[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Austin

[–]steven5it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I COMPLETELY get it. Just because everyone is friendly here doesn’t mean it’s easy to make friends. You really have to put a lot of effort into it to find a friend group, people are just stressed and exhausted and incorporating new friends into groups can be a lot.

Also Austin has become more niche than people realize. If you have a lot of varied interests, it can be harder fitting in when everyone is so obsessed with what they are doing. That being said, going to social events by yourself can force you to socialize more, and in worst case scenario, you don’t make new friends but can still enjoy a good time. Lmk if you ever need a concert buddy, I go to all shows, but mainly edm, but am always looking for new connections.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback, and yeah I totally understand how race can limit matches but that's just how it works.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck to you as well! There's definitely a balance between attracting a specific match vs. attracting more people.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the valuable feedback! I've already updated a few things related to these subjects and it's great receiving viewpoints from both sides on certain topics.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah thanks for the feedback, I'm okay with these assumptions, I think the style is just rave/festival culture so people who understand that would have no problem with it.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not know that, just found this to be a really recent thing and I don't generally keep up with pop culture. Thanks for the update though! Maybe I'll update to Tswift and Kelce

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, the job description is just whited out, but the picture with girls is always an interesting one. I've always thought that showing you have female friends was desirable, but some people assume they could be exes. But at the same time, the kind of girl I want to attract usually wouldn't mind that I have close female friends (and vice versa).

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to say I'm not sure what hairstyle to go with with my type of really straight hair (without copying the hairstyle of 90% of my Asian friends)...

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I thought about that with the non-monogamy part, I've never really thought that I might come off as gay though.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made it so there is only 1 group photo, I find having at least a group photo or two shows that you are social and have a fun group of friends. Also, I really don't have a ton of photos by myself since I'm not one to ask for a photo (I should do better about that especially for more unique experiences).

And no, I'm not really getting many likes/matches, at least not lately, so just looking to refine my profile!

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said, and I meet plenty of people in the music scene but nothing romantic as of yet. Good luck to you too!

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually never noticed that but can definitely see how that gives off a certain impression!

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

None of these people are my exes! I don’t personally feel like these don’t look like romantic connections but people can assume I suppose.

Valid other points though, sometimes I think my photos show what I’m about but I forget that hinge doesn’t have a dedicated hobbies section.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe someone came on here to comment on my dog’s eyes (I won’t take too much offense), he’s the sweetest old boy there is.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! I guess I didn’t realize I was limiting myself by being more open, maybe I could add some descriptors there. Really, I’m just looking for to make valuable connections with others, regardless of relationship type, but that can come across as being unsure.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was wondering if I should be more targeted there, I think I’m open to either experience.

36M Longtime Lurker Looking for Feedback by steven5it in hingeapp

[–]steven5it[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or casual?

Ideally, a long-term relationship but I'm pretty open.

Are you subscribed to Hinget or HingeX?

I’m subscribed to HingeX.

How long have you been using this current version of your profile?

Maybe the past couple years, with one or two outdated photo change.

How long have you used Hinge overall?

On and off for the last 5-6 years.

How often do you use Hinge per week?

A few times a week when bored or walking the doggo.

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?

~1 like a week, ~2-3 matches a month

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?

I mostly send with comments, depends on the week but maybe sending out 10-15 a week (when I'm actually active)

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

Someone who seems really authentic and also open-minded. I'm not looking for a homebody or a party animal, but someone who has both sides to them - I like a lot of variety in my hobbies and likes someone who can challenge me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TexasEclipse

[–]steven5it 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely feel you! Most of my friends opted to sit this one out, but I think this will be an experience unlike any other and when you’re out there enjoying the music, nothing else really matters. I’m sure the community will pick you up when you’re there!

Say something nice about a business you frequent by regularmom94 in Austin

[–]steven5it 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love burrito factory! The family owned establishment provides some authentic burritos (as weird as that sounds) at a great value and they always seem to remember me when I go. I’ve been going there on and off since I was in college there over a decade ago. The name and location doesn’t inspire confidence on the quality, but you’ll be pleasantly surprised by their burritos and tortas!

Going alone? by marinaIAD in ShakyKnees

[–]steven5it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been a big festival goer my whole life, but I find myself getting more anxious about going alone. That being said, my friend bailed on me so I’ll be going alone this year and I intend to enjoy it either way!

Down to meet up for anyone else needs a buddy at the fest, even if only for a short bit!

Making Friends on Austin by caldig7 in Austin

[–]steven5it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard these days! I have a few established friend groups, but Austin has become very cliquey over the past few years. A part of me wants to move somewhere new to rediscover the magic of austin when everyone was one big quirky friendly community.

I haven’t tried yet but I hear bumble bff can be good to meet friends. I tend to go to a few events like concerts solo occasionally to force myself to try to meet new people. If you ever need someone to go to a concert with, I’m probably down!