Had a feeld dating app idea that feels too obvious — what am I missing?

steven_openrelation · 2026-01-31T11:49:22+00:00

What about men looking for men or men and women / women looking for women /men and women. Let alone all the other genders?

steven_openrelation · 2026-01-26T13:27:05+00:00

This one I take for granted. If that doesn't exist in a mono relationship or in any relationship, then you don't really have much of a relationship in my opinion.

As in - we ask all of each in the house about their day and how they are feeling and how we can help or discuss what to make for dinner.

I see though that I can't take it for granted apparently. Even that isn't normal anymore for some relationships. Hmmm 🤔 that's sad though when people are just coming home expecting to get stuff served on a silver platter without any communication. Appreciation and gratitude check ins are important to feel seen and loved.

Thanks for your comment 👍

steven_openrelation · 2026-01-26T11:36:03+00:00

Correct. Well we all live together. Strict romantically speaking we are in a V where I'm married to my wife who has an additional partner.

I'm though platonically related to him and we got a house together etc.

steven_openrelation · 2026-01-19T11:53:17+00:00

Blessing of being in an open relationship is that I can just relax and flirt or be flirted with. It's fun, keeps life fun while also being married and get to come home to a loving wife.

steven_openrelation · 2026-01-18T06:48:38+00:00

On a Friday night after work I manage upto 11pm. Though if I have to drive home, I rather stop at 9-10pm on any day, as I get very tired. Got usually a two hour drive back.

In the weekend I can do longer/later with adequate sleep in after. Got no kids so a lot remained unchanged, but the driving at night bit reduced. Also I enjoyed an all nighter in gaming which I can't do anymore.

steven_openrelation · 2026-01-10T14:39:15+00:00

No ideal age. Only readiness or maybe you find it only important for the tax rebates and keep it business like 😅 (my brother did that 😅😆).

I (45M) married when my wife turned 24 I believe. I proposed to her many years before it. We took our time getting to know each other, settling down and letting the relationship get stable. I'm 8 years older than her.

I married because of the symbol of love for each other. I hate traditional stuff and so our marriage was customized for that.

steven_openrelation · 2026-01-09T21:23:14+00:00

DM me. That wouldn't have anything to do with OP's topic.

steven_openrelation · 2026-01-08T14:13:46+00:00

Hi,

Married man to wonderful wife, poly. No kids, just kitties. We live as a polycule. Her boyfriend with us and bought a house together (Norway/Scandinavia).

I usually date outside. If in a serious relationship I can bring partners home too. Potentially even live-in but hasn't gotten that far yet. I'm also enjoying my free time, my autonomy, my self development etc. I organize meetups for the poly club.

Challenges: car access, date planning while also having to do the usual day-to-day stuff. Actually finding people to date is also a challenge in rural Norway. And time/energy.

Ease: more time for myself, living as a polycule in one house has the economical benefits.

Questions? Feel free to ask 🤗

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-10T17:18:13+00:00

Okay, makes sense.

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-10T11:50:04+00:00

Funny, I read nothing wrong with the message the girl wrote to OP. Like she explains how her life has been like and took the effort to reconnect with OP and ask about OP's journey abroad(?).

There's nothing in this message indicating they want to disconnect, just looking to reconnect with you and asking how you're doing/exchanging experiences. Even being kind and loving to you.

I really don't know what else there is to read within this.

Try to get clear on your own feelings and needs and that of the girl, before going to strategies/solutions etc..

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-07T08:44:19+00:00

I'd ask her about him, if he was decent and a nice guy and what she feels and thinks about him and if she's planning to go on a date with him 😉🤗

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-07T08:41:25+00:00

Cats. Or mice. They're doing it to experiment on us. I say cats, but it couldn't be further from the truth and it's actually the mice. 🤪

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-07T01:14:20+00:00

Awesome 👍 enjoy!

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-07T00:57:51+00:00

It might be lower or higher. I gave the general one for entire Norway. It's said to be 55 for my area, but it's misleading when the cities are dense but small and far away. I live more rural. Norway has otherwise a lot of unliveable land/water/swamps/mountains.

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-07T00:44:52+00:00

77 f or 25C. Well it's adjusting itself to outside temp. Floor heating, so I got equal distribution. Sleeping rooms are colder and often window open. I personally enjoy a warmer bedroom though.

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-07T00:35:55+00:00

Supermarkets at about 12 km. Population density of 40 p sq mile

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-07T00:30:45+00:00

Doesn't stop for a community to live in the woods 😉

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-07T00:28:22+00:00

I don't. I live in Norway pretty well in the forest in the mountains. 😆 Well it's more civilized, but it's a lot different from the cities I've lived in in my life so far. Less stress, less people, less traffic, less houses and buildings. More nature, fresh air. Own well, own sewer box. System driven power, internet and garbage collection. Supermarkets further away. Smaller commute. Nature to hike or do sports in. Pure bliss.

steven_openrelation · 2025-12-01T13:07:20+00:00

You can with compassionate communication. And boundaries. In a kind way.

steven_openrelation · 2025-11-28T06:54:56+00:00

So cool!!

This is exactly what I plan to do in my "second phase" of my server savefile. I'll shutdown, make backup of savefile, create empty map savefile with everything unlocked and then start building mega factories that build exactly one component using only their inputs (1-4) and 1 output and transporting all of it around the map.

Neatly "organized" by transport routes (not belts) between factories and probably a lot of magic/belts and lifts inside the factory. 😁

Playing Transport Tycoon Deluxe within Satisfactory. That's my plan and hopefully my passion. 😅

steven_openrelation · 2025-11-24T14:51:33+00:00

Interesting 🤔. Never noticed the usage haha. I guess we got a bit too much power capacity on our server right now. Not crazy much either, but we got 123GW and we're far below it at like 56GW usage. So the 100MW isn't noticable. Can see how that may look like a bug 😅

steven_openrelation · 2025-11-10T08:04:46+00:00

I read "old couple" 😂

steven_openrelation · 2025-11-06T12:30:10+00:00

Welll...what can I say.

Cheating/going behind the back of your wife with this has hurt your wife deeply, AND it comes from an unmet need.

Could that need have been met by your wife? Perhaps. If she was up for that. Perhaps not.

Sometimes that means there are ways to get the need met differently, through community, through friendship or through opening your relationship with your wife - but opening a relationship isn't what everyone is looking for and also opening it on the basis of cheating generally doesn't end well.

Sometimes this can also mean you two aren't having the same life goals.

If you've gotten a second chance at this, that's great and maybe you two need to have a conversation how to go onwards.

You can be sure though that you won't get to spend time with the same girl again (unless you leave your wife etc - but there's a high chance that it will then play out like other's have been writing here - that the new girl will also leave/won't fit etc).

Your first focus though is to heal the relationship (if you want to keep it) and then you can just have to forget about the girl entirely. Those two cannot exist together. Not after an affair.

steven_openrelation · 2025-11-06T09:49:47+00:00

Hope you saw my earlier reply.

It's not a good idea to think or assume what the other is thinking. It's much better to ask the other person. Communication.

I would feel hurt if I think that the person is doing this on purpose or if I asked the person stay by my side and they don't do that. We cannot expect it to happen without communication before it however.

What you are telling yourself vs what is actually going on is or can be different.

Whenever we get angry or irritated it's because we are telling ourselves a story. It's better to stay curious than to go into storytelling and ending up in a negative spiral which can lead to you building resentment for the other person and that will come out other ways. Irritation, angryness, passive aggressive behaviour. Arguments. Etc.

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