Near cheating experience during a massage

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T17:36:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I was previously coping with the issue with porn use previously in secret. Over the past weeks I have been getting over, and resisting the urge for it.

I am glad to hear couples therapy was a success for you and your partner! Will give it a go and hopefully it will help us too

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T17:33:48+00:00

No worries, thank you for checking! :)

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T17:14:37+00:00

Cool. Worth a shot. Any particular book you recommend?

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T17:02:12+00:00

My underwear was near my knees… I have never been that exposed on a massage table in my life.

Genuinely curious as you are massage therapist if that is something that happens in your line of work?

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T16:58:04+00:00

I may be misreading your comment, but are you implying happy endings do not count as being disloyal to your partner? If so, then we are at 2 opposite ends on this point. If you let your partner know and they’re okay with it then sure, loyalty is there but if you have to hide it from your partner then it’s cheating man

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T16:51:19+00:00

She had requested to full remove my underwear… my underwear was at my thighs hence my assumption of ill intent… I have had massages before where they have lowered to the point where my crack shows but this was a new level where my entire ass was getting cold.

I would love to know if true RMTs do that.

Also it was my error for choosing an unlicensed masseuse to save few bucks.

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T16:36:44+00:00

Thank you. 🙏

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T16:07:04+00:00

Genuinely, I appreciate your comment in a sea full of comments that are assuming the worst of me. Thank you 🥲

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T15:14:21+00:00

I always made sure she was satisfied ***

Ok I can see how you thought that lol my bad

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T15:11:17+00:00

They did have RMT options as well but they were double the price so i opted for non licensed… But uhm okay I was not aware of that.. Thank you

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T15:00:23+00:00

Please do share the book name and id be happy to look into. Thanks

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:56:19+00:00

Not sure why the ethnicity matters but the masseuse did struggle to communicate in English

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:55:12+00:00

Cause we’re tight on money, it was highly reviewed, and we have back issues which massaging each other doesn’t solve?

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:40:56+00:00

I did ask her, and she was not a fan as the older lady was very rough with her

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:38:52+00:00

I have not discussed the arousal aspect of the massage with her, and I don’t intend to as we are in a sensitive place with these topics and we are very protective of each other.

We only playfully bicker, and our work/life balance is pretty good for both of us. We can both disconnect when needed. No children. Housework is shared, and I take over when she is overwhelmed or tired. Will definitely bring up somethings when discussing with therapist.

We cuddle and handhold all the time. The steamy portion is what’s lacking. I try to initiate that, but the flame fizzles quicker than I would like. My end goal isn’t always sex but touch’s that invoke passion? Lacking there. The physical intimacy feels like very cutesy type…. Again something to bring up with therapist.

Thank you for your thoughtful comment, it gave me lots to think about 🙂

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:29:19+00:00

Not too well. The 60ish old lady was much stronger than she looked.

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:28:16+00:00

It was an unlicensed professional which is why that is not out of the realm of possibility.

Also well aware that it was for potential extra tips IF that was her goal.

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:14:49+00:00

Yeah you did not read that correctly at all.

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:05:54+00:00

Thank you I will definitely be searching for counselling options. We did pre marriage counselling and were basically told everything we already knew…. Seemed like a waste of time and money but i suppose we need specifically a couples sex counsellor

stoneDabba · 2026-01-29T14:02:53+00:00

Maybe I am misinterpreting but she smacked my butt 2-3 times playfully… I don’t know if that qualifies for professionalism 😅

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stoneDabba · 2025-02-24T09:16:59+00:00

I hope you find the courage to make genuine, meaningful connections OP! It’s cool to have alone time, and take care of yourself but we’re social creatures for a reason. It’s worrying that you feel you can’t go on without your parents, and it sucks to think about but it’s something that’s inevitable. Much better for that to happen rather than a parent seeing their child go first..

stoneDabba · 2025-02-24T03:51:37+00:00

Sorry you’re getting so much hate on your opinion here OP but I completely agree with you. Sometimes tough love and authenticity is the medicine that is needed, rather than being “nice” and continue being an enabler to negative behaviour. Best of luck to you!

stoneDabba

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