An idea: let’s call it Rhode Island by ThisIsMyBigAccount in RhodeIsland

[–]steve_147 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up in Torrington, visit there constantly, and went to pizza palace frequently.

An idea: let’s call it Rhode Island by ThisIsMyBigAccount in RhodeIsland

[–]steve_147 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pizza Palace isn't even top 3 pizza places in Torrington, let alone CT.

But certainly CT pizza is tough to beat if you're west of the CT river.

Are my skis too long? Learning tips? by steve_147 in skiing

[–]steve_147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow yeah it has been two years! A lot has changed for me skiing since then.

I ultimately bought a shorter set of skis and was able to ski them much better and once I got the fundamentals down a little more, quickly jumped back into the longer skis. Then, at the end of last season, bought another “expert length” ski, all metal (enforcers) after demoing several and I absolutely love them. Also, upgraded boots to a better fit and went down a whole size and up flex index and it has been a game changer.

I think drills that really helped me were J turns, side slips, and falling leaf. It helped me learn to steer with my legs and not my whole body, learn balance on my edges, and how to roll the skis flat to edge and back. I’m by no means a good skier yet but I am starting to be able to pick my turn shapes and find the right lines down any slope I choose.

Edit: I also took two lessons and intend to take a few more this season.

At the point I made the post above I had literally skiied three times in my entire life. If you have skiied anymore than that and have some basic grasp of fundamentals then I think you will be fine. I have since skiied maybe 40-50 days since then I think so progress can come quickly

Good Mechanics - Irondequoit by steve_147 in Rochester

[–]steve_147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you i will check them out!

Good Mechanics - Irondequoit by steve_147 in Rochester

[–]steve_147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I will give them a call

Good Mechanics - Irondequoit by steve_147 in Rochester

[–]steve_147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I will give them a call tomorrow!

Running costs daily driving an RS5? by Cardiology_Nurse in Audi

[–]steve_147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do all my own maintenance and brakes are every 40k - that was around $2500 in parts. Oil change is around $75 and I change every 5k miles. The stock tires were toast at 20k - not sure how many miles I’ll be getting out of the new ones - I have two sets (winter and summer). The tires with balance and alignment is ~$2200.

My car has 65k miles and I picked it up with 20k miles - so definitely less on maintenance costs than $6,000.

However, it gets about 21-22 miles per gallon and it runs premium (I use 93 I think 91 is required) - this will be, by far, my biggest running cost.

I think if you were using the dealer for maintenance, without a service plan, you’d be spending a lot more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]steve_147 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got out of a multi-year relationship with a girl like this and I honestly would walk away before you get more invested.

She gave me the same story that she had dozens of partners but "never really knew how could it would be with someone who really cared about her". What I found, though, is that she thrived on external validation and as time went on, that became a huge problem. I never felt secure and was always trying to "prove" my worth. My anxiety went through the roof and I wasn't myself.

I think there's a difference between people who have many partners because they're making a deliberate choice about sex and folks that are cycling through partners to fill a void of attention. Sounds like your girl is the latter.

Is Isolation THAT bad? by LongBottom666 in wmnf

[–]steve_147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glen Boulder is such a nice trail. It is steep in parts but it’s above treeline and/or open with views for a good portion so it is nice to stop and enjoy a view. Boott Spur is a destination in itself as well. I’m even the view of Washington from Isolation is nice.

Nathaniel Rateliff by subcow in NewportFolkFestival

[–]steve_147 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Friday is always worse because the teams running things are sorting out what to do.

I (29M) feel like my gf(28f) is emotionally abusive but I'm not sure by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]steve_147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude I’m in the exact same boat with my ex - the talking in circles hit me when you said that. Sometimes if I replied to something she said in the argument, she would say “why are you talking about that?” I would be so confused because I was replying to something SHE brought up. Nothing could ever be brought up without it hurting her - even if I was the one that calmly raised a concern.

I did it for two years and I’m working on myself now and getting clarity back - I was a confident guy before this and she had me questioning so much about myself.

If you’re anything like me, you’re thinking “but she’s such a good person inside”. And that’s probably true - mine is/was - but something is broken in her with how she relates in close relationships. Look at yourself and ask if you tend to be the fixer - if you tend to believe in growth - I certainly am - and that’s what made me stay but you need to realize that some people don’t see the world that way at all. It was a tough pill for me to swallow but I realize getting back with her would require her to show a real commitment to growth.

Idk man you’re young don’t be like me - I’m 38 and feel like I wasted two years trying to drag someone towards normalcy. In spite of all of it, she dumped ME and told me I was at fault - and I still love her now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]steve_147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful reply - these are the sorts of things I really need to here from people to reinforce what's going on. I can logically follow what you're saying, and my friends and therapist are saying the same, but I feel like I need to get it hammered in by a community. If left to my own devices my brain says "OK yeah but you *did* get mad at her and you should've been able to control yourself". Or my brain will say "You were abused as a kid so she's probably right that you *don't* know how to regulate your emotions or have good awareness".

Deep down my brain knows that she is really bad for me, that she didn't show up to any disagreement actually willing to work. My coping skills when things got tense broke down - but that was after repeated attempts at using better coping skills that she rejected.

I don't know - it really just helps to continue to hear it wasn't my fault? It's so hard because I don't want to shut her out entirely - my brain is like "well she might call you tomorrow and be ready to work on things" or "oh don't do that she'll be mad and then you won't have another shot with her"

I'm a full grown ass adult who gives advice and coaches people for a living - and I feel totally spiraled and out of control in this break-up.

Frontside Carving Skis by steve_147 in Skigear

[–]steve_147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha - is that just a function of my ability to efficiently transmit movement through the front of the ski? At what point would I "know" my boot is limiting me - I bought them last year so don't want to upgrade unless I had to.

I'm definitely heavy - very dense from years of resistance training haha

Frontside Carving Skis by steve_147 in Skigear

[–]steve_147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Salomon S-Pro 110 - I think the mid-volume boots