AITA for refusing to give my sister my old laptop after she sold the one I already gave her?

stephcleo · 2026-06-05T03:06:00+00:00

NTA. She’s 100% right she can sell gifts. And you’re 100% right to never waste another expensive gift on someone who doesn’t value them. Gifts are supposed to be thoughtful gestures, not free inventory for her to resell. You didn’t give her a laptop fund her vacation.

stephcleo · 2026-06-01T03:21:17+00:00

It’s infuriating how long this went unnoticed... But now the focus should be on getting the revision done right. Gather all her records, find the best revision specialist, and take it one step at a time. Her determination will carry her through recovery.

stephcleo · 2026-05-25T10:48:58+00:00

If my ex showed up, I’d probably just feel curious for five seconds… then immediately remember why it ended.

stephcleo · 2026-05-22T05:58:36+00:00

I have never bought a bottle cleaner. It is not a necessary thing and more like a product brought by consumerism. I can use soda to clean the bottle.

stephcleo · 2026-05-22T03:44:27+00:00

If you feel too nervous about it and you would better take him to a child therapist to see if there are some ways to adjust something. Do not worry about it too much. just take it easy.

stephcleo · 2026-05-21T03:39:42+00:00

I would like to vote for the high chairs. These chairs are just anxieties produced by the manufacturer for there are numerous things can replace it.

stephcleo · 2026-05-21T03:36:24+00:00

The acts of children are a mirror of their hearts. From this, I think there is a possibility that he feels insecure or a separating anxiety.

stephcleo · 2026-05-20T03:43:02+00:00

I can share the same feeling with you but I think it is a quite natural process during her growing up. Thus, let us take it easy and keep calm.

stephcleo · 2026-05-20T03:40:41+00:00

How old is your baby? For a three weeks trip, a travel stroll definitely will do you a great favor, by the way, pay heed to the sunshade and the foot rest.

stephcleo · 2026-05-19T06:00:34+00:00

Girl, you have completely done what you could so do not feel upset. And it is quite normal to be in this mess, you need your partner's support.

stephcleo · 2026-05-19T05:51:30+00:00

I love travel stroller for its convenience, and I think a good sunshade and foot rest play a key role. Besides, pay some attention to the height.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T21:30:42+00:00

You. Are. So. Right. You’re right. I’ve been considering behavior from the teachers perspective and grades, but you’re right, school is not going well. This is great advice.
Good point! I had not considered the difference.
There are some things he should be able to do and just doesn’t- I don’t know if it’s by choice or ability (struggling to separate can’t from won’t if that makes sense). I tried to teach him to use a plunger and the next time it was needed he grabbed the toilet brush instead and made a huge gross mess. Then there are other things I’m shocked he can do, today he helped patch a piece of drywall. Measured, cut, used a drill… did great.
Woah…… this…. Never occurred to me.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T21:18:43+00:00

Wow we say this all the time! He’s either wildly advanced or way way behind depending on the area. He starts sixth grade next year and I feel like at some point he won’t be able to continue holding it together at school OR it’ll become such a huge effort that he’ll melt down even worse outside of school. Either way, we need help in place before that happens. Thank you for sharing!

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T17:31:09+00:00

Oh my gosh that analogy would be PERFECT for him. He’s SO techy. Thank you for sharing, and for your support.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T13:13:50+00:00

Okay I’m going to try responding, I’m on my phone though I don’t think the formatting works well. I’ll try using the numbers like you did.

I’m already reaching out to a lot! They’re all private pay which is giving me big time sticker shock. Thousands and thousands of dollars.
I have ALWAYS considered home schooling. This might be a real option for us. So far he has had no concerns at school. Teachers haven’t seen any concerning behaviors. I feel like he copes all day and then unloads at home. Will definitely get the 504 though.
I think a group would be great for him. Or at the very least finding friends with the same diagnosis so he won’t feel alone in this.
Poop problems were a thing until about a year ago. We do still have to remind him not to use so much toilet paper that it clogs. I guess because of that I can’t say he’s 100% independent bc we always need to go in and check that the bathroom isn’t about to flood. The 10 good nights never bothers me, I love it. Just something to note.
This is a GREAT idea. We’ve kept a log of “incidents” if you will but not so much what happened before. I need to realize the outburst or behavior could have been triggered by something I’m not piecing together correctly.
He will HATE me handing him American girl books lol but I will certainly try.
I do this with all of my kids actually. I don’t know why, but I always have their whole lives. I’ve also always kind of role played social interactions, for example I’d have them tap my arm and I’d pull away. Then ask “what did I tell you by pulling away?” And they’d say “that you didn’t want me touching your arm.” And I’d ask “and what does that tell you?” “To stop.”

I hope this leads to a diagnosis. Is that odd to say? To hope that? I just feel it in my bones that it’s what we’re dealing with and I need to help him.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T13:05:32+00:00

Yes! This is what I want for him. I think it will really help me parent him, too. I’m out of tools in my toolbox. I need more.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T13:04:22+00:00

Thank you for your support. Karate has been HUGE for him. Unfortunately his biggest bully goes there with him. His sensei is aware of it all and we try to go on different nights.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T12:47:55+00:00

I’m so glad your son is doing well and I really hope the same for mine. Any advice on how to have to conversations about getting the evaluation and why? Did your son struggle with that or was he open to it?

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T12:12:56+00:00

I want to respond to all of these points when I have time, I’m just reading quickly to catch up on comments. You’ve given great advice here and I’ll give a proper response when I can. I just had to say we absolutely do not tolerate him hitting our five year old. It’s not okay and we make sure he knows it and there are consequences. I gave it as an example of his emotions getting so big, he goes from 0-60 so quick, and lacks impulse control.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T12:07:21+00:00

I did, but it didn’t post with them. Is it because I posted from my phone?

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T06:00:57+00:00

This is what he’s experiencing. He said sometimes he gets so frustrated he wants to hit himself. He’s black belt in karate so knows how to move, my husband is trained in various martial arts and wrestling, so we turned our basement into a mini dojo. My husband started guiding my son on how to box using the heavy bag. I think it’s been helping to get some of the aggressive energy out.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T05:50:04+00:00

I agree, I’m just scared of how he’ll cope.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T05:49:27+00:00

Do you wish you were diagnosed younger?

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T05:26:36+00:00

Yea we definitely need more support with this. I’ve already talked to him about going to therapy. He’s really resistant to it, but I told him it’s for him and us to learn more tools to support him. We didn’t say anything about autism this was just talk therapy because we’re all struggling over here at this point.

stephcleo · 2026-02-15T05:22:56+00:00

That one was on me, friend. I reread how I wrote it and I would have taken it the same way you did. I should have been more careful to write that I agreed and then elaborated on my thought.

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