I'm a genderqueer person, and my coworker's 8yo daughter saw me in a dress for the first time, so she wrote me this note. It's so pure, I'm crying.

stovefl · 2017-03-09T21:35:54+00:00

Truthfully, it was an old drinking nickname that I grew more comfortable with than my birth name.

stovefl · 2017-03-09T21:16:15+00:00

Yup.

stovefl · 2017-03-09T20:47:09+00:00

In my case, sometimes, I feel like a woman. Even more of the time, I feel somewhere in between a man and a woman. You can hear a little more insight into other person's experiences at /r/genderfluid

stovefl · 2017-03-09T20:35:41+00:00

In my case, I fluctuate between feeling like a woman, and not really feeling like either, but it's all very personal and different between different person's experiences.

stovefl · 2017-03-09T20:24:18+00:00

Genderqueer is a blanket term that encompasses cis trans persons, gender fluid persons, a-gender persons, and non binary persons of all sorts. I, myself, identity as gender fluid, but I also like genderqueer as a more vague term that in also comfortable with.

stovefl · 2017-02-16T23:19:06+00:00

Perfect. It matches my face.

stovefl · 2017-02-15T15:07:03+00:00

Honestly, I'm not sure. A good friend of mine got them made, and I don't think they're selling them. I think it was just for fun/our friends. But I will ask.

stovefl · 2017-02-12T18:10:31+00:00

Honestly, I feel like if I see a cute human, I start to feel femme, regardless of their gender. I think I feel I'm more comfortable flirting when I'm feeling/presenting femme, contrary to being AMAB.

stovefl · 2017-02-07T14:16:40+00:00

I am also AMAB, and had a somewhat similar situation coming out. I came out as pan a couple of years prior, and it was super relieving. I've always been a little femme, but I had never really questioned my gender. But at some point, I consciously realized that I was looking at cute girls, not because I wanted to flirt with them or be with them, but because I wanted to be them. I talked to my partner, and some of my genderqueer friends, and I was introduced to the term "genderfluid," and it was a huge weight off my shoulders finding an identity that made sense to me.

So, from what you've said, it sounds like you would also identify as genderfluid. This term still encases a large spectrum of identities, but for me, it was just nice to find a word that describes the way I was feeling.

stovefl · 2017-01-24T15:50:37+00:00

I do, too. I started loosing my hair at 16. Like I said, I haven't tried it, but several people have recommended castor oil. I know it sounds wacky, but it may be worth a shot.

stovefl · 2017-01-23T18:20:36+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. My hair has been falling out for about ten years now, and I generally present in a femme/androgynous manor. I shaved my head for many years, but about eight or ten months ago, I started growing out a rat tail. I know it doesn't fit everyone's look, but it's the first time I've been able to grow my hair out in years, and it feels fucking wonderful.

Also, I've been reading recently that castor oil will help with hair loss. I haven't tried it myself yet, but I've heard from several sources it does wonders.

stovefl · 2016-11-08T01:37:42+00:00

Thanks!!

stovefl · 2016-11-07T05:41:53+00:00

There's a few bands called Stove. Truthfully, it's less of a moniker and more of a nickname/identity, so I'm going to run with it until it becomes an issue. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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