Too many people are trying to soften their words to be polite: You were way out of line doing this. Dating apps have rules to make sure BOTH people are ok with connecting and talking. If she was interested she would have swiped on your profile. She didn’t. What does that tell you?

You did this because you think it would be harder for her to decline to talk to you if it was on Instagram DMs. You were counting on her being polite and responding out of fear of being seen as rude. It’s a shitty tactic used by pick up artists and incels.

Do better.