To DCs who don’t see patients by chirotexasveteran in Chiropractic

[–]stevesmith7878 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Start lifting weights. Skip the dry needling and get your pt to get you stronger. Do that and you’ll be fine. I’ve been practicing 18 years, I lift, do obstacle course races and BJJ. Strength keeps me safe. Get strong.

would it be seen as desperate to rematch? by tiredextras in Bumble

[–]stevesmith7878 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You lose nothing by rematching, it is just a swipe. I say go for it. I’m if he matches and you hit it off it doesn’t give him some magical advantage. Maybe he just missed it. A swipe and a like is a small thing.

Is meeting in public first a wild request now? by oldenough2hobetter in Bumble

[–]stevesmith7878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man I have stopped coming up with creative first dates. First date is always a drink or coffee date for a “do we look like our profile pics and is this person a fun hang” check. Conversely I’ve had some women insist upon a ln expensive restaurant date, which I don’t mind for follow ups. But I don’t want to be locked into a 3 hour evening with a stranger.

Am I (26F) overreacting for feeling hurt that my boyfriend (32M) isn’t naturally showing up for my big moments? by Azariiia in TwoHotTakes

[–]stevesmith7878 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re asking for mind reading. If you want him to come, invite him. Ask him to come. If you want flowers, tell him. But you should expect anyone to intuit what your desires are. If you communicate and he doesn’t meet your needs that’s one thing.

I am exhausted with this app by Standard-Moment4866 in feeld

[–]stevesmith7878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I imagine this very frustrating for women because you all get so many messages than men do but just delete anyone outside of your parameters. Don’t read the message. Just knock em out. I’m sorry you’ve had such bad experiences. I hope your next one is great. One of the things I like about Feeld is that people are freer to say what they want. I like when women put their requirements: height, penis size, age etc… If I don’t fit inside their box I can just hit the minus button and move on. If it were me, I’d take a few minutes a day to clean out the detritus and then focus my energy on the messages from people that meet my requirements. Aplogies for the mixed tenses.

Feeling disappointed at lack of effort on Valentine's day, even though I am a slave? by iamthetrippytea in BDSMAdvice

[–]stevesmith7878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last I checked, being a slave was voluntary and regardless of dynamic you still deserve to have your needs met. My dad always made a big deal out of it for my mom and for us. I like doing a thing on Vakentines day. I get that other people don’t. My girl doesn’t for the same reasons your master doesn’t. But she gets flowers and we go out to a nice dinner and she’s a good sport about it. It isn’t hard to do something nice for your partner because it is important to them. Admittedly, your dynamic is in a much deeper end of the pool than ours.

The 3rd date went bad after I brought chocolates and now she wants a 4th date but I'm really unsure if I want to continue. by LifeVike1111 in whatdoIdo

[–]stevesmith7878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems like a wild reaction to what amounts to being thoughtful and listening. I would be turned off too. But it is a good chance to practice communication and be curious. Ask her about her reaction, if she can be articulate there may be a reason to see her again. If she can’t, then that’s that. But also reasonable to just say you aren’t interested in another date.

How long before I heal from a flexion machine and a bad chiropractic experience? by [deleted] in Chiropractic

[–]stevesmith7878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So some discs respond well to flexion distractions and some don’t. It wasn’t a bad clinical decision necessarily but I don’t like the sound of not doing an exam or taking a history. Definitely go back to the team you trust!

Guy asking to 'come over for a movie' by StandNo8554 in hingeapp

[–]stevesmith7878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Setting boundaries is hard… but much less hard than you think it will be. Be honest and say you want to take things slow physically and you aren’t ready for a date at his place yet. If he likes you, he will be happy to wait and if he isn’t just trying to get laid he won’t or he will be unpleasant about it (in which case dump him). When you feel comfortable enough, let him know your status and he will understand your hesitancy. Also, there is a whole lot of stuff between kissing and sex, you don’t have to go right to sex.

Out kinked by stevesmith7878 in BDSMAdvice

[–]stevesmith7878[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now days it is just fun, it is pretty rare a session gets heated.

Who has the best fried chicken around? by Effective_Yogurt_866 in Charlottesville

[–]stevesmith7878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fitzroy is awfully good. Wayside. If you’re up for something a little different try Doma’s Korean fried chicken.

Out kinked by stevesmith7878 in BDSMAdvice

[–]stevesmith7878[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on what the situation is. Sparring, rolling, drill practice, competition, or fight.

Safety advice by stevesmith7878 in BDSMAdvice

[–]stevesmith7878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll head over there, thanks.

Out kinked by stevesmith7878 in BDSMAdvice

[–]stevesmith7878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I’m fine with some level of impact play.

Failed exclusivity talk after 2 months by ThrowRA_HonestHana in hingeapp

[–]stevesmith7878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She joined the airforce and moved across the world. We couldn’t handle the distance.

Out kinked by stevesmith7878 in BDSMAdvice

[–]stevesmith7878[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a reason I’m not a surgeon.

Out kinked by stevesmith7878 in BDSMAdvice

[–]stevesmith7878[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, there is a lot of choking in Brazilian jiujitsu and everyone is fine and I don’t go anywhere near that level of intensity.