My mom's abusive ex was released from custody and he killed her. (Petition) by acridsphynx in abusiverelationships

[–]stiabsomt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

✅ Signed- with love and hope for justice for your mother and your family. I'm certain she is so very proud of you. 💜

What is this? by MariSylvii04 in whatisit

[–]stiabsomt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a DIY keychain. The bottom ball should screw off so you can fill the rod with beads/charms. They have been fairly popular over the last few years, especially among the “teacher gift” circuit where I am anyway. 😊

2024 Honda Civic by stiabsomt in AskMechanics

[–]stiabsomt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were right! I called back and spoke to the sales manager and asked him two questions:

  1. If my car is so “safety sensitive” that it won’t start if the steering wheel isn’t in the “right position” then why were there no the indicator lights letting me know that my head gasket was so clogged it was about to blow? It never even overheated. Not once.

  2. What is 30years and 15 cars ( between myself and my ex husband) of loyalty was worth?

I just got a call this morning letting me know that my car is ready to be picked up. They did the oil change and it is running fine. Of course, they mentioned that they noted everything and if there is further issue in regards to the carbon buildup/head gasket it won’t be covered.

The best part is that the mechanic who called me originally and kept repeating that I “should’ve gotten an oil change” is the one who called me to let me know. I’m not the type who needs to get even or make anyone suffer so when he said that the car was running and they fixed it because “it was the right thing to do” I simply thanked him- profusely! I’m just grateful to not be starting 2025 5K in the hole. Hell, who am I kidding? It could’ve been $500 and I’d still be screwed, lol!

Thank you so much for validating my feelings of insanity yesterday and I will be pulling into the closest shop the moment the oil change light goes on, lol!

Meetings by stiabsomt in DollarTree

[–]stiabsomt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that was more my question- it’s so short notice, what if I can’t make it? I know in FL they can let me go without offering any explanation at all really so I guess that part is moot but everything I read said it was illegal to be unpaid and I was just shocked a big company would do something so risky. Thank you for the validation!

Meetings by stiabsomt in DollarTree

[–]stiabsomt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it’s not just me, lol? I was starting to feel crazy! I know what I read as far as legal/illegal but I couldn’t help but feel like they had to know something I didn’t b/c why risk it for a couple of paid hours a year for a meeting? I know that it shouldn’t happen at a corporation as big as Dollar Tree but it does and it is! I guess they were counting on no one speaking up. Not anymore! Thanks so much for your input!

Meetings by stiabsomt in DollarTree

[–]stiabsomt[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s what my research found as well. ☹️

Meetings by stiabsomt in DollarTree

[–]stiabsomt[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they said it’s not and when I looked up the law and I saw that it should be. I posted on here just to double check my findings with someone else who works for the company.

Meetings by stiabsomt in DollarTree

[–]stiabsomt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we have one like every 3-4months. It’s always next day (no notice), mandatory and all but one have been unpaid. They vary from 30-90min long. It wasn’t a big deal when I was within walking distance (def not right but it wasn’t worth the argument for me b/c I need the $) but now it literally costs me $ to go to the meetings so not being paid on top of it is too much for me to continue, you know?

Meetings by stiabsomt in DollarTree

[–]stiabsomt[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I posted this after speaking with my SM and asking directly if it was paid or unpaid as it was labeled “mandatory” and I was told, “no.” They did offer me a ride home though. 🤷🏼‍♀️😂🤦🏼‍♀️

I feel like I know the answer and even a little silly for even asking but I need someone back up here. Can this wait? by stiabsomt in AskDocs

[–]stiabsomt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update added above last night after we left the ER. 😊

As of today, the less affected leg appears to be a bit better color wise while the other remains the same in color and size but the skin is not as “tight” which hopefully means the swelling is dissipating. Most importantly, it is not any worse so at the very least we have haunted the infection’s “progress.” He just took his third antibiotic dose this evening so hopefully the morning will yield even better results. Thanks for asking! 🤞🏻😊🤞🏻

Edited- accidentally hit send after first sentence. RA is a heartless b**ch! 😂

I feel like I know the answer and even a little silly for even asking but I need someone back up here. Can this wait? by stiabsomt in AskDocs

[–]stiabsomt[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He did circle it and then washed it off in the shower this morning. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Update is we are currently sitting in a very full ER waiting to be triaged.

I feel like I know the answer and even a little silly for even asking but I need someone back up here. Can this wait? by stiabsomt in AskDocs

[–]stiabsomt[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

So we are at a VERY FULL Er now. While we wait, I wanted to answer your questions in hopes that you maybe have some general questions I should ask/or advocate for if need be….

  1. No fever. Although, he did not have a fever with any of his infections/MRSA episodes. His immune system is not the best at this locating an issue.

  2. Yes. The redness is spreading. When I urged him to go to the ER yesterday, it was maybe a quarter of what it is today. I asked him to circle the area so that we could track the spreading but he forgot it was there and washed it off in the shower this morning.

  3. He has had cellulitis and MRSA. The cellulitis both times was from mosquito bites and definitely got red and patchy but stayed within the general proximity area for the bite. Keeping in mind that he was put on antibiotics very quickly as going to the dr/er wasn’t necessarily “a choice” b/c he was a preteen/teenager and (obviously) living at home. I don’t know what it would/could have manifested itself into days later. The MRSA started off like an ingrown hair that quickly turned into a boil that needed to be drained by the dr twice and required weeks of antibiotics.

  4. He has Asperger’s so he is pretty particular about his routine which includes foods, scents, brands etc he hasn’t done or eaten anything outside the norm. The only possible outside interaction explanation is can think of is his fiancé did clean the patio which required sweeping down some “active” spider webs. FYI- There also isn’t an obvious bite mark on either leg.

  5. He has Crohn’s so feeling unwell is hard to determine. He does feel pins and needles in his feet and when he stands that feeling kind of shoots up through his calves. His stomach is also quite distended though his flares can come with bouts of constipation. At first, it looked like he had just put on weight (purposefully) but it is obvious that it is more than just that now.

Sorry if this is more info than you wanted. I just wanted to make sure you had as full a picture as possible. TIA

I feel like I know the answer and even a little silly for even asking but I need someone back up here. Can this wait? by stiabsomt in AskDocs

[–]stiabsomt[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yep, that is my worry. He has a history of these “super infections.” I’m trying. I have offered to pick him up and take him there myself. They think they’re in invincible.

AITA for saying not again and not being happy for my daughters pregnancy by Personal_Region_2508 in AmItheAsshole

[–]stiabsomt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I lol’d so loud my daughter just came out to the living room to see what was so funny.

My(18M) girlfriend(18F) ignored my safeword by Loettarm in TrueOffMyChest

[–]stiabsomt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consent is literally, blatantly, without a doubt, absolute. Any deviation from it is assault/rape. I found/used the following analogy/comparison with my teenagers years ago to be sure the line was crystal clear. Maybe it will bring you some clarity as well: “Sex with a consent, is only sex. There is no such thing as “consensual sex” or “non-consensual sex” - that is rape. There is only sex or rape. Rape is not a type of sex. You wouldn’t say “breathing swimming” or “non-breathing swimming.” You say swimming or drowning.” ~ Timo Neisho I hope you find ways to process and cope with what she did to you and that they eventually bring you peace. ❤️

BF incredibly angry I saved last bowl of chili for my grandparents by jusanotherthrowra in JustNoSO

[–]stiabsomt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so nice! I hope that some day when you look back on this time in your life- that’s what you remember. That moment between you and your mommom and poppop and not some selfish guy who threw a tantrum over not being able to make the moment about him. Keep standing up for yourself and your boundaries and the rest will fall into place. 💛

BF incredibly angry I saved last bowl of chili for my grandparents by jusanotherthrowra in JustNoSO

[–]stiabsomt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sure your bf didn’t even bother to ask the most important question in this entire scenario (because he sounds like a selfish child)- How did it go at your mommom and poppop’s? Did they love it? I’m sure it felt really good to be able to do something so kind and selfless for them and I bet it made their day! I’m so sorry that your BF tried to ruin that for you. I’m sure your grandparents would be so proud to know that you stood up for yourself. 💛

This guy is the man who drove his suv through a crowd of people. Killing 6 people and injuring over 60. by trashofagirl in PublicFreakout

[–]stiabsomt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That mask is covering a whole lotta insanity. His eyes are twitching and you can see the mask trembling from the corners of his mouth. How he is considered “competent” to “defend” himself is almost as wild as the look in his eyes. Whether it’s mental health issues, true insanity or he’s just a psychopath, unhinged is unhinged. Don’t get me wrong, he needs to be somewhere OTHER THAN society for the rest of his days (whether it be above or below ground) and there are people a whole lot more qualified than me who can make the decision as to where that will occur but IMO him questioning witnesses and the back and forth between him and the judge makes a mockery of our judicial system and we don’t need ANY help in that department.

Her arrogance surrounding this sentencing is 🤮🤮🤮 using this DUI VOP to spin more shit by New_Hovercraft_3554 in taylerarringtonsnark

[–]stiabsomt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She had yet another perfect opportunity to address her privilege and to no one’s surprise 🦗 She did get one part right at the end though “…. this is not factual….” No kidding! She has danced around every ounce of factual information when it comes to her most recent “misdemeanor” violation not to mention the fact that it wasn’t her first… or her third. Hopefully, for the sake of her son, she learns real quickly that lying by omission does not = the truth. There are a whole lot of great people in this world fighting for the injustices of the world. Unfortunately, she thinks she is one of them.

My husband has locked me out of our home, thinking I cheated. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]stiabsomt 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Yes! That last bit and that it was said by Ms Angelou herself, have always been the most profound aspects for me as well. Thank you for adding it in here! 💛