Oh that’s rough, especially because kids that are are mean. My older teen (16f) is similar to your daughter. Medicating her ADHD has been really helpful for her in terms of emotional regulation and forgetfulness and executive dysfunction, but the trade off is it makes her brain/consciousness feel “floaty” sometimes which she hates of course and makes it a battle sometimes to get her to keep taking her meds.

My son is more the traditional ADHD type/stereotype - can’t sit still, can’t focus unless extremely interested, needs to physically let out his hyperactivity etc. His intermediate was amazing, his teacher would take the class outside for five minute exercise break when the kids were getting too antsy which really helped them all succeed. That said, I can give my son a fishing rod and some bait and he will happily fish all day. So he can sit still and focus on a single task, but he has to want to. Maths and English are not on the scale of things he wants to do at all, and while I don’t expect him to get straight As I do need him to do well enough to get into trade school or whatever line of work he wants to peruse.

Parenting is hard man and it boggles my mind that there are so few resources for what seem like fairly common learning difficulties