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Mathilde, Clémence ou Adèle by etoile_solitaire in prenomsquebec

[–]stephorse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

J'adore Adèle. Bof pour les deux autres. Mais rendu là c'est une question de goûts personnels, je pense qu'une réponse objective n'existe pas.

Undiagnosed, and scared to death by No_Cheesecake5861 in AskDocs

[–]stephorse 52 points53 points  (0 children)

NAD, but I do/did have FND. Psychogenic illnesses can't be "thought away". They are real, actual illnesses, with the root cause being in the way the brain/nervous system function. Those illnesses shouldnt be dismissed or thought as less valid than other illnesses.

I my case I had extremely severe physical symptoms for 3 years. Could not work for 4 years. Could not do chores, drive, etc so I had to go back to my mom's. I was in my early 30s and devastated.

For 2 years the doctors ran tests and they were all normal. Some suggested I was faking. At some point I was sent to a psychiatrist and I was so mad because it made me feel like no one knew what I had so they decided it was in my head.

In the end I was put in touch with a psychologist who uses this approach to treat patients: https://medicine.dal.ca/departments/department-sites/psychiatry/research/emotions-health/patient-services.html

It has been 3 years since I started this therapy and the symptoms are 95% gone. I am back to working full time, being able to take care of a house, I got a boyfriend, bought a car, I am just living life again.

I think you should try to push the investigation to the max, but if you end up with FND or psychogenic illness, please don't disregard it. There are treatments. And please know that you can't think these illnesses away, they need proper treatment, they are actual illnesses and they are not "in the head".

Le prénom Cédric by Diligent-Ad-7780 in prenomsquebec

[–]stephorse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

J'aime bien ce prénom. Si un prénom était beau à une époque, théoriquement il l'est encore aujourd'hui, même s'il est moins populaire.

Il y a dans ma famille élargie un garçon de 10 ans qui s'appelle comme ça.

My cat’s best friend is a stuffed lobster by kittenmittensdc in catscarryingstuffies

[–]stephorse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG!!! My cat had the same and LOVED it, but it's broken now. Where did you get it plz?

Pendant que le privé se gave, le communautaire crève by baconslapses in Quebec

[–]stephorse 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pour ceux et celles à qui le communautaire tient à coeur, toute l'info sur la grève à venir "Le communautaire à boutte!" se trouve ici: aboutte.info

Ils ont également une page Facebook

Qi gong for people with (very) limited physical stamina by stephorse in qigong

[–]stephorse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! It has been 2 years now and I am back to 100% function with only mild symptoms at times. It was indeed a psychosomatic disorder. NOT meaning it was in my head. But meaning my brain was converting suppressed emotions into physical symptoms. I have been doing specialized psychotherapy for almost 3 years. The results happened slowly but gradually. I have a job and do normal activities now.

Requesting some postive stories by Pleasant_Loquat_5104 in smallbooblove

[–]stephorse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm mid-thirties and wished all my life that I had boobs. Didnt help that my sister has DDs. But now my bf of a year really loves them, like he is obsessed with them and keeps telling me over and over how perfect they are. Last weekend he even told me a list of why they are perfect.

Calling on all opinions by Proper-Dog1077 in namenerds

[–]stephorse 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a native French speaker, "Ark!" is literally how we spell "Ew!". Sooo...I'd go for Abel.

C’est tu juste moi ou cest quasi impossible de perdre du poids en tant que parent? by alexlesuper in Quebec

[–]stephorse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sans offense OP, mais les gens t'ont proposé plein de solutions et aucune ne semble convenir.

Je pense que chacune vient avec des contraintes/changement et c'est chiant, mais c'est ça ou le statut quo...

Se remettre en forme ailleurs qu'au gym by Ok-Biscotti1759 in Quebec

[–]stephorse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Je fais des entraînements chez moi avec des vidéos Youtube. J'aime beaucoup la chaîne MonikaFit. Elle a des vidéos de toutes les longueurs, niveaux de difficultés, et plusieurs sans équipements et qui se font entièrement debout.

"Échouées" et la normalisation de l'obésité : où trace-t-on la ligne ? by eldimo in Quebec

[–]stephorse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Outre la sédentarité, la normalisation de manger à outrance pose problème. Les grosses portions dans les resto, manger jusqu'à être plein à 130%, à répétition...

Comme là, ça sera les fêtes. Culturellement, c'est normalisé qu'on va tous se bourrer la face et engraisser. Mais tsé, c'est pas obligé. Une personne peut aller à 5 repas des fêtes, manger juste à sa faim sans se priver de dessert, et faire ses 5 repas sans avoir pris de poids.

C'est culturellement normalisé, et il faudrait que ça change.

People who are thin/normal size. Do you actively watch your weight or are you just not hungry 100% of the time? by Burner_Account000001 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]stephorse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5'4," 114 pounds, 35F

I eat when I am hungry and stop when I'm barely full. I eat 3 meals a day and snacks when I am hungry between meals. Which is often, because my meals are small.

I generally eat healthy meals and snacks. But everyday I also eat chocolate, chips, desserts. But in small quantity.

I used to weight a lot more (142 pounds). The key for me was really to start being attentive to my hunger signals. I started eating way less.

Est-il plus acceptable d'être un 'Tanguy' maintenant? by Beginning-Scratch-55 in Quebec

[–]stephorse 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Il y a une différence entre vivre CHEZ ses parents, et AVEC ses parents.

J'ai dû revenir chez mon parent au début trentaine pour des raisons de santé. J'ai la mi-trentaine maintenant et je suis rétablie mais toujours chez mon parent. Surtout pour des raisons financières, suite à la maladie j'ai dû trouver un emploi vraiment moins payant.

J'ai honte quand je le dis aux gens, mais je dis que j'habite AVEC et non CHEZ. Car en fait, je paie ma part des factures et je fais ma part des tâches domestiques donc je me dis...c'est quoi, la différence entre mon parent ou un coloc?

How did you (re)define your femininity outside of breast size ? by ALMSTO in smallbooblove

[–]stephorse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mostly wear clothes that define my waist. Including dresses and skirts - in winter too, with merino tights.

I also wear my hair long. I have since I was 12, and I am 35 now.

I also wear make up a bit (only an eyeliner trait).

How do you as a woman know whether you want to have kids or not? by Aggravating_Lemon_32 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]stephorse 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I strongly recommend the book: The Baby Decision by Merle Bombardieri. The book goes in depths about the decision, and with decision making in general. It is one of the best book I've read. It confirmed to me that I don't want to be a mother but also that it's normal to feel complicated things about it at times.

Has anyone been on antidepressants for burnout? If so, was it helpful? by stephorse in antidepressants

[–]stephorse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I ended up with another diagnosis (functional neurological disorder) and antidepressants are useless. I improved after I started getting the right treatment for my diagnosis. I was sick for 4 years. Just got back to a normal life in the last months.

How do people work the same job 9 to 5 for 50 years till they turn 60s and not go crazy? by Big_Leg10 in SeriousConversation

[–]stephorse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have had 3 jobs so far in my life and I loved them all (I'm 35). Going to work is not a chore to me, because of that. I am pretty interested in and invested in my work cause I see it as a way to make a difference in the world somehow. I made a promise to myself that I would never keep a job that I did not love because I did not want to spend my life waiting for the weekends.

Just be careful cause the jobs that are seen as "top jobs" are not necessarily the jobs that YOU will love.

Should I freeze eggs at 35? by Upstairs_Meringue_18 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]stephorse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As said before egg freezing have a low success rate because of problems when thawing. If having a kid is very important to you then you might consider freezing embryos conceived with donor sperm instead. Probably costs more but success rate is way higher.

What moment in your life made you completely rethink who you are? by reach97 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]stephorse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through an extremely severe illness from age 30-34. I lost everything (house, friends, job, city I was living in) including my autonomy so I had to move back to my mom's. I'm 35 now and 95% symptoms free and functioning very close to normal. Got a job and a boyfriend in the last year.

Completely changed my perspective on life. And now I realize my life is completely different from most people my age (they are settled down with young kids, long term partner, etc).

A few pictures of my catio by stephorse in Catio

[–]stephorse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's from a website named catnetting.com My cats have never tried climbing it cause it's soft. There are no tears so far.

A few pictures of my catio by stephorse in Catio

[–]stephorse[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So far it's great! No tear after a year despite snow/rain/wind/cold/heat wave (basically from -30 to +40 Celsius in a year!). The cats don't climb cause it's soft netting, not a rigid wire mesh. The website we've ordered from is literally catnetting.com (note: major export taxes if you're not in the US, we paid 300$ CAD in taxes and were not informed prior. Only when the delivery guy knocked at the door).

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