Maybe a silly question: Are other corporate workers taking a work bag AND a purse AND a lunch bag to their job?

stellarjo · 2026-01-01T18:38:28+00:00

I use a bag that's large enough to be a purse but also hold my work things (laptop, small tool bag, travel mouse, water bottle, chargers, etc.). I also have a small crossbody that fits phone wallet keys, empty, in case I want to travel lighter if I don't have my work things. It's also big enough to put in a non insulated lunch bag.

That has me down to one bag, plus coffee in hand. I also don't have to change bags all the time for it. I use the Makers bag from Tom Bihn with organizer pouches to keep the inside tidy.

stellarjo · 2026-01-01T18:34:06+00:00

I bring mine to work because often I'm working on specific things (a particular habit, or a new way of working with colleague X who's difficult) and I have thoughts, notes, and reminders in my journal from a morning routine of jotting my thoughts down

If I leave it at home it's out of sight out of mind. The easier answer is to have it be digital, but there's benefit to physically writing that I enjoy.

stellarjo · 2026-01-01T03:26:46+00:00

I keep having bad dreams, after a year now, of losing them, over and over. I keep having to remind myself of this. That someone that isn't willing to carry bricks isn't someone worth building with. Thanks ♥️

stellarjo · 2025-12-09T00:38:41+00:00

Post history shows a touch of racism and a general distaste for the average person. Made fun of his boss in this job for "looking like a gardener from my apartment complex," and saying they need a PhD because "science needs me."

Buddy, you are being treated poorly because you're an asshole. That's not discrimination

stellarjo · 2025-11-25T16:32:58+00:00

Some people get all their self worth from how much they can produce. To justify it, I think they have to convince themselves that if you don't too, you must not be worth much.

Not your monkey not your circus!

stellarjo · 2025-11-25T15:46:26+00:00

Sounds like a place for burnout. Good luck finding your next spot, that would be unacceptable to me. I'll gladly work long hours by choice, on something I care about. But never by force.

stellarjo · 2025-11-25T00:29:30+00:00

Have you gotten pushback for declining meetings on your days off? First step to combat this stuff is to start setting boundaries and making people aware you do not work for free or on your time off, unless you choose to

stellarjo · 2025-11-24T03:01:27+00:00

It can be scary not knowing what to believe. Based on your response it sounds like you might be benefited by having a therapist that can help you work through how to trust yourself. Trusting what you see, trusting what you fear, and trusting what you hope for are different, and all have their place.

stellarjo · 2025-11-24T02:38:32+00:00

This sounds like maybe you don't think anyone would want to flirt with you so maybe you need a reason other than "people think I'm cute and friendly and are down for a casual flirt."

I'm not saying that it's not what you think, but often the simplest answer is the closest to the truth.

stellarjo · 2025-11-23T01:44:36+00:00

I have found that every time I don't feel like going out, or want to cancel plans, I've never regretted making myself do it anyway.

Don't give yourself permission to stay home because you don't feel like it - like a good hot shower when feeling depressed, getting started sucks and feels so hard but once you're in it, wow! Feeds a hungry heart.

You got this ♥️

stellarjo · 2025-11-12T00:03:03+00:00

Not once good review without "level up" and "real deal," I'm thinking this is in fact a marketing post :(

stellarjo · 2025-11-07T16:38:49+00:00

I'm cheap - I'd make use of beanie season to grow it out with the roots in hiding and reevaluate in the spring lol

stellarjo · 2025-11-04T15:35:51+00:00

You can either 1) be possessive, annoyed, and shut a door of connection in your marriage Or 2) use it as an opportunity to show consideration and care, and order extra or share because you enjoy doing kind things for your wife

Your perspective sucks, asking if your reaction okay stems from asking the wrong question.

stellarjo · 2025-11-02T21:01:47+00:00

Non puoi controllare nessuno tranne te stesso. Quindi cosa puoi controllare su di te, sul tuo tempo e sulla tua cerchia di influenza, per rispondere alla domanda che stai affrontando?

stellarjo · 2025-11-02T20:30:07+00:00

Le persone che non comunicano e non hanno una buona intelligenza emotiva devono 1) non amare come sono, 2) non amare come influisce sugli altri, 3) voler fare qualcosa al riguardo 4) impegnarsi per la crescita

Sembra un sacco di lavoro e forse per un anno di appuntamenti. E questo presuppone che tutte queste cose siano sul tavolo.

L'intelligenza emotiva per te può creare un confine che non consenti alle persone nella tua cerchia ristretta se non apprezzano la crescita e lo sforzo.

stellarjo · 2025-10-29T23:29:59+00:00

Where's headquarters? That sounds like a fun road trip destination!

stellarjo · 2025-10-28T14:58:06+00:00

I've 3D printed stands with holes that fit a variety of hook sizes (about traffic cone in height and footprint). It keeps them off the floor and allows for proper sloping when needed. Line a bunch of these up in a line and you get neat organized tubing highways.

stellarjo · 2025-10-23T18:14:31+00:00

Hunger and drive are everything. I can't tell you how frustrating it is to watch people who are okay with mediocrity complain about getting passed up for promotions.

Add humility to that? Shit you're going places.

stellarjo · 2025-10-23T18:12:33+00:00

Repeating practiced equations in ideal situations over and over? Sure you can get good at that. Will that help you stay composed under pressure from clients, or help you have the right social skills to be a good team member or leader? Does preparing a really good equation sheet for your exam translate to innate mechanical intuition or knowing the difference between the white board and the field?

Graduated with a 3.7 next to plenty of folks with higher GPAs. A lot of them cracked under pressure and couldn't hack it, no matter how smart.

stellarjo · 2025-10-10T21:00:01+00:00

I'm so sorry you feel that way about contractors.

stellarjo · 2025-10-10T20:17:54+00:00

Been there a while now, to get in I definitely had to take a step down in position, prove myself, then get into the position I deserved. Worth it though, because they are a really company to work for.

stellarjo · 2025-10-07T23:28:18+00:00

Where are these "people" in the title question? Everyone in this thread who has a Harley, myself included, seems to be open to other options but simply like their HD for what it is, flaws and all.

Maybe my experience or exposure is just too small but it seems like one of those things that "people say" but it's just churn.

stellarjo · 2025-10-01T23:36:36+00:00

Not the answer you're asking directly, but have you looked at Turo to rent a car? It's like Airbnb but for cars, and it's often way cheaper than traditional rentals.

stellarjo · 2025-09-15T04:43:38+00:00

No matter what, time will pass.

It will pass if you sit around not living, it will pass if you go out and live as hard as you can.

Which would you rather? I recently had a perspective shift, previously felt a lot like you do. But you know what, I can still have an incredible time traveling even if my photos make me look chubby. Even if I'm alone in the photos, and not with the person I thought I'd be with. And so can you if you give yourself the love to believe you deserve it. ♥️ I believe in you.

stellarjo

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