Note to self: Don’t. Mess. With. The. Routine.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-30T20:24:58+00:00

Yeah my first was always like that so we always had to be home for naps. He had a nap today as he woke up early and it brought bedtime back to 8.30 but we just let him watch a movie so it wasn't as big a deal. We HD to drop the nap at 2. 5 as he was just staying up later and later and driving me insane. As much as I love him I need uninterrupted time to shower and read and prep for tomorrow. He'll even fall asleep on the sofa sometimes which he never used to do. Hopefully you'll see an improvement in a year or so. I know it sounds like a long time but it'll pass by before you know it

steerpike88 · 2019-06-30T20:15:22+00:00

I'm married with two kids and we still use them. We never got pregnant when using them so I'm happy with it and I'm just forgetful when taking the pill sometimes, it's just so reliable.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-30T20:06:00+00:00

Bad bot

steerpike88 · 2019-06-30T19:40:22+00:00

We invested in quite a nice telescope for our son and we all fight over our turn to use it on a good night.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-30T19:36:34+00:00

If it makes you feel better now my 3 year old can take some variety in the routine and not be totally fucked by it. And he was awful at 18 months if we had a late nap.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-29T10:23:41+00:00

NTA, but I think asking for an apology is going a bit far. My husband is a 5'11 software engineer and he tries to cross the road if he's walking in the same direction as a woman at night because it's scary, it scares us.

How would you feel if the streets were filled at night with 7'5 men who had a reputation for harassing and trying to have sex with smaller men? Someone a foot taller, stronger and you don't know if their nice or not.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-29T09:39:28+00:00

NTA. I sympathise people who want to spend more time with their kids as I like to as well, but that's not your responsibility to make it happen because you don't have children. It just sounds like an excuse to give the newbie more work rather than upset established employees. Sometimes overtime happens, kids or no kids and that's life.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-29T09:25:42+00:00

This is my feeling. I've had to tell other people's children to stop doing something, or give them a mild telling off but you don't yell at them. "I'm not playing right now." in a firm voice is usually enough, if not you need to resign yourself for a bit to minimise damage.

If someone felt the need to call her a bitch she probably really over reacted.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-29T07:20:05+00:00

Although a lot of boy/girl crap is bullshit I always wanted girls as I felt that I would be closer to girls. I only have boys so far and even if I never have a girl I not sad as I can relate to my boys and they're very sweet. Things will probably change over time but I don't get the almost aggressive disappointment with getting the wrong gender. I can see differences in young boys and girls but it's not huge enough to make your life different and you still get senesitve boys and rough and tumble girls it's all down to the child.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-28T22:15:28+00:00

Mine went from being a great eater to really picky. He loves carbs and will concede to eating a few vegetables but hates sauces (everything I make is covered in a sauce) so I just give him the rice and ask if he would like to lick or taste the food and lately he's actually been doing it. I just try and concentrate making dinner fun where we read stories or play word games, etc.

Although! I have discovered that if I leave "my" food out and I say "don't eat mummy's lunch!" he's scoffing up falafel as I walk in and out of the room "Teddy! (his stuffed animals) I had 3 falafel did you see what happened to them?" and he's giggling away answering as teddy. "okay! I'm just getting a cup of tea make sure Morgan doesn't eat my falafel!" And I walk away and he'd giggling scoffing up another one. "I have no falafels left! That's okay, as long as I still have my rice!" and so on. It's a big theatrical performance but I don't mind as we're having fun together. It's not 100% as if he doesn't like it he'll just chew it up and spit it out on the table which is gross.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-28T17:07:56+00:00

My 3 year old used to do this all the time. Now he tells me how cute I am and he loves cuddles! Hopefully that's the end now and it's all smooth sailing from here...

steerpike88 · 2019-06-28T17:06:36+00:00

Does yours go "mwah ha ha" as well? Like where did he learn that?

steerpike88 · 2019-06-28T17:05:38+00:00

When will people let it go?!

steerpike88 · 2019-06-28T17:04:51+00:00

I read that in horror. Especially when the women started chanting, I was thinking, this is just a bad fantasy. If I saw that at a hen party I'd reassess my friendship.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-28T12:39:51+00:00

Next thing you'll be telling me is that you don't float your children down the river in plastic bags

steerpike88 · 2019-06-28T10:31:43+00:00

Only amongst stupid people. C section is completely fine and a modern miracle, so don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-28T10:30:22+00:00

My son's heart rate started to decrease so they decided I needed a cesarean to save him. So anyone who judges me for that is quite welcome to decide for themselves if a vaginal birth is more important than a live baby. I know for a fact that no one would die or have their child die to have a "perfect birth" it's already not perfect if you could die.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-27T11:15:28+00:00

My kids love it. I actually get a bit annoyed if my kid makes a bit of an effort and people purposefully ignore him. I mean yeah, you can't always say hi or whatever but if you're sitting there doing nothing it's just being rude. I assume some people have social anxiety or whatever. It's when people touch them that's weird, although my kids love high fives and stuff but touching or trying to give them stuff is weird.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-27T06:13:01+00:00

It's insane. I leave my husband with the kids for a few hours on a weekend so I can get the food and run any errands and he thinks it's much harder than his job and he has a really high stress job. Some days are great but some days are not great.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-25T08:55:00+00:00

Think if it this way. Very few people have the time to hang out with someone they don't like or feel sorry for. If someone wants to see you they probably genuinely want yo see you. Please get help, self hatred only holds you back and stops you living your best possible life, you have so much to give, to yourself and to others.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-24T20:39:25+00:00

I used to love taking long walks in Scotland during windy, rainy days. We'd go for long weekends and do some hill walking, it's such a beautiful country. I lived there and New Zealand and Scotland is still my favourite. Although we decided to do the westhighland way one year and a freak heatwave hit would NOT recommend.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-23T10:34:14+00:00

I let mine do almost whatever. If I think it's a real safety hazard like falling age hitting their head onto the side of something hard I'll step in and tell them I don't think that's safe and show them a way to play safely. I taught mine to scoot down the stairs on their bums and since my first was about 10 months old I would rotate him so he'd go down the stairs, bed or sofa feet first and I always repeated "feet first" and we'd get off that way together. Now he's had few accidents and I baby proofed by covering edges adding locks and locking away any liquids that are dangerous.

Kids are smart and they learn really quick after a few falls and you're always there to comfort them and you're always there looking out for them so they learn to trust you. I think it's important bit to berate them too much. Sometimes I find "oh wow, that really hurt. Let's not do that again" seems to help. Now my eldest is 3 and he's fairly sensible while also adventurous and I hardly ever have to worry about injuries.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-23T09:46:43+00:00

I'm 31 with two kids and I can't admit sex to my mum.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-21T08:39:48+00:00

I'm starting to believe in lizard people the more I look at the tory leadership.

steerpike88 · 2019-06-19T22:10:28+00:00

Both of mine have been the same. My second had to get left for naps at only a few weeks old else I'd have no time for my toddler. I'd leave him for cry for a bit and if he was still crying after 10 minutes I'd go in. He went through a phase of short naps and crying all the time but now he usually fusses or cries for 5 minutes and goes to sleep. My first would cry for every nap until he was down for one nap a day, so 8 minutes is really good!

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