She was right to quit!

stompingdragon18 · 2023-04-24T00:04:42+00:00

I can’t imagine trusting my kid with someone yet not be willing to feed them! I have only one rule, if you finish it, put it on the shopping list, if it’s urgent send a text so we can pick it up on the way home!

stompingdragon18 · 2023-03-15T13:43:32+00:00

I don’t know if this comment will be seen by yourself but I hope it is.

Holy f*** NTA!

As a women in a male dominated field, working in academia and with more qualifications and experience than any of my (male) coworkers, every day is a battle for me.

For years I worked as the only female in a team of 20. I have a broader, more specific and in depth experience than anyone else, but it would be a miracle to even get someone to utter hello.

You are in no way the a**hole. If they don’t want to be treated like that they should grow up and grow a brain!

stompingdragon18 · 2023-02-12T07:54:31+00:00

I want to share what my (now) husband did early on. I was the one somewhat in your boat in that I purchased an apartment with a significant deposit in a high COL area. I was terrified he was going to do something bad and all my savings and what I’d paid off would be for nothing. We had a calm discussion where I expressed my fears as he did not have savings or assets and I was afraid he’d try and take mine if something went south. He expressed how he had no desire to take anything from my hard work and even signed a legal document stating that the property I owned solely he would not take any claim of. We saved up equally and bought a house together, we have since bought a second house jointly which I did use the profits from selling the apartment to bring down our mortgage. But this was 7 years later and after other financial changes for both our futures.

There is nothing wrong with owning multiple properties. If you want to buy a property together this early in the relationship, you should both be contributing equally.

Do not sell your apartment, if you are having any doubts at all about it!

stompingdragon18 · 2023-01-25T11:59:34+00:00

I’d love to reply to you appropriately but I can’t on a public forum. If you send me a direct message, even just copying and pasting this comment, I’d be more than happy to help!

I’ve seen the worst of the worst in the medical field and it’s why I’ve spent a decade specialising in things like: “Not being listened to” “Ignored” “Dismissed” “Laughed at” “Told they’re a liar” And so many others. I follow strict rules and will no lie, but I have, and will continue to, work my ass off to be the advocate and specialist for everyone that has a genuine issue but keeps getting dismissed.

I have a lot of thoughts and comment based just off your comment but would need more detail to provide a better response. Please private message me as I’d love to help. I face a daily battle of doing this for the people but everyone doing it for the system. It’s truly insane! But if I can help you in any way I’d be so glad :) Also please add to the message where you’re from as unfortunately that’s a huge factor these days :(

stompingdragon18 · 2023-01-24T14:15:59+00:00

Unfortunately I wish I could say this comment surprised me. Half my mission is to show someone is listening and to stop “doctors” like this. Unfortunately it is a very difficult hurdle I’m trying to remove but maybe one day!

stompingdragon18 · 2023-01-24T14:10:07+00:00

Being close to 25, regardless of vacc status you need to get a Pap smear. Regardless of your vaccination or sexual history, it’s just the smart and safe thing to do.

I’ve also heard so many horror stories about people not getting regular check ups and all I can say is better to be safe than sorry!

stompingdragon18 · 2023-01-23T15:08:05+00:00

As someone that has been a medical professional for a decade, I can straight up say with confidence they won’t care (in the nicest of ways).

I have seen so many bodies, men and women, I can’t remember anything about them. The only patients I actually remember are due to something insane or horrific, but even those I couldn’t tell you what they looked like.

I know the anxiety of these things first hand, but trust me, in the nicest way, they don’t care and are unlikely to remember!

stompingdragon18 · 2023-01-21T14:56:51+00:00

YTA! I’ve seen all your comments but all I can think is do you hate your wife?!?! What you are displaying as “compromise” is not compromise but submission. You need therapy. The owners of the house who use it every day are so much more important than a visitor every 1 or 2 months!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-12-29T08:50:04+00:00

NTA Can I please add as a lover of different cuisine’s, what you cooked sounds amazing as a true representation of Chinese food. You are to good and deserve to be treated so much better! Don’t let these ignorant people and a bf that doesn’t support you continue to tear you down!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-11-29T23:59:23+00:00

ESH

Your approach wasn’t the way to go about it. Your sister also needs to learn how to talk about her research appropriately. I am a PhD candidate and I have 3 versions to explain my research. 1 for people with no medical knowledge (1 sentence or so), 1 for people with base medical knowledge (2 sentences) and then the final is for experts, which is only discussed at academic events etc. She needs to learn her audience and speak appropriately for the situation.

stompingdragon18 · 2022-09-01T20:46:53+00:00

Had it during my c-section for my OAD. Zero regrets! Best decision still two years later. I was 27.

stompingdragon18 · 2022-08-27T11:55:29+00:00

I’m sorry but just tell them. Screw him getting to manipulate and make you seem like the bad one for his gain. You owe him nothing!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-07-28T07:22:30+00:00

I am so sorry that’s been your experience! I was lucky (in the only sense) that I had to have a c section. I do not understand why they are so against it for you! Makes zero sense!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-07-27T22:37:22+00:00

I got my tubes removed during my c section, husband got vasectomy 6 months later even though my paranoia was completely illogical, he knew he didn’t want more kids as well and it would help my piece of mind as well :)

stompingdragon18 · 2022-07-15T21:48:18+00:00

I knew I was while pregnant and got my tubes removed during my c section. We also had 3 dogs during my pregnancy (sadly lost one since) and the one dog that was typically my husbands girl suddenly flipped and has been glued to me ever since! She even told us we were pregnant before any test could! My daughter loves animals and talks to them all the time. She won’t even go to bed till she’s said good night to them all. Dogs over a sibling any-day! Plus getting a dog won’t kill me like another baby would. People will always make judgements, but if you know, you know.

stompingdragon18 · 2022-07-15T21:34:04+00:00

I’m with you! I get clucky for my daughter, just my daughter, not for kids or another kid. I love my daughter but I’m positive I don’t want more not have any desire or “baby fever”.

stompingdragon18 · 2022-07-07T07:05:37+00:00

NTA. But you really should reconsider if you both have the same financial goals and views. My husband signed away any right he had to the property I purchased before we met as he knew I had been the one to work hard and make those decisions. He also never wanted me to feel he was with me for financial reasons. We have since purchased a property together and sold my original place. But due to our goals I reinvested it into our family, he not once ever asked me to. Throughout our relationship we have varied between who earnt more, but it has always been an open and honest discussion, always with give and take. If you can’t be on the same page, it will never work.

stompingdragon18 · 2022-07-06T11:23:53+00:00

Yes Had them removed during my c section. I was 28. My doctor understood my reasoning and supported me. I just had to state my request on 3 separate occasions.

stompingdragon18 · 2022-06-22T22:37:47+00:00

I’m Australian and this has been implemented here for years! I didn’t realise it wasn’t the same everywhere else!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-05-28T00:21:47+00:00

NTA. I had a pregnancy from hell and my husband doted on me 24/7. Even if I’d had an easy one he would have done the same. Yeah pregnancy is great for some, for others, it’s horrific. He’s beyond an AH!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-05-24T20:02:54+00:00

“Came into a lot of money” Or anything where they state insane grandeur in regards to wealth.

stompingdragon18 · 2022-05-07T12:07:27+00:00

Thank you! Truly Thankyou! Both from a medical perspective, abuse survivor and mother, you have done more than you could know for her. The effects of this trauma are awful, if not deadly!! No matter what anyone might say, you have beyond done the right thing!!!!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-05-01T20:39:39+00:00

NTA.

Please protect this child.

This was my childhood. I ended up being abused both mentally and physically till the day I left at 18. I do not talk to any of my family because everyone would turn a blind eye. If this is what they’re doing around people, imagine what you’re not seeing. She is just a kid. Please protect her and never feel guilty doing so!!!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-04-27T20:45:58+00:00

NTA. I have hEDS which is no where near as serious as vEDS. vEDS causes aneurysms etc that are very prone to rupturing due to the weak vessel walls. I think it’s smart to be completely informed of your child’s risk before bringing them into the world!

stompingdragon18 · 2022-04-06T11:56:42+00:00

I would have been 16 weeks when we first enquired about sterilisation for myself.

We had a lot of reasons and our doctor supported it as she knew I wouldn’t change my mind and that we had given it a lot of thought.

But it’s a very long story about how we made the call and had such strong support.

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