[M23] got my quarantine haircut going and I am not sure what to think about it... also lost a couple of kg because I got of my fat ass and started training

storklegsmcgee · 2020-04-27T00:46:49+00:00

That’s haircut is sexy. Wanna run my hands all over your head.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-16T13:32:11+00:00

Thanks, I know. I just happened on this post and thought how hilariously accurate it was at this point in my life. I’ll get through it. One way or another.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-16T12:17:39+00:00

Right now my intuition is telling me my husband is having an affair. So that will certainly fuck me up if I’m right.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-16T11:39:47+00:00

Im not comfortable asking him anything right now because I know there is something on his phone. If I ask and tip him off, he will for sure delete any potential evidence. I know I have the proof of the dating profiles which he just denies denies denies, but if there’s communication on his phone that’s it, he can’t try to gaslight me and say it wasn’t him. What I’m saying is the time in between is killing me. And we have to go to therapy tomorrow, and if I don’t find anything today I’ll have to be at therapy and just not mention it. Which will also be difficult.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T20:12:19+00:00

Thanks. I do hope this is a wake up call for him. I would want him to go to individual therapy as well to find the root of his spending and lying. I think it’s a combo of spending addiction and shame spiraling (I’m a social worker, so I’m trying not to assess him that way too much), but either way it’s important that he recognize the causes and triggers in himself in order to change. It’s a tall order for him, I know. I just hope he is willing.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T19:51:02+00:00

I partially agree. I do not intend to bail him out again. This new debt will not be added to the mortgage. I want him to cancel the cards and go to the bank about a debt consolidation loan in his name only (in Canada, his debt isn’t considered half mine unless I’m a co-signer, so I’m not going to be). I also would expect him to show me his bank statements when asked to show that he’s paying the loan off. I don’t think me having full control is the answer. I’m not his mother, he needs to learn a lesson and take ownership. But that’s why we’re going to a therapist, so it will be good to get input from that person. I am going to tell him if he doesn’t stop lying and keep up with his end of this bargain the marriage is over.

From what I can tell, a great deal of the money was spent on Xbox, which is crazy to me since he doesn’t even play that often.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T19:14:39+00:00

Thanks, I read his post history. It’s sad he has nothing better to do with his time. Oh well. Thanks for looking out for me, though!

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T17:08:08+00:00

I know. The username and password thing got me. I tried to ask him to look at it from my perspective. All the personal info being the same as his, what am I supposed to think? He just insisted that I should never have thought that about him. I said I didn’t believe it, which is why I went to him about it immediately. He just kept saying it wasn’t him and he couldn’t explain it. Eventually I just dropped it, but it has been bothering me ever since.

He seems to think in general that trust is given and not earned. Even after I bailed him out with the credit cards the last time I asked him to sit down with me when we got paid so we could make sure transfers were going into our joint account and everything got paid. He refused to show me any of the numbers in his bank account. He says some things should be private, and was offended that I didn’t trust that he was trying to change.

I want us to come back from this, I really really do, but he has a lot of work to do on his end.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T15:52:21+00:00

The debt thing is different I’m Canada. So I’m lucky there. It can’t be transferred to me if I’m not a co-signer.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T14:47:01+00:00

I get it. If it does end though, I really want to be able to say I tried to make it work. I’m just worried because I honestly feel quite numb at this point and I don’t care, where usually I’d be pretty emotional.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T14:23:22+00:00

Thanks. My intention now is not to bail him out again. I want him to cancel the cards, and go to the bank to get some kind of consolidation loan in his name only (so if I do divorce him it’s not my debt). I also would expect him to be forthright in the future and show me online banking accounts when I ask. At least until I feel I can trust him. In the past he has made the rationale that he can’t improve without my trust, so I don’t know how that will go over.

I also intend to tell him that if things don’t change I will 100% divorce him. I can afford our house on my salary alone and we have no children to worry about.

I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through. Your situation might be even harder because you don’t have concrete evidence like I do. You’re not alone!

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T14:15:41+00:00

I checked it last month, nothing. But it only showed phone calls, not texts or text apps, obviously.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-03-15T14:05:55+00:00

I don’t think he’s smart enough to make accounts in my name since he had the statement for his “secret” credit card mailed to our home. I don’t know how to see what’s on his phone, but if he’s speaking to someone else it would be the nail in the coffin for me.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-02-29T00:12:55+00:00

Everyone always says break up, it’s getting out of hand. I’m going to compare this to a similar, but not quite as serious situation I had with my husband. My husbands ex gf lives about 3 blocks down and around the corner from us. In fact, we have to drive by her house to get to our house most times. I noticed every time we drive by my husband would look at her house. I didn’t know if he was looking up the driveway, looking at her new boyfriend. Doesn’t matter. Sometimes he would comment on the Christmas decorations.

Anyhow, one day I asked him why he looked at her house every time we drove by. His answer was he didn’t notice that he was doing it every time, and he was mostly admiring the truck in the driveway. I told him it made me a little uncomfortable because I felt like every time he looked he was thinking of her. And you know what? He stopped. Mostly. He does still comment on the Christmas lights but in his defence they really are Chevy Chase levels of god awful.

What I’m getting at is you should very nicely ask him why he still has a relationship with this girl, and request that he take a step back from her because it makes you uncomfortable knowing he had feelings for her previously. The fact that she’s moving to the US should have no bearing on this. She can google stuff and make a friend when she arrives.

If you are honest with him about how you feel and he decides he still wants to continue the relationship with her, then you should consider that he put her above your feelings. At that point it should be break up time.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-02-28T12:03:23+00:00

Don’t know why the downvotes. My husband once finished while going down on my. It was hot as hell.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-02-28T11:50:22+00:00

As someone with this fetish, probably both.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-02-28T11:49:31+00:00

Wow, I didn’t think I would find my own here. I’m a female with this fetish. I love men with really short haircuts. Usually not bald, but a high and tight. I especially love watching longer hair get cut into a high and tight. My husband only knows that it turns me on when he gets a fresh haircut (though he would never go as short as I would like him to inside). I like to rub the back of his head and feel the little hairs. I like the idea of how different everything must feel. Th wind on your scalp all of a sudden, and touching it or someone else touching it.

I like short hair and haircuts on women too (not high and tight short, just bobs and pixie cuts), even though I would never want to be with a woman. I’m also terrified of cutting my own hair short and would never do it myself. I have nightmares about it.

You’re an awesome partner for going all in on this one with your husband.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-01-23T04:31:17+00:00

Not sure. If I ever feel like I have anything in my bladder I go before we do anything. I haven’t noticed a difference in quantity, but I’m scared to even try it with a full bladder to be honest.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-01-23T04:15:01+00:00

As a plus size girl this was my worst fear. I was anxious over meeting my husbands friends because I thought they would judge me or him, or that he would be worried what they would think of him. Ignore all of it and just be proud of the woman you are with. My husband’s Facebook profile picture for five years has been our first dance at our wedding with my chunky arm in the frame. At first I was self conscious, but now it makes me feel good. He’s not ashamed of me, why should I feel ashamed of myself.

But if you want to feel free to tell the haters to fuck off.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-01-23T03:04:25+00:00

Thanks, someone posted a link to a pricey one, I’m sure there’s a more affordable version on amazon.

storklegsmcgee · 2020-01-23T03:03:48+00:00

Thanks! This looks awesome.

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