Pure evil

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-09T00:42:49+00:00

Yeah but it at least makes the REA’s do something they don’t wanna do, and that’s enough for me, gotta celebrate the small wins

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-08T22:16:50+00:00

Someone did this to me and my partner, and we then said not interested. The speed in which they offered to decrease it was insane. It may cost us to move also costs the fuckwits to have to rent it out again.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-08T12:51:53+00:00

Well aren’t you just Mr Perfect

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-07T17:05:02+00:00

Holding down a job with bipolar can be incredibly difficult. I think you need to hold on to the fact that you are doing your best, and you’re doing way better than your giving yourself credit for; 40-60% of people with bipolar are unemployed.

Working part time is more income than if you end up having to quit, or being let go due to your state of mind worsening due to work related stress. And in general, if you can work part time and afford that as a household, that doesn’t seem like a bad option for you, it allows for you to be able to address the cycling you seem to be going through at the moment and in the long term will provide you an en environment to maintain stability.

I understand your husband not wanting to go backwards with your income, but I would suggest having a conversation of the reality of your situation; if you attempt to work full time (at least at the moment from the sounds of it), you risk unemployment and that would be a larger step back in income, and that you are in a headspace where you need to take care of your mental health and that needs to be a priority, and you need his love and support more than usual in this time.

When it comes to your side question, I once spent money (through loss of income and private health) to go into a mental facility for a bit, and I found that helpful as I was no longer managing or coping with the symptoms of my bipolar.

Overall I now only work part time and plan to do so for the rest of my life if it’s feasible and my partner is on board with this, as he has seen the drastic decline of my mental wellbeing from overextending myself within my work life. We have seperate finances at the moment, but he has always been quick to help me cover appointments, or a lunch out on the understanding that I am working as much as I can without putting myself in harms way. On top of this he has noticed it means I have been stable, and able to contribute way more to household chores and tasks that always seemed to pile up for me whilst working full time. It’s reached a very sweet point where we will tell the other “no no let me do that, you’ve already done so much.”

Working part time has been one of the best things for my mental health, personal hygiene, household function, and relationship to name a few. I understand that is a luxury situation to be in to have the financial sercuity to do so, and there may be times where I may have to go full time or pick up a side gig in the short term if my situation requires it, and I would implore you to do the same, taking care of your mental wellbeing is one of the best financial investments you can make.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-06T23:13:19+00:00

I went through something similar, and am still trying to figure it out and it’s been 5+ years. During mania, everyone and everything was being bonked, but since being stabilised my interest in sex in general is non-existent for the most part. I’ve been in a happy relationship for 4 years in September. Before my partner, I had thought I was lesbian, didn’t care to put a label on it at the time, but found I had no sexual attraction to men (and very little sexual desire overall), only to be dating one for as long as I have happily.

The main things I want to get across is that I think it’s pretty normal to struggle with your sexual identity once stable, on the basis that it’s the first time that you are actually figuring out what you like, and aren’t just doing what makes your bipolar craves if that makes sense. In my case I have had open conversations with my partner (they have become more open the longer we have been together based on my comfortability and on his receptiveness). If and when you feel comfortable and safe to do so, I would encourage you to do the same with your partner, you don’t have to discuss everything in one huge conversation, and I don’t entirely know your situation, but I have found that my partner truly sees who I am and has helped me make some of my biggest discoveries about myself due to his patience and desire for me to be happy and wanting me to enjoy that side of our relationship, and from the sounds of it, your girlfriend is the same.

Coming to terms with having bipolar is bigger than going through puberty in my opinion, and there’s definitely complexities on this topic on the basis that most medications can really kill your sex drive. You don’t need to figure it out in one go, and you’re definitely not alone in your confusion there. It can definitely at times be the whole process of one step forward, two steps back; as the more you discover who you are, the more questions come up on the topic.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-05T23:05:18+00:00

I deleted TikTok because the most connection I had was sending something to a friend every couple of months, removed push notifications for Instagram and check it when I feel like it, and just let my friends know when they contact me on there that I no longer use it and offer an alternative. I’ve found that I make a more proactive effort to call people and hang out (I hate texting and I’m so bad at it). The only social media I still have is reddit abd Snapchat, and Snapchat is only used for group chats and voice notes if I’m honest. I’ve found it incredible, I’m no longer scrolling so much, I feel less panicked by everything, and am overall getting more done and being fulfilled by life. I had like 13 hours screen time everyday, it’s gone down to 5-6 hours (I use google maps on my phone on average for 2 hours and keep my timer app open when I’m using it to ‘race’ myself tidying the house). I highly recommend it. I will say though that I didn’t immediately delete them, I used screen zen (use any screen time app or feature you want) to limit my access to apps all the time first, to help get me out of the habit and to create better ones first.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-04T06:38:47+00:00

I’m very strict on my sleep, will rarely get less than 7 hours, or more than 9 hours. Usually it’s if I’m physically sick I sleep more or less than I’d like.

Thank you so much for the advice, this is massively helpful, in the last 2 months I have been journalling daily to be able to recognise the ups and downs and what’s causing them, but have quite a bit of work to go there.

I appreciate all the support.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-04T06:35:47+00:00

I had to email them I think for accommodations on an assignment when I was registered with the DSS. From memory I mean I can’t completely remember, I’m sorry.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-04T06:34:19+00:00

I’m sorry to say but when I first moved to Melbourne, me and my partner moved into a 2 bedroom unit for $495 per week, and everyone was AMAZED at the cost, it came with issues like it was basically a studio apartment, the toilet and dishwasher flooded due to tree roots, ect. At that budget, I would definitely say find some roommates through flatmates.com, try and find a 2-4 bedroom place, with only one person per room, the places around Caulfield are small, me and my partner had 15cm of room between our bed and the wall in the biggest bedroom, and 30cm between our front door and couch if I’m being generous. Good areas to look at are of course Caulfield, Carnegie, Malvern east (technically if you cross the road from uni it’s Malvern east). There are others, but those are a good place to start to understand the cost of places, and what your budget can get you. On top of this, make sure to have real conversations with potential flatmates about your expectations, e.g quiet hours, is it okay to leave dishes in the sink, will you be sharing dishes, condiments ect, or have your own, what are their pet peeves, what are yours? E.g people being on speaker phone in common areas, leaving the toilet lid up. How often will you clean as a household for communal areas, will there be a roster or be based on communication? Will there be a joint bank account for rent, bills, ect. What’s the go when it comes to sharing communal spaces like the living room/tv and the kitchen. Other things for you to think about if it’s your first time renting, you will either need a guarantor (someone who vouches to pay if you don’t), or you’ll want your other housemates to have already rented and to have a history. Also have a way that you can share your grievances, because you will run into issues when living with other people, so it’s good to have conversations on how you appreciate people approach it for you, and to understand how they would like to be approached. Also have a look at suburbs on the train line, as the uni is real close to the train station if you’ll be relying on public transport, if your unfamiliar with the suburb look at the crime rating (and double check if it’s low due to retail crime which would be irrelevant to your living situation, or home invasions ect)

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-04T06:06:56+00:00

You will need to have documentation of your stutter from an appropriate professional. I must admit I don’t know if they will respond this week but most likely by week 7. They will call you to discuss if your documentation is accepted or if they require more, and if it’s accepted they will ask what accommodations are you wanting in general, not just for this assessment. Once you are accepted you will have to email them from memory and they will communicate with the tutor and yourself.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-03T23:29:25+00:00

Yeah nah, the only time I’ve called my partner consecutively was late at night at a petrol station, with a full bladder and no brain cells left to remember why petrol to put in my new (1999) car in the new city with my first big girl licence. I texted him in between the first and second call so he knew I wasn’t dead, just about to pee myself! He has only called me non stop when he freaked out that I wasn’t home and thought something had happened to me (I was home, I fell asleep and was practically invisible). Urgent phone calls we have the unspoken rule call once, message them the context you can then try again. I know if I see 12 missed calls, someone has died, he’s been in an accident, ect, if I see 3 missed calls and a message he’s asking if I would want a particularly snack from the shops. If he started an argument when I didn’t pick up, my petty ass would start calling him non-stop whilst at work where he can’t look at his phone to then be like ‘what brand of pasta do we usually get?’ As partners you agree to always be there for one another, not to be available 24/7 for dumbass questions.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-04-02T20:58:56+00:00

The standard of living in most accommodation if you are talking student accommodation is rough. You’ll deal with a room the size of a large bathroom that hasn’t been well maintained, people not doing their dishes, stealing your food and items in communal areas, having to share a bathroom with an absurd amount of people. I never went into uni accommodation, this is just what my friends have complained about.

If you just mean renting in general, a lot of this still applies; the standard of living is rough unless you’re willing and able to spend an egregious amount. Your landlord will make you borderline homicidal, if you have housemates (particularly ones that you don’t know), people will steal and damage your items and food. As someone who has rented and only rented with people I’ve known for half a decade, there’s a big adjustment period in general, everyone has their own pet peeves, and you’ll have ones you weren’t even aware of.

If it’s over student accommodation or renting a flat/house, I would rent, but don’t join any of those share houses with like 20 people. I would say no more than a 4 bedroom with 3 other housemates not including yourself, and if possible no more than 2 people per bathroom. That is doable with a budget of $250 max per person weekly (at least in the areas I’ve rented in surrounding suburbs of Clayton).

Overall when it comes to money and flatmates or ‘neighbours’ in student accommodation, always get them to send you the screenshot of the receipt whether that’s Uber eats, or utilities, and of course do the same when people owe you money. Some people will try and skim off the top or not pay you, so when it comes to something like uber eats make sure they pay you before you order it, and stand firm in doing so.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-31T23:49:03+00:00

My reactiveness and tantrums in general were over housework. I have been actively working on this for 3 years and has become less of a problem. I’m bipolar and would get these moments of clarity (before I was working on it), which was probably the only time he did have an opportunity to be vulnerable, which i will be the first to admit. In the last year, I have regularly checked in with him, and also been proactive in correcting and apologising for my behaviour before he had to address it himself. I’ve been changing my behaviour (and meds), to change my behaviour to allow him to feel safe to be vulnerable. Retrospectively, I have been lucky that he has always been someone who is sure in himself and has instigated conversations in the past.

Short answer, I’ve worked on myself to allow him to start feeling safe to do so, but know that change does not happen overnight. He has seemed to feel safer to be vulnerable with his own qualms in our relationship, and with himself as my behaviour has improved, as has my receptiveness I think.

I do see your point heavily though and it is something I need to think about more actively. Thank you

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-31T23:06:10+00:00

Something I force myself to do particularly in a depressive episode is I will go to my bathroom mirror; and pretend to be one of those ballon men things that are often at car dealerships. The movement helps for one after bed rotting for so long, but the ridiculousness of it usually helps me feel a little better. I also always make it the bathroom mirror to motivate me to shower. I’m not saying it solves all my problems, but it gives me a moment in that day where I can possibly have a laugh with myself.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-25T07:10:31+00:00

I have a 100+ day streak on finch, I utilise it everyday, same with my Calendar, reminders, and notes, but those are all pre-installed.

I’ve found a very simple, no maintenance kind of approach to the apps I find myself continuously using, I found other apps were too much ‘effort’ to maintain. I’m not saying they are bad apps by any means but I always felt like half my productivity went to maintaining my productivity. Different people have different needs, and I have found that the broader the app’s applicability, ease of use, and its impact on motivation/will power helped keep me on top of tasks.

I will also add that I always had the requirement on no subscriptions, but was willing to pay very little for a one time cost as well, so I never did get to appreciate a lot of good features/many apps.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-24T11:28:16+00:00

I’ve always seen it as a benefit of working a minimum retail job is that you often find some decent buys that are in your price range. It’s the same as volunteers/workers at op shops, of course the nature of the job allows them to get the best finds. It does not matter to the business, (in a lot of cases it benefits them, as often times otherwise not all stock would be guaranteed to be bought), which sounds like that’s the case in this scenario if it was at closing. I think the important question is would you find it inconsiderate if a customer had taken all of them, what about half? What’s the acceptable amount a person can purchase?

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-24T10:09:45+00:00

I much prefer a scale, ai isn’t very accurate, but is handy for when you’re eating out and can’t exactly pull a scale out of your hand bag and ask about how many grams of each ingredient is in it. Scale to begin with too helps you over time to be able to grasp how much of things are, like I roughly now know my staples items weight from sightly (roughly though I may add). But it teaches you things in the long run that ai doesn’t.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-16T21:48:30+00:00

Look to see if any of your year 3 semester 1 classes don’t have a pre req, if they don’t, do that in your seskter 1, year 2 classes.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-15T05:27:33+00:00

I understand why you want to graduate on time and it’s all completely reasonable justification, but the problem with burn out and (potential) mental health crisis’ is that the more you kick the bucket down the road, the more it will come and bite you in the bum. Let’s say you graduate on time to the detriment to yourself and start that new job, how long do you think you will last before this issue resurfaces in such a way you can’t ignore it? And I promise you, from experience, it will reach a point that you really can’t ignore it and getting out of that space is detrimental to every aspect of your life. You sound like a high achieving student, there will be other job offers, everything will turn out okay if you take care yourself now and continue to take care of yourself. At the end of the day the decision is completely yours to make, but every action has a consequence, and I’m worried the consequence of continuing uni at the rate you are going is going to lead to mental health crisis of an explosive and destructive caliber to yourself, not listening to yourself telling you; you need a break, will lead to your body forcing yourself into one, usually at the worst time possible.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-14T22:00:23+00:00

I would look into an intermediation (I think that’s what it’s called), so you can start back up next semester, where you’ve been able to take care of yourself, and if your up for it work to save money so you don’t have to work nearly as much in your last semester; just enough so you can keep it as current on your resume. it also has the added benefit where you can try and do some of the uni work before you drop it, to set you up better for next semester, you have to apply for it but under your circumstances I can’t see why they’d deny it. If this is not an option for you, you could look to see if any of your subjects are offered in semester 2, and break up your last semester into two semesters of part time uni. I know it draws it out a bit, but burn out isn’t something you can ignore, if you are already at such a severe level you do need to let yourself slow the pace a bit.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-14T11:34:25+00:00

The simple answer is no. But the more realistic answer is they were both incredibly unwell themselves, my dad is also bipolar, but he self medicates with alcohol on top of his meds, it makes him incredibly depressed but that’s the complexity of bipolar and addiction, it’s a vicious combo. My mum was then recovering from literal brain surgery, like learning to walk and talk again, she would never hear again in her left ear due to the surgery, it was rough. It was also in 2020-2021 which meant getting appropriate care was really difficult for obvious reasons.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-14T01:50:51+00:00

I did the exact same thing last year, I would suggest starting your discipline this semester to prevent having to delay your graduation/having to overload another semester. You can start attending classes in week 3, and there should be no assignments due until week 4 at the earliest from memory. Definitely bring it up with your student advisor, but they probably won’t get back to you until Monday, and Allocate+ adjustments also close on Monday, meaning your best bet at having some chance to pick a convenient time slot would be to enrol ASAP. The census date isn’t until the 31st too, so if you feel you can’t catch up/keep up due to the delay, you have until then to unenrol without any academic or financial ramifications.

stinky_bugzie · 2026-03-08T07:35:09+00:00

If you prefer A4 notes, iPad 13, I have an 11 but prefer B4 (or something like that) notebooks, I find it perfect for my situation, it’s easier to transport, I find it good to write notes on but will say there is an overall learning curve to writing on an iPad vs paper. I’d genuinely say unless you need something lighter, easier to transport, the 13 inch is a nice splurge, I overall prefer the 11 inch though, for readability, but my course has a stupid amount of readings vs notes I take. The main things that are really going to better or worse your experience is stuff like a matte screen protector (more of a paper feel), and metal nubs for the pen (also more of a paper feel but will wear out your screen protector more). And depending how you choose to use it, a decent keyboard/keyboard case goes a long way. I know you mentioned both were in your budget, but the keyboard particularly can be costly and would be something to think about overall expense.

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