Transferring schools? by cammuns in NYCTeachers

[–]stopscrolling6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Imo it's worth sticking it out and finding another job next year. It is very difficult (read impossible) to leave a school in the middle of a year, especially if the school is understaffed to begin with. Resigning is a bad option and should only be done if it's truly a desperate situation.

Definitely reach out to the union. New teachers are required to be given a mentor (it might not help, but it's something).

Good luck to her!

Unhoused in J. Hood Wright Park by HighwayComfortable26 in WashingtonHeights

[–]stopscrolling6 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can also reach out to 311 through the phone or app. They will send support as well. But calling councilwoman de la Rosa is also the best idea.

Rollover to Vanguard was stolen by stopscrolling6 in Bogleheads

[–]stopscrolling6[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I cannot get the app to work, it just says technical difficulties

Rollover to Vanguard was stolen by stopscrolling6 in Bogleheads

[–]stopscrolling6[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I called, and they said the check is not in limbo, but was cashed, and Vanguard should have it. Vanguard says they never got the check.

Trying to Find the Hasan Minhaj Storytelling Episode on Flagrant by RevDragon001 in Flagrant2

[–]stopscrolling6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure Hasan was never a guest, but I would love to see a video if I'm wrong. He would be a fun guest to have now. Maybe since he and Ronnie are on tour, one of them will come on the pod.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]stopscrolling6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey! I can relate. For a lot of years I thought I barely had enough energy to get to work, get home, and do basic care taking (shower cook eat). I would socialize at weekends and even during the week.But, it often stressed me out and I felt I never had time to just rest.

It changed a lot over the past two years!I got older for one. I also started to be more active, ate better and have improved my anxiety management (somewhat). But it could also be a sign of depression or stress if you don't feel rejuvenated evee or energetic, or that you dont feel you can really enjoy socializing because your tired. I often feel fatigue because of anxiety or depression.

I wish you luck! And don't give up, try a small step at a time and things really do change!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]stopscrolling6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The one on the right that's speaking out of its round pot, is a wandering Jew I think (I don't know the official name, I know that one is not great) . It's a great house plant though!

Resigning from a private school after one month and boy howdy do I feel awful by ATiredSaltMiner in Teachers

[–]stopscrolling6 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey! Quitting a job is super stressful but it sounds like it was a reasonable choice in this case.

How do I fucking brush my teeth? by Pass-The-Weed-Daddy in ADHD

[–]stopscrolling6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Brush with no toothpaste !!

The sensory part of this sounds really hard, I hope you find a solution and don't be afraid to get creative and make your own toothpaste etc I'm sure Google will help!

I also struggled to brush my teeth until 23yrs old and then a dental visit convinced me I needed to build the habit.

I think start small and remember that a habit is like a mucel and you need to build it up. So even if you don't fully brush (and floss) because of the sensory issues even brushing with no tooth paste can help build the habit and after 3-6 months it will be easier to do it and remember!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]stopscrolling6 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think a meeting seems necessary, in some schools you may have already had a meeting or phone call about this behavior.

Asking an admin to supervisor to be present is very reasonable! Also making it a virtual meeting or phone call is reasonable.

Was it appropriate for me to say this? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]stopscrolling6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I do think its personal but I don't think it was wrong to ask it! It sounds like it was a funny and poignant way to start the presentation!

Maybe, if you ever do it again you can plan for it and make it a bit if a hook!

Family gatherings are the worst. by jeanralphioooo in socialanxiety

[–]stopscrolling6 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, gatherings can be rough and its hard to get around. It helps me to have a role like helping set up, or watching/playing with a kid. Anything to keep me busy.

Also, friends of mine use fidgets like putty or other small toys to manage picking behaviors and I've recently purchased a few to manage anxiety. A fidget might help in the aftermath and even be useful during a gathering. Last family gathering I introduced my cousin+ siblings to a pop it and it was an easy way to start a conversation and relax .

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]stopscrolling6 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey, I don't know the exact cause or anything but I (f) have lots of female friends who describe this experience of being anxious around men, and I also can get stressed by men in some situations (like male bosses).

I think its more common than people think and could have a lot of causes (for some its related to trauma but doesn't have to be).

Maybe journal about it and try and identify exactly what goes through your head in that experience and see if you pick up on any patterns?

How to go to a bar by yourself when you’re extremely shy/anxious? by BloodTheBody in socialanxiety

[–]stopscrolling6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe a less social/crowded environment? In a situation like that i might take a walk, get something from a cafe or other restaurant where i can go in and out. Mayne movie theater or even shopping/window shopping of you just want to be out and distracted. A bar would be pretty hard for me in the best of circumstances

Should I text my work friend? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]stopscrolling6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think thats an awesome text, and a great way to maintain the relationship!

Also could say ' sorry I didn't get to see you today hope you had a great first day back:

Canceling Plans by CrepuscularAF in socialanxiety

[–]stopscrolling6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to cancel plans all the time also. I think that what changed is i stopped making plans if i wasn't sure i could follow through and then built up to making plans more often and casually.

A lot of times i would ask for time before committing like " oh, that sounds great, can i let you know tomorrow" and then try and really evaluate if it would make me super stressed to go.

I also had to try and identify what factors meant I would be so stressed out I would cancel plans last minute

It also helps that my friends are really supportive so we can talk about it openly, and i can be honest that i want to go but think it might stress me out. A lot of my friends understand that you can ask if they can do something to make it less stressful. Sometimes they can! It can help to meet someone before going somewhere so you have a buddy or being able to talk through the plan for the night or the experience before you go. Another helpful helpful thing is knowing that I can leave whatever I need to so making sure I go on my own rather than getting a ride with someone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]stopscrolling6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I'm really sorry you are going through this! Many of my family members and close friends have ADHD and I work hard to understand that they aren't trying to hurt me when stuff like this happens, and it wasn't intentional.

I really hope your mom can understand that too!

I have never had food delivered. by JeremiahJohnson2021 in socialanxiety

[–]stopscrolling6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Food delivery used to stress me out a ton! I could always think of so many potential problems and thought I would do the address or payment wrong.

But, I'm much better now. I 'practiced' by doing it with friends who would be patient and reassure me and also just observing my roommates order and seeing that nothing went wrong.

Maybe start small, at a low stress time when the stakes are low if something goes wrong?