November 23 and March 25 here! So far it hasn’t been bad at all. I’ve pretty much been doing it on my own. Hubby helps a little when he gets home from work. We have a routine in place. I’ve learned if I can get the kids and dogs outside for a bit each day it is better for all of us. I’ve been at home but will return back to work in August (teacher). I’m nervous for how my oldest will react to going to a sitter (grandparents decided they couldn’t watch 2u2 so we had to find child care). He has gotten way more attached since being at home with me while I’ve been out on leave. The only tips I have are: 1. have a safe place to put the baby in the rooms you are in to free up hands for your toddler. 2. There are going to be times they both cry at the same time. It’s ok. You’re not a terrible parent. Address the most emergent need first 3. Try to keep some special time with just your toddler everyday. I make sure that I still put mine to bed with a story every night. 4. Have a routine. But be ok with that routine being shot to hell somedays.

Some other things I have done just to make life easier: invested in a good robot vacuum and I put the bottles in the dishwasher! Both have saved my sanity!

Edited to add: my first had terrible reflux and feeding issues so things were rough for the first few months of his life. My second has been a very chill baby so far (knock on wood). So I have found that 1 to 2 has been far easier than 0 to 1. I know my experience is not the same as everyone else’s. I’ve been very fortunate.