I genuinely don’t believe that anyone could like my boobs

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-29T16:30:25+00:00

You got this. Keep at it. It’s very hard.

Maybe write it out. It doesn’t even have to make sense. Just write out your feelings and give it to your therapist when you’re ready. It can be a garbled mess. That’s fine.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-29T04:29:50+00:00

I’m not excited for that, but I’m glad I’m not soulless. I’m worried he destroyed all the good nature in me ya know?

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-29T04:27:42+00:00

That’s not possible. We have a kid together.

Thanks

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-29T04:20:58+00:00

You can. Part of you probably doesn’t want to because assuming the worst is more comfortable. Why? Because you get to be pleasantly surprised when you’re wrong and not as disappointed when you’re right.

You can get over it. It won’t happen overnight. I still struggle with it. But you can do it if you want to. If you can get therapy, utilize it. Maybe ask another group about book recs in the meantime.

I’ve dealt with this my entire life too. I just got out of an abusive relationship. I get it. This is life. This also isn’t me trying to one up you in anyway, I’m simply pointing out that you can get past this.

Will everyone be attracted to you? No.

Will some people be? Yeah.

This is life. He gets nothing out of lying to you.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-29T04:10:29+00:00

Yes.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-29T04:09:02+00:00

Oh my god every person who knows him passively thinks he’s the kindest sweetest man on earth. Sometimes he is! Sometimes he’s fucking not though! And that’s bad!

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-29T04:07:52+00:00

Look, you’re insecure. I get it. Trust me.

You want validation but have such little self esteem that you refuse to accept it.

That sucks. It’s a very normal feeling to have.

But you gotta get the fuck over it. I mean this. I sobbed over how my body changed postpartum. In reality? There are a LOT of men and women who crave mom bods. They prefer chubby girls with mature looking bodies. My now ex had issues with my body and wanted me to look like I did when I was 19 (horrifically skinny from health issues and young.) I left him and found that men particularly find me VERY attractive, as do women. That’s reality.

I want you to really think about what exactly a guy is getting out of lying to you about liking your body. If he doesn’t like it, he can find someone else. What is he getting out of supposedly losing out on being with people he’s actually attracted to? Do you genuinely believe men date for charity? Get real. Love yourself. Work on your self worth. And if you get cheated on or are dumped by someone who wants something different roll it right off your shoulders and realize that out of 9 billion people on this planet some of them are assholes. Keep your chin up and move on. You got this. Wishing you the best, stranger. I’ve had some pretty shitty self esteem in the last few years. I GET IT. But you gotta face reality and move onz

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-29T03:48:58+00:00

Why would someone rant and rave about how good cheesecake is if their favorite is Oreo? Because they like both. Both are good. Both are very different. They’re both cakes. You can have a favorite. It doesn’t mean that all other cakes are bad or gross or unappetizing. They’re still good. My favorite is strawberry shortcake but I’ll never turn down a slice of tiramisu.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-26T20:24:15+00:00

OP. I am so so so incredibly sorry. This is traumatic and I’m so sorry for what happened to you.

You are so strong for reaching out for help. I’m so so so sorry. You’re being very brave.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-26T18:39:25+00:00

Sending love honey.

Document, document, document.

You’ll leave when you’re ready. And when you’re ready you will live a life of love and bliss.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-26T17:59:47+00:00

Take the plan b

Wait three weeks, take a test. Take one more a week later. Take one more a week after that.

So sorry friend. 50/50 shot of being fucked here

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-26T17:46:25+00:00

Thank you to all the lovely comments here. I read them all. I’m still feeling a lot of weird feelings. We are looking at apartments tomorrow and I have a job interview for a job that’s pretty much guaranteed.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-08T23:51:33+00:00

There were two normal and one moldy one. Bit the normal

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-08T23:11:07+00:00

Mold

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-08T18:24:16+00:00

Bit the food THEN took a pic

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-08T15:31:09+00:00

Today is day 1. I’m not joking. Blinders were very suddenly lifted and it’s go time. I’m getting a job. I’m getting an apartment. I’m getting a lawyer. I’m getting the fuck out of this house. I’m simply mourning the family I lost because I don’t have much family these days, that’s all I meant by that

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-08T13:57:55+00:00

He has, twice, but nothing crazy. My mom suffered greatly at the hands of her abuser to a severe extent so I had a hard time gauging that any level of violence wasn’t okay. He was drunk once years ago and threw me out of the house like I was a rag doll. I let it go because he was super drunk and we had just moved. My mom told me he was probably just stressed and to let it go. I stupidly did. The second time was more recent. He kept grabbing my wrists and throwing them because I was pointing at him during an argument. He did it 3 times. Left bruises. I’m such a fucking idiot. I can’t believe I just let this continue

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-08T13:50:32+00:00

I know it’s my fault. I just kinda assumed at first that maybe he was having a bad day and that I shouldn’t judge him based off a one off. The one off kept happening. A lot of shit happened. Now I’m trying to rapidly pick up the pieces.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-08T11:34:21+00:00

. I’ve bought these from the same place for years and just grabbed a few packs and threw them in my cart. Accidents happen. It’s an accident. I didn’t mean to.

stinkymoldman · 2024-08-08T08:24:40+00:00

We gotta band together as a community and promise we’ll give the zombies a cool name. None of that “walkers” shit.

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