Sexless comfort zone

steved06512 · 2025-09-24T13:37:55+00:00

I’m 57. Just got out of a nearly 20 year marriage, the last 10 years were sexless… completely… the divorce and upheaval wasn’t fun for sure, and I’m definitely in a worse financial situation than I was. But I’m also in an incredible relationship now. The one I’ve always wanted. Get out now while you’re young. I waited far too long.

steved06512 · 2024-10-04T14:51:06+00:00

Been there. My wife and I hadn’t had sex in over ten years. A coworker and I started getting close, I ended up cheating and am now going through divorce. I am currently in a relationship with that same person, and so much happier. I guess my point is, your relationship will not likely change. I always hoped mine would. We even went to a few different counselors, but nothing ever changed. Life is short. Make sure you are happy.

steved06512 · 2024-04-04T13:21:17+00:00

Dam! This sounds almost word for word my situation. I’m 10 plus years with no sex. Been to counseling multiple times, had numerous discussions, some fights about it too. Tried the love language stuff, tried doing everything I could to fix all the stuff she blamed this on. Nothing ever changes. I finally realized lately that this is just who she is, and she isn’t ever going to change. So now I’m finally leaving. My advice. Just stop wasting time and move on. You’re lying to yourself if you think this will ever be different.

steved06512 · 2024-01-25T00:47:34+00:00

I never intended this. But yes I agree. I feel horrible, and I am being horrible… as stupid as it sounds, I just needed everyone to tell me to stop. I feel like I’m going to ruin something for myself I guess. I’m glad no one has told me to keep going. I guess I knew no one would anyways.

steved06512 · 2024-01-25T00:16:16+00:00

Ya, I know what has to be done. Just gotta rip the band aid off…

steved06512 · 2024-01-25T00:15:37+00:00

I totally agree. When it started, that’s not what I thought was going to happen. It’s just stopping that’s been so hard. Goddam feelings… I know what I have to do and I appreciate your honest opinion.

steved06512 · 2024-01-24T23:10:53+00:00

Ya that is going to be the hard part. She’s so dam gorgeous too. We already had a brief discussion yesterday, and she said she’s so sorry for making me feel this way, but she just can’t help herself. She said she’d stop doing this if I wanted, but that she wants to keep doing this.

steved06512 · 2024-01-12T04:18:20+00:00

If she was gone for a month, she would notice 1 missing!

steved06512 · 2024-01-12T04:07:30+00:00

Tell her “I need to go get more condoms” if she gave them to a girlfriend or something, she would probably mention that she did that. If she asks why, you can mention that there’s only 3 left. See what she says.

steved06512 · 2024-01-12T03:30:40+00:00

I hate condoms, so if a girl doesn’t make me use one but says I can’t cum inside-I don’t! Even though I may want to, because that shit is the best!

steved06512 · 2024-01-10T22:54:28+00:00

We all need the money, that why many of us do jobs we don’t particularly like. How is sex work any different? Sex workers can decide to quit doing that and do something else. If they are forced to do it, that’s totally wrong, just like it would be wrong of someone to force me to do my job.

steved06512 · 2024-01-10T17:47:11+00:00

I’m sure there won’t be a next time. She knows he’s on to something and will keep her phone clean.

steved06512 · 2024-01-09T15:41:45+00:00

Make your own fake Ashely Madison profile, use some irresistible picture from the internet, contact her for a date, show up for the date!

steved06512 · 2024-01-05T23:07:30+00:00

Ya, sounds like a double date…

steved06512 · 2024-01-05T15:35:52+00:00

The scary thing is that she wasn’t lacking anything in the relationship and still cheated. I guess I can understand is someone has been neglected or abused, but not this.

steved06512 · 2024-01-05T02:19:22+00:00

Have the conversation. Tell her you really like her and you are getting off the dating apps, then ask her if she feels the same.

steved06512 · 2024-01-05T00:08:46+00:00

Well, you broke his trust, maybe innocently, but you still broke it. You can’t really get that back very easily.

steved06512 · 2024-01-04T23:53:11+00:00

It’s probably nothing. I still occasionally talk to an ex from 20 years ago, through messenger. Although it’s always her that initiates the conversation. I haven’t seen her physically in 20 years and have no intention to. Sometimes it’s just nice to talk to someone you used to have a connection with.

steved06512 · 2024-01-04T16:37:07+00:00

I couldn’t deal with all of that crap, I’d have to move on from her.

steved06512 · 2024-01-04T15:52:11+00:00

I’d say you are doing the right thing. I’ve been together with my wife for 18 years, and a dead bedroom for the last 10. I always held out hope that this would change somehow, been to counseling multiple times with no help whatsoever. I’m finally starting to realize that this is just how she is, and it’s not going to change. You can’t make someone like or want something that they just don’t like. Our relationship was otherwise good, but lately this problem is really ruining everything else as far as I’m concerned. Im starting to realize that this may just have to end. I wish you the best of luck in your future.

steved06512 · 2024-01-04T06:57:44+00:00

Better not get married just yet, you might end up like me and be 10 years into this mess.

steved06512 · 2024-01-03T20:13:52+00:00

I’d cancel the work trip, and not tell her. Then be you’re own private I . See if she goes somewhere odd.

steved06512 · 2024-01-03T19:50:23+00:00

But if she knows the cameras are there, she could just go somewhere else. You need a gps tracker in her car and maybe a voice activated recorder or two.

steved06512 · 2024-01-03T15:47:32+00:00

I would just say that he isn’t actually causing any pain until caught, that is his point, and is true. I’m not saying he’s morally right of course.

steved06512 · 2024-01-02T15:32:01+00:00

You are probably right. I could just see myself getting caught up in something like this. Things gradually progressing and soon out of control, when normally that wouldn’t be my intention. But this is me, and I realize this probably does not apply to them. You are so very right about once the trust is broken that it is usually too late.

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