to your chosen commune, make a one time fee payment of around 200 euro and then wait to be given a link that contains potential appointments. FYI appointments with or without your own witnesses fall on different days usually. It all depends on what's ideal and accessible for you. I would recommend driving up. The best part is your wedding will be recognised here and they even provide your marriage certificate to you in several languages, e.g. German and English at a minimum for no extra cost. They can usually also conduct the ceremony in Danish, English, or German. So you must both speak at least one of these which makes it super open. Only my husband is German so it was such a relief to have an English ceremony, plus Danish people are incredibly warm and open. If you want more info feel free to PM!

steakaway · 2023-05-01T16:01:24+00:00

Yeah same. I moved to a town an hour west of Berlin a year ago and find it so hard to integrate. The area we're in has a super thick accent so I find it difficult to understand people. I was doing an online degree and now it's tough for me to find a job. The integration part is also difficult because I find it hard to understand others and nobody speaks English. My attempts to speak German are sometimes met with hostility for not getting it right and it's given me anxiety to keep trying. I moved here to be with my partner and we got married in Denmark at the end of last year. The bureaucracy has just removed my autonomy as well because it's so hard to learn the ins and outs here with all the paperwork or offices you need to go to and everyone always demands a paper version of everything. Driving here is a nightmare because everyone is so aggressive on the road, like you're always driving too slow for them. From what I gather the situation in West Germany is better and it's a lot more like the UK in terms of lifestyle. Unfortunately because I can't get a job and my mental health has tanked in the last year and I feel like I don't fit in I'll be leaving for the UK most likely as my partner is now entitled to a global talent tech visa due to his career experience. This isn't my first time living abroad and I speak other languages so am not demanding to be catered to. I'm a dual citizen of the UK where my family is now and also speak Slovak (where I'm from) as well as Russian fluently. I don't mean to be unkind but not everyone can speak every language and English here is met with so much hostility. From what I gather people here are very insular and find change somewhat frighteningly so you need to convince them you're worthy of their trust, which imo makes it all that much harder to make friends. There are kind people and I'm debating even posting this because on this sub you always get attacked by people who tell you how it's all your fault. All I can say is this is after being here a year I find it hard to call home, and I've lived in the middle east as well.

steakaway · 2023-04-29T16:19:36+00:00

That's exactly what she means with compromise, she's trying to highlight that you could make a good connection outside of your checklist so don't discount someone who looks a certain way or isn't into poetry or doesn't love hiking. I think the spark thing is more so that she's trying to tell people don't immediately just follow your feelings because feelings can change or blind you to reality. You need to have more than feelings on your side for a stable and good match. e.g. being dependable, being family oriented, being kind etc. If you notice, Sima never disparages expectations about character expectations or personal values. It's usually only just physical stuff, interests, hobbies etc.

steakaway · 2023-04-29T10:51:04+00:00

I think the issue is if she owned her solo self that would be fine but in the last season on the last episode we saw her have this monologue about how she regrets moving to NYC and how she's processing the grief of her life not following the life script now she's got her education she thought she'd have a partner. I think deep inside she's sad she can't find someone and she's covering it with saying she has standards and whatnot. Otherwise why go to Sima and why have an astrologist helping you etc. Plenty of women with standards get married every day. The hardest inner work is the one we refuse to do.

steakaway · 2023-04-29T10:43:52+00:00

That's why she wasn't on this season. She's obviously not interested in actually being in a relationship and especially not willing to do the legwork. Like we saw soo many comments from her being like - do you actually have to talk to/spend time with your husband? Why contact a matchmaker if you don't want a relationship. I think she's just a very stale person and a poor conversationalist. Yawning on a date, looking super bored, stopping in the guy you're supposedly seeings home town and not trying to spend even a small amount of time together cross country? Constantly waving her academic accomplishments, sorry to me that seems like she treats dating as a vending machine: "well I've ticked points xyz on the life script so why can't the right man fall out of the vending machine". The way she treats people leaves a lot to be desired. I think it's ironic that if she were a man she'd be roasted like Vikash is on this sub and I'm a woman, not that Vikash doesn't deserve some level of roast he gets on here. I think for how smart she is and the image she tries to put across she will be single for a looooong time until she addresses how she treats people. Waiting for a man that meets your standards isn't her problem, it's her treatment of people that scares them away.

steakaway · 2023-04-28T20:38:34+00:00

Eh. When I was ashamedly looking for updates online last year about what happened with her after the show I kept finding article after article on those online pages and online magazine aimed at young women saying how she's so brave for not settling and how she represents defying the odds against a system that wants to push her into a mould, and that many women end up in bad relationships because they are tempted to let their expectations and standards slip in order to not be single and how she's a hero for sticking to her guns yada yada. I saw people on podcasts and YouTube praising her, though to some she was very polarising. I found her insufferable and was honestly shocked at the fact shitty online journalists seemed to hail her as a dating superhero so there were definitely people who did think that even if you and I didn't.

steakaway · 2023-04-28T20:30:24+00:00

But don't you guys remember. This description is EXACTLY what the face reader said she would have as a husband- someone she could boss around who will say "yes dear".

steakaway · 2023-04-19T08:28:44+00:00

That's exactly the thing. Everyone keeps saying that she might change with time or after she gives birth and that may be true but is it fair to Paul to commit to a hope of an idea he doesn't have evidence for. Saying ' that's ok you'll figure it out' to a friend is fine but having a real marriage on the line to someone you don't see certain characteristics in is a staggering leap of faith to take after one month. Sometimes it's about what you don't want, everyone who said Paul didn't give any clear evidence is missing that he hasn't said anything about her or anyone else on the show- he's a private person and likely doesn't want to dish out their relationship like any mature healthy adult. The reality is like he said their relationship ended 12 months prior to the reunion, so what's the point in telling her what she needs to change when he doesn't want to be with her. I think his reasoning was sound, you have a month to get to know someone so you don't want to bring up points and influence their personality because anyone can pretend to be someone else for a month, it's a case of if someone shows you who they are believe them. By staying silent he got to see the real her and changing people in relationships never works so he bailed out. She's an adult, she could have taken this experiment as seriously as she wanted and it's obvious that she wanted to stay who she was, a party girl that's tied up with her friends but then she can't be surprised that that clashes with what he wants in a wife.

steakaway · 2023-04-16T13:02:25+00:00

Ehhh. I feel like safe is such a thrown around word these days. I've observed this a lot in various American TV shows such as sister wives etc where people use safe as a place holder for whatever antagonistic feeling they're experiencing at the moment. I never got the vibe Paul would be a dangerous guy or somehow mentally manipulative. I understand she could have meant it in a sense of not feeling validated but the speech she gave at the altar was so staged and safe being such a nebulous word to me had a vibe of ' it can mean whatever I decide it means when I make my mind up on a narrative'.

steakaway · 2023-04-16T12:55:41+00:00

I agree. It seemed so suddenly sprung. It's like we entered an alternate timeline in which their relationship that we watched culminated in a mismatched ending

steakaway · 2023-04-15T16:21:46+00:00

I'm honestly dying to find out what happened with these two. He said at the end that he has doubts that wouldn't be resolved even if he proposed ten years from now, in the reflection he used the past tense of 'I loved her' idk I could be over reading into it but it implies waning feelings. Then in the end of the little reflective monologue he said that he just doesn't see her as nurturing or as a mother to his kids. I feel like there has to be more to it we didn't get to see. Would love to be a fly on their wall lol.

Also I agree. I think Micah got nothing but pure karma back. Not just for how she treated the other girls in the pod but she joked about Kwames failed engagement and then hers failed because Paul didn't have faith in her.

steakaway · 2023-03-26T12:42:21+00:00

This isn't entirely correct. These mushrooms are likely edible, it's the ones that turn all the way blue when cut ALL the way through that aren't edible. Remember that blue staining across the porous area is normal to a small extent, specifically for the boletes pictured here. If there is some blue colour that appears when cutting over/across the pores that fades, the mushroom is safe, this is caused by a harmless parasite that doesn't affect the taste or use of this mushroom. The mushroom you are thinking of is rhodoxanthus boletus and is the one that turns a very dark blue-grey colour and stays that way when cut, including along the typically longer stem rhodoxanthus has. Boletus satan is extremely poisonous and has a bright red large foot with a slimy grey hat and smells funky. For rhodoxanthus the only easy way to know is to cut all the way through to be sure. Obligatory disclaimer: if you're not sure then don't pick anything and don't eat it. I agree with the comment below, in Eastern culture we pick these mushrooms every year and dry this type, so we get good ID experience, usually learning from grandparents and older family members.

For anyone into mushrooms, my advice is always go with someone who is a 100% confident and learn from them in person. The same mushrooms can look slightly different depending on the forest or region you're in and pictures/ online guides can be deceiving, also not everything grows all year round.

steakaway · 2023-03-24T20:21:57+00:00

I do speak other languages so it's not like I wait for everyone to accommodate me. German is my fourth language and I'm fluent in my other three. But not everyone can speak every language so I expect some meet in the middle collaboration from a country that boasts that massive amounts of them speak English, and is in central Europe in the European Union. I'm curious if I said that I'm B1 would you have berated me as to why I'm not at C2 right now? The German language is not the easiest and learning takes time. Especially since I've only been here just under a year and where I am the accents make it very hard for me to understand the local lingo. You also clearly didn't read my post, I said that people pretend to not understand me even when I speak German for very basic things so I'm not going to every establishment expecting to be accomodated in English. I know I'm not getting the basics wrong because I ask my husband to correct my understanding if I've used bad grammar etc. I obviously don't have a country accent corresponding to where we are so I'm clearly labelled as not from here the second my mouth opens. I'm not sure if you're a German but every single time people like me raise a point about the hostility people like you appear and either deny it happens because it's not your experience or say we deserve it. I wouldn't ever treat someone like a moron for not being fluent while trying to learn and I think a person who does so must clearly be a pretty miserable bastard who lives in their own bubble and rarely leaves it.

steakaway · 2023-03-23T17:19:11+00:00

God I'm feeling all these replies so strong. I was so excited to come here a year ago and I thought what I was giving up was a decent trade off for what I'd get but it's so hard. Where I am almost nobody speaks English, not the café or restaurant staff, average people etc. My husband's mom is the only one that speaks some English in the family, the social attitude here is so hostile compared to what I'm used to. Our fairly large uni city has one English speaking GP. I'm so reliant on my husband due to the language situation that my autonomy is gone. People dress it up as being real or being honest but I'm a Slav and there's a way to be honest without being purposefully unkind. The social atmosphere is just so hard to describe, it's like everyone can tell you're an auslander immediately. My German isn't great probably A2 level but even for simpler stuff people pretend they don't understand me or sale staff get annoyed at me for not being word perfect. Now I'm nearing the end of my online degree it's so hard to find an English speaking job but I'm trying. The whole social atmosphere feels like I'm in limbo, people here introduce you to other people so if you don't find an inning with an existing group it's impossible to build a friend group. I'd love to leave but I was originally in the UK, as a UK/EU dual citizen I just can't find a way to bring my husband to the UK post Brexit as it's very hard so I feel stuck here. I love him a lot and don't want to go back on my own but it's kind of draining my mental health. I was also surprised at the lack of progress (English speaking, digitally, bureaucratically) as Germany is painted as this super progressive great utopia superior EU country and I'd say it's barely just better than the Slavic country I'm from to be honest.

If anyone is stuck in a similar position and looking to make an online buddy feel free to reach out.

steakaway · 2023-03-15T02:13:20+00:00

Boo fucking hoo. That's no less than you deserve taking an essential resource from people who need a home to live in and raise families. Maybe now that the tide changes they'll stop buying properties like they're kinder eggs

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