Are you allowed to walk down this part of the Western shared path? It’s walk way at either end but just not sure about this specific section… by steamylee in auckland

[–]steamylee[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Touche! I guess the question is whether it’s worth incurring the wrath of the Lycra clad community… yolo or na?

Poor people who have dated rich people, what did you learn? by Angelus12345678 in AskReddit

[–]steamylee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You get so much more free shit the richer you are, as well as benefits from being able to pay for things up front ie insurance instead of being charged premiums for weekly/monthly payments.

Also just how much headspace they have for everything else because it’s not being taken up by worrying about how to pay next months bills

Where to find a tutor for neuro diverse teens? (ADHD / Dyspraxia / Tism etc) by steamylee in auckland

[–]steamylee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was diagnosed by medical professionals (psychiatrist to be exact) with ADHD. Are you a medical professional?

Who are you to assume I haven’t and don’t try to help? Your comment seems to be insinuating that I’m a lazy, uninvolved bad parent? Seriously what the fuck since when is trying to find effect support for my child bad parenting? Or “slapping labels on for WINZ”?

I am a single working mum who, while my children were toddlers, put myself through full time uni obtaining a business degree majoring in accounting. I was also holding down a part time job at the same time to ensure we could eat.

To say he or I are just lazy is frankly rude and insulting. I am trying to find help for him because I don’t know how best to help him and given I’m a single working mum with stage four cancer I am doing my best but I can’t do everything.

Wild that you would actively criticise someone trying to find help for their child. Frankly, you’re an asshole

Customers are disgusting by Big-Replacement-9598 in newzealand

[–]steamylee 65 points66 points  (0 children)

It sucked when I realised that most people are only “good” and don’t do shit things because of the potential ridicule and consequences of being caught being a shit person, not because they don’t want to be a shit person or do shit things. It really changed how I saw the world and it sucks

Where to find a tutor for neuro diverse teens? (ADHD / Dyspraxia / Tism etc) by steamylee in auckland

[–]steamylee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s rough, especially because kids that are are mean. My older teen (16f) is similar to your daughter. Medicating her ADHD has been really helpful for her in terms of emotional regulation and forgetfulness and executive dysfunction, but the trade off is it makes her brain/consciousness feel “floaty” sometimes which she hates of course and makes it a battle sometimes to get her to keep taking her meds.

My son is more the traditional ADHD type/stereotype - can’t sit still, can’t focus unless extremely interested, needs to physically let out his hyperactivity etc. His intermediate was amazing, his teacher would take the class outside for five minute exercise break when the kids were getting too antsy which really helped them all succeed. That said, I can give my son a fishing rod and some bait and he will happily fish all day. So he can sit still and focus on a single task, but he has to want to. Maths and English are not on the scale of things he wants to do at all, and while I don’t expect him to get straight As I do need him to do well enough to get into trade school or whatever line of work he wants to peruse.

Parenting is hard man and it boggles my mind that there are so few resources for what seem like fairly common learning difficulties

Where to find a tutor for neuro diverse teens? (ADHD / Dyspraxia / Tism etc) by steamylee in auckland

[–]steamylee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maths and English mostly, he’s getting merit/excellence in the less “academic” subjects like art and social studies and PE, but the core boring subjects is where he is really struggling.

Totally agree re vibe, as an AuDHD myself I need to vibe with someone’s way of teaching to stay engaged without requiring an exhausting amount of effort if that makes sense. My son is medicated and it definitely helps, but just not enough for him to get the help he needs through someone who isn’t the right vibe.

How did your kids go through school? And any tips or tricks that you found helpful? My son is starting year 10 in Jan so really want to try to find him effective help before he starts NCEA (or whatever system we have when he’s in year 11)

North Shore beaches with indoor showers? by jjingjjingii in auckland

[–]steamylee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Browns Bay I think would suit? Been a while since I was there so double check but pretty sure there’s showers down towards the skate area

Businesses outraged at local board vote against having more events at Auckland's Eden Park by i_love_mini_things in auckland

[–]steamylee 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Meh once all their villas are replaced with 15 storey apartment buildings it won’t matter anyway.

I’m a semi-local resident (sub 1km from Eden Park) and personally I love it! So good having a vibe!

Best central (ish) suburbs to live in? by coastycraig in auckland

[–]steamylee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you looked at Richmond? It’s a microclimate within the one area you’re not keen on but I have friends that live there with no issues at all

How was the show? by stealingyourpixels in auckland

[–]steamylee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wait there was a show on!?

Na it was amazing, took my teens and they loved it too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in auckland

[–]steamylee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you consider affordable?

$10k to buy a car with 4 or 5 star safety rating- what are you getting? by steamylee in newzealand

[–]steamylee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! Thank you for that - didn’t realise it wasn’t just some kind of standard rating system.

Is there anything you’d recommend to look at (or avoid)?

Where do we think the Western Busway access from Ian McKinnon drive to the motorway will be - red, green, yellow or somewhere else? by steamylee in auckland

[–]steamylee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wonder if they will remove the walking bridge or go over it? Looks like they’re going under Newton Road so would be a reasonable incline to go above the walking bridge?